Sex with friends

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by lvcock, Dec 2, 2011.

  1. lvcock

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    Hey guys. Just want to take a poll. Is there anything wrong with having sex with friends. Not like f-ing but everything else. Does it change the relationship between each other?
     
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    if all are single it should go okay, however feelings can develop and then there can be trouble down the line. threesomes with other coulles are dicy too as feelings are easily evoked. your package however should render gratitude from all
     
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    Thanks for the response. There is another couples and we've been wanting to fool around with them but afraid it might ruin our relationship. There is an attraction between us though and we all are close. We have talked about it in drunken states too. I think it would fun and feel like I would have to make the first move.
     
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    Is there anything wrong with it? Provided everyone involved is a consenting adult and agrees to it, I can't imagine why it'd be wrong. Does it change the relationship? It depends on what the relationship was like before you started having sex but, yeah, it'll almost always change things.

    Not everyone can divorce sex from emotion, nor is everyone capable of handling a purely casual sexual relationship. Consider the ramifications, measure the potential loss against the expected gain, and know what you're getting into before following your libido into a "Charge of the Light Brigade".
     
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    Thanks Sword_of_Damocles for the response. Yea we joke about it and then one of us says it would make things weird. I guess we shouldn't take that leap for now. I know I could handle it emotionally but not sure about the other guys. Haha
     
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    Take it from experience, sex with friends is not a good idea. It will forever change the relationship. Even mutual jo while watching porn. If you treasure your friendship and know that there is no romantic feelings, don't do it.
     
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    When I was much younger (late teens/early 20s) I really didn't have any sharp lines between friends, friends with benefits and fuck buds. But by the age of 25 or so, the lines got much sharper and were rarely if ever crossed. I've always considered part of my maturing.
     
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    nothing inherently wrong, no...plenty that can GO wrong if not everyone's on the same page (or start out on the same page but drift to different pages over the course of it, lol).
     
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    Hey guys...thanks for the comments and opinions. It has been real helpful. I'm not going to venture down this road. I value our friendship too much and wouldn't want it to change.
     
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    You can have fun talking about it though (sex generally, not specifically with them :biggrin1:)!
     
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    Exie, you are a friend, right?;)
     
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    In the case of my friends, our relationship changed just because they knew I was gay. Well, not all of them, but ironically only with my closest friends. So, yeah...
     
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    yea...this another gay couple. they have threesomes and so do we. we have joked about us 4 fooling around but it hasn't happened. i guess that a good thing. haha
     
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    Friends with benefits is a very good thing...if both parties don't start investing emotions into it, and just enjoy the friendship and the sex. I have some, and I enjoy them...for me, best to keep them casual and not meet every week or less because then it starts to feel more like dating and less as FWBs.
     
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