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  1. tomscotto62

    tomscotto62 New Member

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    i love to have sex with my wife she is 28 and i am 49 we met 5 yearsago and married for 3and a half we use to have th best sex we both loved it every night but in the last few years it seems like i am the only one who looks forward to it every night i work real hrd with alot of stress while she lives a queens life every day the gym does what ever she feels like the rest of the time she never has to pay a bill or worrrie about i do everything for her and she lives a great life always has money what ever she wants when we met i had a ton of money but i went thur some tough time not that she ever felt it i am the most non selfish person in the world i will go with ont so she can have everything she wants only has to ask 1 time i treat her like a queen , but she is so selfish with me i dont know how to handle the pain anymore i have to beg for sex and she always stops half way and says she is tierd but i do like to have sex for hours but during i tell her so many sweet things and so nise to her , i dont know if she does not like me or she is just to lazy its starting to really make me sick i dont feel good anymore i take everything so hard i tell her all the time how she is making feel and that she is hurting me really bad she just does not care telling me im nutsor 3 years ago you did that gets mad turns over andgoes to sleep the next mornig she acts like everything is fine she is just such a mean person only to me to everyone else she is miss sweet it likei just come last and i dont count by the way i never cum any more i have to watch porno every night to try and cum most of the time i dont she has my head so messed up and i always take care of her and i alwaya do my best i eat her so good all the time that the only way i feel like a man she loves it and then says i killed her and she has to go to sleep , by the way we have a 1 and a half year old baby , which see has a 50 hour a week nanny and house keeper i never have any dinner unless i make it or the house keeper any one have and idear what to do ? i love her so much but i dont like her as a person i cry every night when she just turns over and goes to sleep
     
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    B_Jordan85 New Member

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    separate your paragraphs - no one will read this
     
  3. TripHammer

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    ditto Jordan85 -- i could only ingest the first line and the last line -- everything else is a blur.
     
  4. GayFrog

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    There is much more to a relationship than showering your partner/spouse with gifts and having sex every night. Sounds to me from what I can gather, the marriage is on the rocks and your love for her is shown only through what you can buy her or provide her with. This does not meet her needs and desires and is reflected in the way she treats you. When a relationship starts to come unglued the sex is the first thing to suffer.
    Not to sound mean, I would be wondering what is going on when you are not at home. The little wife may be getting her puff powdered elsewhere. When a partner/spouse withholds sex on an on going basis there is always an underlying reason, and being tired or having a headache is her way to justify not wanting your advances.
    The first line of defense is communication and that seems to be lacking here. You need to look at this situation from a new perspective and don't let your love for her blind you. Do not be confrontational; just be honest with her and yourself about what each of you expect from the other and how each of you are feeling about the course the marriage has taken.
    There are marriage councilors available in your area and if you feel the two of you cannot work it out on your own and you wish to save your marriage it would be wise to contact one.

    Good Luck.
     
  5. willow78

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    My post is stream-of-thought so it's a bit all over the place.....

    I managed to get through the whole first post and I heard so many warning bells. She sounds like a gold-digging bitch - dump her! You tell her you love her you do a lot of nice things for her - even hiring a 50-hour-a-week nanny even though she does nothing all day. You have to beg for sex and she makes you feel miserable - you need to stand up to her and walk away. Hate to sound mean but you come across as a bit of a push-over and she's taken advantage of it. You are willing to suffer and go without just to make sure she has everything she WANTS? She sounds like a spoilt princess - send her back to her mother! Do you really want your child to grow up thinking that's how to treat/be treated? Surely the pussy can't be so great that you'd put up with such nonsense. This relationship sounds like a one-way-street. You don't seem to be getting any satisfaction in any area of it. All you do is give and all she does is take. You need to stand up for yourself and stop taking her bullshit. Leave with pride.
     
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    Wow - let me take a panadol to clear my head. but at least before I do that - let me say welcome.
     
  7. Da_Man_I_Is

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    I'm with Gayfrog on this one dude.

    There is so much more to a relationship than just sex. When you're not having sex or showering her with gifts, how do you spend your time? Do you talk? Are you friends? Do you share common interests?

    There is always more going on than just the one side too - have you asked her how she's feeling about your 'relationship'? When me and my wife got together, there was so much more sex than we have now, but it's not the most important thing in the world, and we've both realised that. The main thing you've focussed on is sex. Maybe she wants more and that's all you're focussing on?

    So much floating around in my head on this, but I'll leave it at that, and please, spplit up your sentences/paragraphs.
     
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    If you treat your significant other like a queen, give her everything she wants and do everything for her, don't be surprised to be treated like the help. Relationships take work and that work must come from both sides. Pull back from giving her everything. Let her know you expect her to put some effort into the relationship - and I don't mean just in the bedroom - and take some responsibility for it. It is important that, even if you are the only one "bringing home the bacon", both of you need to feel like equals. Your behavior is reaffirming that she is more special than you and she may be starting to believe it.
     
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