Hi,
There are some solid perspectives being shared with you on this thread but I would invite you to do a bit more of your own honest introspection as you proceed with this situation.
For starters, you say that you aren’t in love with this guy and that it’s sort of casual.
No, it’s not.
I’m sure you aren’t in love, but go back and read some of the many wonderful traits you have described him as having - hell, one of your posts almost made me think I had a crush on the guy -. The nature of your 3-way friendship is way past casual so theres no way I’m believing the sex is just a release. Add to that, you are here seeking the counsel of others on what to do about this ‘situationship’.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with any of this but these actions belie the ‘casual’ context you attempted to frame this in.
Look, you like the guy. Fwiw, he sounds like a great guy. But I would caution you to be careful. He may eventually come around and embrace this part of himself fully, but he also may not. As well, you may think you know everything about the dynamics of their relationship but you do not. You can not. No third party could.
I’ll leave with this: single people don’t usually stop dating around because they found one involved person to have sex with. They usually stop dating around because their heart has found something it’s seeking in this(involved) person. Even if their mind/ego are telling them otherwise….
Good luck and again, be careful and be sure to protect your feelings in all this.
There are some solid perspectives being shared with you on this thread but I would invite you to do a bit more of your own honest introspection as you proceed with this situation.
For starters, you say that you aren’t in love with this guy and that it’s sort of casual.
No, it’s not.
I’m sure you aren’t in love, but go back and read some of the many wonderful traits you have described him as having - hell, one of your posts almost made me think I had a crush on the guy -. The nature of your 3-way friendship is way past casual so theres no way I’m believing the sex is just a release. Add to that, you are here seeking the counsel of others on what to do about this ‘situationship’.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with any of this but these actions belie the ‘casual’ context you attempted to frame this in.
Look, you like the guy. Fwiw, he sounds like a great guy. But I would caution you to be careful. He may eventually come around and embrace this part of himself fully, but he also may not. As well, you may think you know everything about the dynamics of their relationship but you do not. You can not. No third party could.
I’ll leave with this: single people don’t usually stop dating around because they found one involved person to have sex with. They usually stop dating around because their heart has found something it’s seeking in this(involved) person. Even if their mind/ego are telling them otherwise….
Good luck and again, be careful and be sure to protect your feelings in all this.