There hasn’t been any harsh words towards anyone that has found an online relationship to compensate for the sexless marriage they are in but I imagine there may be. My thoughts are that before you judge someone you may want to check your qualifications. ( not trying to provoke)
I’ve been in a sexless marriage for over 6 years and I’ve never shied away from a difficult conversation. It isn’t that we don’t love each other but sometimes there are reasons that part of you goes dormant regardless of how sexually charged your SO is.
Menopause took every bit of our intimacy and left me standing out on the side of the road in a soaking rain. It didn’t just collapse in an instant but it was fairly quick. There has never been anything that made me question myself more than this. We talked and she sought help with her doc but we didn’t want to chance some of the risks.
I love her and will always respect her wishes when it comes to any of her feelings towards her health care. Thing is, you’re still a human with VERY strong human wants and desires. I don’t think I’ll ever support any physical relationships outside your own but I understand the overwhelming draw to have that deep intimacy with another completely.
I’ll never throw a stone at anyone that seeks an online intimacy if they are standing in the void with no likelihood of resurrection. I won’t encourage but I’ll understand. I’ve been there. You’ve done everything you should your whole marriage, you’re healthy, you’re lonely beyond words, and your horny. It’s the last part of your life and after while that part of you just starts to fade, dwindle, and die. The insult in the end is the question, what if she starts to recover after menopause to a healthy desire? Now I’ve lost interest in intimacy. What now?