Sexting Gone Wrong

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Hey y’all!

Hope everyone is staying safe amidst the craziness. Writing to unburden myself—about a month ago, I made a (very) clumsy pass at someone I occasionally work with (we’re both actors) by way of a less-than-subtle Instagram DM. I grossly misjudged the situation, I was emboldened by alcohol, and it was absolutely not the right thing to do. He clearly agreed, as he’s ignored my attempts at apology and instead alerted our mutual friend who runs the theatre company for which we’ve both worked.

I’ve been torturing myself for about a month since this happened, and I’m absolutely going insane. I’ve lost confidence in myself professionally, creatively, and as a human.

Has anyone else found themselves in a similar situation? Is there a way to atone?

 

[keenobserver]

Apologize, in person, sincerely, then this goes into the 'we will never speak of this again' file.
Explain your thoughts and actions and how you misread the situation. Take responsibility for it, be clear you will never let it happen again and go from there. Regardless of what he says or how he reacts, continue to work hard in your company and be professional. You rebuild people's confidence in you by your actions. Don't ever tell anyone about it, if someone else brings it up, don't explain or retell it. It is in the past, move forward.

We all make mistakes, we learn, we grow, we move forward.

Good luck, give yourself a break.

 

[halcyondays]

I'm usually the recipient of unwanted passes. I always accept apologies and say let's just go back to the way things were. This is usually accepted with relief. Some don't apologize for asking and that's okay too.

Don't torture yourself. Whether it was accepted or not you did the right thing by making amends.

 

[LilJock]

Forget about it as best as possible. You tried to give an apology; he chose to ignore it. Treat it as a lesson and move on.

Actually, he sounds like a shit. I've had many friends who've made asses of themselves. I didn't feel it was an opportunity to tell the world about it. And, I'm sure, friends have done the same for me.






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[Zyz]

We all cock up. I guess the most important question is what did you send on IG?

 

[rayray]

Listen. If you made yout amends with a text, i would make sure i made a phone call or a face to face apology. Just tell him it was liquid stupidity on your part. You didn't know what you were thinking, and regretted it after you did it. If you already have done this then it's on him.We all make mistakes. Stop being so hard on yourself. Please give an update.