Sex without intimacy

[iamjustme65]

Backstory... before Covid I use to travel for business 2 or 3 times a year to several cities where I knew absolutely no one.
I have lived my life as a straight male, but I always knew I had interest in sexual connections with males. But have never done anything for a very-very long time.
On these trips I wanted to go to a gay bar and see if I met someone and could engage this side of me. But I have zero interest in any kind of intimacy with a male. I only feel that way towards females. I have no interest in kissing/hugging/etc. None.
But pure sex with zero of any of that - I am up for it.
Question for gay men here - if you were approached like this and someone said that to you - would you be offended?
Is this a thing?
Mostly now I satisfy these urges with c2c masturbating etc. with men. I love that. A lot. And would very much like to engage in that IRL. But have no idea how it would be received?

Cheers

 

[artboyd]

I think you're looking for what 90% of men look for when hooking up: Get off and good bye. In my experience this is the very definition of most hookup encounters. It's very likely that the other guy you're trying to ask wants the same as you so, go for it and try it. It's a lot more complicated if you want an actual relationship.

 

[BulgeGuySD]

I can’t be nor treated it line a sex machine,…. “particularly to me” does not appeal nor satisfy me.
Even if is just sex it has to be the human connection, the kissing, touching caressing each other that make the sex worth it,
(not a criticism) I just feel the sex with out connection is just selfish, spectating to use a human being to satisfy or fulfill sexual urges with out thinking about the other person,
regardless who is the giver or the taker.
For me.. I don’t care how hot the guy is, or the size of his cock could be the must gorgeous guy, with the hottest ass and cock, if he is not into for some sore of connection I’l pass on that.
But I’m sure there is a lot of people the would like that sore of thing, “ just my opinion”

 

[iamjustme65]

Thanks both of you for answering, and BulgeGuySD.. that is why I ask.
I have a sexual attraction to some men, not new for me. So this isn't a porn induced thing etc.
But, I am only able to feel that romantic attraction to females. It just isn't in me for males.
I would hate to finish out my life and not be able to satisfy that urge mutually, but no... there would be zero chance of a connection beyond sexual.

 

[beginner63]

I usually meet married guys and it’s all about the sex without intimacy.

 

[BulgeGuySD]

Thanks both of you for answering, and BulgeGuySD.. that is why I ask.
I have a sexual attraction to some men, not new for me. So this isn't a porn induced thing etc.
But, I am only able to feel that romantic attraction to females. It just isn't in me for males.
I would hate to finish out my life and not be able to satisfy that urge mutually, but no... there would be zero chance of a connection beyond sexual.

understood and I respect that. I spoke from experience. I came across to a gorgeous guy call him self “Bi” .. and every time we got together he was so relaten to kiss me, and avoiding any sing of intimacy, he love my manhood and he have everything I love about man physically… until I told him the even though the sex was great but I felt like a robot.. and the it wasn’t fulfilling for me.. he disappear for a while, then wen we saw each other again, it was completely diferente, I felt as he was so into me, he kiss me seem like now we have connection.. but I knew it wasn’t going to be for long, he have a lot of issues to work on the area of self acceptance..so I pull out completely… I don’t need that on my shoulders, grate guy and all.. but there so many others with less issues.. beside I’m married and that is a lot to deal with. I don’t need drama.

 

[dreambridger]

for the post part, I prefer sex without intimacy, unless there's a specific chemistry that lends itself to intimacy. Sexual attraction is much more common for me than an intimate connection is. It's also much more emotionally safe to keep intimacy out of the equation.

 

[WadWorshipper]

Our situations are pretty close. I first started exploring my desire for being with young men when I was on business trips. I was anonymous in these locales and could explore what I liked though married at home. I could do as little or as much as I liked, or felt comfortable with. I obviously was NOT looking for any attachment nor relationship, just a few hours of hot fun. I've certainly been with (legal) boys that wanted no kissing, and just wanted me to fuck the cum out of them, but I've always preferred the bonus of young men that also wanted plenty of deep kissing, foreplay, touching and contact as we made good use of my hotel room. But I easily understand you desiring just a sexual outlet: makes perfect sense to me!