Dollydud
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...All jokes and snarky comments aside:
Ockham's Razor, "the simplest explanation is usually the correct one."
You'd be surprised how deep our fundamental instinctive needs are attached too survival. Women need a safe place to raise kids and nurture the family unit. Just knowing they are provided for and given this protection and safe space is essential. For example:Before giving birth women "nest" at home. This maternal instinct is always there. women need to feel it's okay for them to be women. Cards and flowers won't suffice.
Just like men NEED to feel it's okay for them to be men . Which is exactly what we are discussing... the need for SEX is a male/ masculine instinctive. And Just how crucial it is to have needs met and if not it can disrupt a marriage/relationship dynamic .
Not to mention the unpleasant experience one goes through personally when their basic fundamentals needs are not met.
It takes a toll.
I think questioning her libido, & figuring out what turns her on and makes her "wet" is for sure biased and looking at a situation from a male perspective.
I understand it's like when women try to identify the issues but can't because really it's pretty complex. Like you married as a partner and are being treated as such, but essentially marriages / parenting/ & being in a long term relationship with one person takes hard work . Even with identified planned roles and responsibilities. Asking someone not to change for 5,10,20 years is asking A LOT.... it's the foundation and agreed upon stuff that hold it all together. One would think.
And just like you can't expect a males to label security as anything but being a good digger, you can't expect some females to understand the dynamic of what sex means to a man and his innate emotional need that's associated with it.
Anyways ... if you really want to discuss I'm open to ideas and also I'm not saying I'm certain. But I do see a trend and it's : relevant info is biased or omitted . Skimming over or briefly noting work and financial situations and children is also deliberate. So whatever I'll omit the details too and cut to the chase, the only way to salvage the relationships is to change it & make it better.
My advice, men make more money, let her feel secure and provided for : loved& safe . .
Women will appreciate a man when the dynamic is right, his needs (all of them) will too be met.
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We're talking about sexless marriages.. not gold diggers . That's an entirely different subject. Duh
Does your wife work? If so, why?
If not
-Do you work ? How's your financial situation? Do you provide and is she happy with the lifestyle life you've provided?
Sounds like there issues & usually the simplest explanation is the correct one.
Are you meeting her needs and fulfilling your role has a husband?
If so how well.
Start there . If your fulfilling her needs and she's not meeting yours or fulfilling her role/ taking you for granted: therapist asap.
Ockham's Razor, "the simplest explanation is usually the correct one."
You'd be surprised how deep our fundamental instinctive needs are attached too survival. Women need a safe place to raise kids and nurture the family unit. Just knowing they are provided for and given this protection and safe space is essential. For example:Before giving birth women "nest" at home. This maternal instinct is always there. women need to feel it's okay for them to be women. Cards and flowers won't suffice.
Just like men NEED to feel it's okay for them to be men . Which is exactly what we are discussing... the need for SEX is a male/ masculine instinctive. And Just how crucial it is to have needs met and if not it can disrupt a marriage/relationship dynamic .
Not to mention the unpleasant experience one goes through personally when their basic fundamentals needs are not met.
It takes a toll.
I think questioning her libido, & figuring out what turns her on and makes her "wet" is for sure biased and looking at a situation from a male perspective.
I understand it's like when women try to identify the issues but can't because really it's pretty complex. Like you married as a partner and are being treated as such, but essentially marriages / parenting/ & being in a long term relationship with one person takes hard work . Even with identified planned roles and responsibilities. Asking someone not to change for 5,10,20 years is asking A LOT.... it's the foundation and agreed upon stuff that hold it all together. One would think.
And just like you can't expect a males to label security as anything but being a good digger, you can't expect some females to understand the dynamic of what sex means to a man and his innate emotional need that's associated with it.
Anyways ... if you really want to discuss I'm open to ideas and also I'm not saying I'm certain. But I do see a trend and it's : relevant info is biased or omitted . Skimming over or briefly noting work and financial situations and children is also deliberate. So whatever I'll omit the details too and cut to the chase, the only way to salvage the relationships is to change it & make it better.
My advice, men make more money, let her feel secure and provided for : loved& safe . .
Women will appreciate a man when the dynamic is right, his needs (all of them) will too be met.
.
We're talking about sexless marriages.. not gold diggers . That's an entirely different subject. Duh
Does your wife work? If so, why?
If not
-Do you work ? How's your financial situation? Do you provide and is she happy with the lifestyle life you've provided?
Sounds like there issues & usually the simplest explanation is the correct one.
Are you meeting her needs and fulfilling your role has a husband?
If so how well.
Start there . If your fulfilling her needs and she's not meeting yours or fulfilling her role/ taking you for granted: therapist asap.
this is pretty fun actually.
You'll have to explain this too me.
