Sexting - Yay or Nay?

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  1. Incocknito

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    Is it good or bad?

    For example: texting/showing a girl a picture of your cock before she has a chance to see it "for real".

    Is there a chance she could think its bigger than it is? Is that a bad thing?

    What are y'all's thoughts on it? Personal experiences?
     
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    Of course not.
    Of course not.
     
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    Uh, I wouldn't sext photos of myself. I personally like sexting words.
     
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    I wouldn't send naked pics to someone I wasn't on that level with. If you just met and are casually talking you sending a picture of your little buddy might deter her.

    If the two of you have a relantionship that has moved to that point then it would be ok. I'm assuming since she's never seen it IRL the relantionship MIGHT not be on that level.

    Edit: If you two met on a site and are having sex talk it may be a go.
     
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    I only sext pix after we've had sex, never before. But I post pix on Manhunt, which I guess is sorta the same thing.
     
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    That would put fewer people off.
     
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    Okay now that I just had the most violent orgasm of my life (it was like the 4th of July had been condensed into my penis)...

    If you have just "met" a person, maybe only exchanged numbers but then begin sexting, is that a bad thing?

    And I don't sext out of the blue, usually she/they ask for pictures and I send them.

    It just seems that a lot of the time after sexting, the only conversation is "my cock" or "her pussy" or "her tits". A lot of it is physical. I can't say I've ever had a meaningful relationship where sexting took place.

    But then does that make sexting bad? Is it the sexting that sexualises the relationship or is it the individual person/people?

    I would really like to hear some other people's experiences of sexting. Maybe if there are couples who began sexting and are now married or something.
     
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    Wow, really? We didn't have cell phones that you could send photos on when I was your age, so I'm surprised that things move that quickly to sharing photos so soon in the relationship now.

    Personally I would think that people would try to be more careful about sending photos in such an easily reproducible format. If someone sexts me a photo, I can forward that to everyone I know much too easily! That would prevent me from doing it. That would be my main concern over sexting photos with someone you just met and who hasn't proven her trustworthiness yet. My second concern would be sending an unsolicited photo that would turn her off because you moved too quickly to the visceral, but if she asked for a photo, then that's really not a problem.
     
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    nt my thing
     
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    Most of the sext photos don't show the face. And those that do usually have the face obscured by a camera or cell phone, etc. So for all intents and purposes they are anonymous.

    Its about 50/50 split between girls who will want you to send them 'pics' right away and those who text the usual mundane stuff.
     
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    sexting, bad idea
     
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    The only time I have ever shared pics like that was with a boyfriend. I sent a little message and a sexy picture in something I thought he would like.

    His response was to have a co-worker call me and pretend like he had picked up my boyfriends phone by mistake and saw my picture....

    After I died for about an hour, he called me and told me it was a joke.... needless to say I've never sent pictures like that again.

    That is the only experience I have with that. Honestly, talking to someone about their cock and sex gets pretty boring after awhile. My mind sort of goes into sleep mode and I'm just done for. If everytime I spoke to a guy all he wanted to talk about was sex I would withdraw from him. I need a mixture of fun conversation to keep me interested.
     
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    Sexting with complete, spelled out words, can be a thing of beauty. I'd much rather stimulate you from the inside than from the surface.

    (See Empathizer's writing for a good example)

    It's the shortcuts with 2 instead of "to", idk, instead of "I don't know", and so on that pollutes the written word.
     
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    :redface::redface::redface:

    Thank you very much, RawDog (still blushing)...

    I find that writing about sex arouses me quite a bit. Often to the point of orgasm. Often more times than once a post. It's intimate. The process of any truly honest creative writing, with any kind of real imagery, is a tenuous and plastic (as in bendy-stretchy, not as in Barbie's Dream Corvette) form of very real self-hypnosis.
     
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    I'm not into it.
     
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    Nay to sexting because what I do in the bed is best shown with actions, not texts.
     
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    Definitely not to a girl. Maybe to a guy.
     
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    I forget where I read it, but it was a thread basically about how girls dislike getting dick pix from guys. From what I recall, the pix just don't do anything for them. They just all send them around to each other and lol at them. But then again, some girls may actually like a cock shot.

    Edit: I think I heard it on the radio, actually.
     
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    Sexting? What are you, 14?
     
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    lol ^

    The only time I've ever found this appropriate in the least was when me and my girl (of 4+ months at the time) were separated by 90 miles for a semester, and she said, amongst other things, that she missed my big ol' dick.

    Wait, there was one more time when a guy friend that moved away really wanted to see what I was packing so I figured there was no harm in fulfilling his fantasy.
     
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