Sex with men vs Sex with women

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So I met a cute guy last week who is basically bisexual but he stopped seeing women because he couldnt cope with the baggage that they came with. Whilst I would like to date him, it seems to me like he's having sex with men merely for some sexual relief because he cant be bothered with women anymore.

I'm wondering whether its worth persuing anything with this guy because he doesnt seem up for a relationship with a guy outside random hookups. a real shame
 

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It might be or it might not be a good idea.

If it's going to be a relationship, you will know more about the value of your time with this guy, than anyone else will ?

Well i've been upfront with the guy, explained what I'm feeling and what I'm after so its up to him to think about just what he really wants from a guy and if he can actually be open to a relationship. this is why bisexuality can be such a head fuck lol
 

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Sounds to me like hes trying to protect himself. Maybe he has been hurt in a previous relationship and it has not healed yet, so hes not ready to move on yet. I would say at least give it a go, but don't expect too much. Get to know him, find out his secrets ;} That's love, it's tricky and confusing at times, but really pays off once you get it right.
 

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So I met a cute guy last week who is basically bisexual but he stopped seeing women because he couldnt cope with the baggage that they came with. Whilst I would like to date him, it seems to me like he's having sex with men merely for some sexual relief because he cant be bothered with women anymore.

I'm wondering whether its worth persuing anything with this guy because he doesnt seem up for a relationship with a guy outside random hookups. a real shame

Don't chase after a man/woman that isn't chasing you.


 

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Some guys, like me for instance, who really enjoy male/male sexual interaction just aren't wired for a romantic, loving relationship with another guy. My own interest in man-sex is highly cock focused, principally oral and entirely hedonistic in nature. That's not to say, however, that my partner(s) and I can't be profoundly good friends .... indeed, that is much preferred by me. So it's just a matter of what the depth of the relationship will be for each of the partners, and everyone is unique in that regard. I would think that it is certainly worth pursuing, but as StormyB points out, don't set your hopes to high.
 

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Relationship? When your "briefcase" runs empty , he shall seek the "baggage" once more... Got it?
 

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Jerkitout, based on your post, he's not dating women for some reasons and he's not dating men for other reasons. He basically sounds like he's not into dating. He's probably at some point in his life where it doesn't make sense for him.
 

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Jerkitout, based on your post, he's not dating women for some reasons and he's not dating men for other reasons. He basically sounds like he's not into dating. He's probably at some point in his life where it doesn't make sense for him.

great interpretation. wish i had known this earlier. also the problem with chatting online for so long before you actually meet up...you feel like you know them quite well. anyways i've not heard anything back from him so me opening up my feelings was enough to make him bolt!
 

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I once had a relationship with a guy that was very bi. I think I might have been his first male relationship. He called it dating but trust me, it wasn't dating. It was strictly a booty call that went on for more than a year. Great sex though. The point is, after he became more experienced, he is open to having a real relationship (not with me) but with someone.