Sexless ?...that would be me. Baby born this past spring (our second child together, we've been married 12 years). From date of conception until today, we've had sex 3 times - that's 3 times in 15 months. She says she has little interest, is tired, several excuses each month. I'm ready to give up as I'm the kind of guy that's read all the help books, and do 90% of the household cooking, cleaning, laundry and major bread earner. I share the baby duties throughout the day/night. I've shed some 20 pounds over the past year to get healthier and back to my high school weight. She has no interest...the more I make advances, romantic suggestions, she shrugs them off and says "don't make plans, you get upset when they don't happen"...I end up jackin' off late at night after she's gone to sleep just to keep from going totally insane.
It's not been just since this last child...over the past 5 years of our marriage we've gone for 3-4 times a month to let's say an average of 5-6 times a year. Once we start, she's totally into it, cums a bunch of times and then the next day or week, zip -she doesn't think about it anymore. I give massages to her a few times a week, compliment her clothing/hair, the parenting she does, buy her gifts....heck I got a vasectomy (it was her suggestion and I gladly got it done, thinking it would improve our sex life) in September since we didn't want any more kids (her 34, me 45) and that hasn't improved anything...if fact, I've done all the "emptying of the pipes" solo.
It's a horrible cycle, I get excited about a nice weekend, perhaps a lovely evening will happen...then she shows zero interest or falls asleep watching tv...next morning I'm pissed and pretty much all matter of fact with her on all matters. She realizes this and says I plan too much, I'm always looking for sex and always get moody this when nothing happens...the circle continues, month after month...on and on and on...
Heck, every X-mas and Anniversary I'd buy her something nice from Victoria's Secret - not super slutty, just sexy - all these gifts hang in the back of her closest now...some still have the tags on them.
Sexless marriage - yep, I know it well.