- Mem,
I always wondered if sexually attraction is some animalistic instinctual thing we really don't have any control over or if it's something that we learn and changes. I generally know if I am sexually attracted to someone immediately maybe within 2 seconds. There is a difference on who we find attractive and sexually attractive. For instance Ricky Martin I find attractive as do most people but he does nothing for me sex wise, George Clooney on the other hand....
If I find a person (male) attractive, I find them sexually attractive too. This is in real life, I understand about a celebrity being cute but not sexy to you. The only people I find attractive but not sexually attractive is women. I think as you grow older you find that other things make a person attractive such as kindness or sense of humor and self-confidence.