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I've been seeing this girl for a little while now. We met last summer at a party, went on a couple of dates, it's been a slow build for a while but finally now we're seeing each other regularly and getting intimate. She's quite a bit younger than me (I'm 32, she's 22) but I'm really happy with how everything is going. When it comes to sex we've been having some fun, but I've noticed that our approaches are a bit different. She's a much more gentle lover than I am, I like to "fuck" more so than "make love". But she's admitted that it seems like I'm better at sex than she is, and last night when she went down on me it was evident she hasn't had much experience doing that.

What I'm wondering is if anyone's been in this type of situation where one person has more sexual experience than the other? And how they balanced the scales so that everyone involved was having a great time, without being rude or coming off cocky.

If it helps, these are the main issues:
-In missionary, I find that I can't go as hard as I want, I have to keep it pretty chill for her instead of building up the intensity.
-She didn't quite seem to know what to do with my cock when she went down on me.
-When I ask if she wants to change positions she seems a bit shy. I always reassure her that we don't have to do anything she doesn't want to.

Thanks for reading and I look forward to your replies :)
 
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I've been seeing this girl for a little while now. We met last summer at a party, went on a couple of dates, it's been a slow build for a while but finally now we're seeing each other regularly and getting intimate. She's quite a bit younger than me (I'm 32, she's 22) but I'm really happy with how everything is going. When it comes to sex we've been having some fun, but I've noticed that our approaches are a bit different. She's a much more gentle lover than I am, I like to "fuck" more so than "make love". But she's admitted that it seems like I'm better at sex than she is, and last night when she went down on me it was evident she hasn't had much experience doing that.

What I'm wondering is if anyone's been in this type of situation where one person has more sexual experience than the other? And how they balanced the scales so that everyone involved was having a great time, without being rude or coming off cocky.

If it helps, these are the main issues:
-In missionary, I find that I can't go as hard as I want, I have to keep it pretty chill for her instead of building up the intensity.
-She didn't quite seem to know what to do with my cock when she went down on me.
-When I ask if she wants to change positions she seems a bit shy. I always reassure her that we don't have to do anything she doesn't want to.

Thanks for reading and I look forward to your replies :)
Have you watched any porn with her? If she would be interested in watching, it may show her the way.
 

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I married a virgin. I was not that experienced in actual intercourse. We learned together. It was great from the aspect that I told her what I wanted and liked, and encouraged her to do the same. There were times when she was hesitant.
 

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The first thing to say is that it's good that you communicate. The more the better while you're learning what each other likes and not.

Missionary. It sounds like she has already slowed you down during mish. It's good that she communicated that to you. You need to ask if it's because it hurts or if she just likes it slow. That tempo may not build the intensity for you but it may for her. Nothing wrong with a long, slow gentle fuck. Sometimes you just want to fuck? Ask her if she ever just wants to fuck. I remember making love to a girlfriend several times only to learn she loved quickies, too. But I didn't learn it until I had a quickie with her, told her it was all I wanted and she said she liked them. Only then did she start doing the same when it was all she wanted.

Oral sex. She may not be good at it because it's new to her and she needs practice. It may also be that she doesn't like it. Many women don't and won't. It could be that your junk stinks and needs to be cleaner or she just doesn't like the taste and texture.

Changing positions. Maybe she doesn't want to change because she likes what you're already doing. It's good that you ask but try telling her instead. My experience with the inexperienced is that they often expect me to lead. This is the perfect segue to:

Balance. This depends completely on the individual. Some women are very passive in bed, some very active, some want to be dominated and taken, others want what they want when they want it, some start slow and finish fast, others start fast and slow down, tempo may change all over the place and all this may happen with the same woman at different times.

Overall. My experience with the inexperienced is that over time they become more comfortable, assert themselves and want to try new things and different positions and sex furniture and bondage. I just have to be patient and allow them to experience being together. Sometimes a neophyte cocksucker is just a mind-blowing-head apprentice in training. I like letting a newbie explore my body in her own time.

Caution. She may not be inexperienced at all. :cool:
 

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I've been seeing this girl for a little while now. We met last summer at a party, went on a couple of dates, it's been a slow build for a while but finally now we're seeing each other regularly and getting intimate. She's quite a bit younger than me (I'm 32, she's 22) but I'm really happy with how everything is going. When it comes to sex we've been having some fun, but I've noticed that our approaches are a bit different. She's a much more gentle lover than I am, I like to "fuck" more so than "make love". But she's admitted that it seems like I'm better at sex than she is, and last night when she went down on me it was evident she hasn't had much experience doing that.

What I'm wondering is if anyone's been in this type of situation where one person has more sexual experience than the other? And how they balanced the scales so that everyone involved was having a great time, without being rude or coming off cocky.

If it helps, these are the main issues:
-In missionary, I find that I can't go as hard as I want, I have to keep it pretty chill for her instead of building up the intensity.
-She didn't quite seem to know what to do with my cock when she went down on me.
-When I ask if she wants to change positions she seems a bit shy. I always reassure her that we don't have to do anything she doesn't want to.

Thanks for reading and I look forward to your replies :)
I don't see anything bad that one partner has more experience in sex. Especially, when 10 years difference in ages. I would recommend to experiment with different toys and to make your sex life more sensual. Help her to loossen up
 

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Indeed, it is not good when you can not get complete satisfaction of sex. Maybe she doesn’t feel confident with you? Or maybe you just need to help her to loosen up. For example, I love to experiment with different toys. My favorite is We Vibe Chorus. [Moderator edit: Removing advertising] I can say it really brings you to a new level of sex life. Just try to begin conversation about it. Try to show her that she doesn’t need to be shy with you. Also, you can experiment with lubricants. I prefer coconut lubricant. It draws you in with a naturally pleasant fragrance. You need to take the situation in your hands. Try to be sincere with her and then you’ll get 100% of pleasure.
 
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