Sex with the Ex

[B_Nick8]

If I break up with someone, then *most often* something has seriously malfunctioned in our relationship. I'm not going to love someone if they have gone behind my back and slept with a bunch of random people. That's pretty hurtful, and I don't want that kind of person in my life, ya know?

I do know. And I'm not saying I'm not smart enough to leave a relationship that's proved damaging or toxic to me.

However, once I no longer care who they're sleeping with (ie: when I really have moved on) I generally remember most what it was that made me love them in the first place: their humor, intelligence, compassion...whatever.

And at that point it becomes both possible and desirable to become the friends we should be. Frankly, it's the best of all worlds.

My best friend always marvels at this. In fact he recently told me he thinks I'm in relationships just so they can become my ex (although 7 years seems to be a lot of foreplay) because that's when I like them most anyway. :wink:

 

[helgaleena]

Nick8, you are a prince.

 

[Yorkylass]

I hav a couple of times. And they were completely contrasting experiences. One was great like a bit of fun to remind us all the great time we had together and we took it for wat it was, just a bit of fun

but the other time, it just dragged up old feelings ( his mostly ) and things got ugly and only made the situation between us even worse

 

[B_New End]

Sometimes were OK, some were very empty. I had sex on and off with my ex for about 2 years after we broke up. I really remember the worst time when she was housesitting. It was terrible, we started out the night bickering, I almost left, but we were horny, ended up being a lousy and difficult session.

It was never as good as when we were actually in the relationship.