Sexual Attraction -When do you know?

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When do you know you are sexually attracted to someone?

  1. Immediately (I know within 2 sec. of meeting or seeing someone.)

    43 vote(s)
    47.8%
  2. 1-2 Minutes (I need to hear their voice and mannerisms.)

    27 vote(s)
    30.0%
  3. 1-2 Hours (I need to get a glimpse of their personality.)

    7 vote(s)
    7.8%
  4. 1-2 Days (I need to know what kind of person they are.)

    3 vote(s)
    3.3%
  5. More than 2 days (I need to know the whole package.)

    10 vote(s)
    11.1%
  1. earllogjam

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    Does the eye rule in choosing sex partners?
     
  2. No_Strings

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    I chose 1-2 minutes... I've experienced love at first sight, but also someones personality and sense of humour can attract me when initially I felt nothing physical towards them.
     
  3. SpoiledPrincess

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    Of course the eye rules, we don't go up and hit on the ugliest guy/woman in the pub in the hopes they have an outstanding personality.
     
  4. DC_DEEP

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    I didn't vote, because for me it is variable. Yes, physical appearance is a good ice-breaker; but that is never where my main attractions come from. It can take anywhere from a few seconds to several weeks for me to decide about any specific person. I'm generally neutral toward a person until I get a good idea of what they are like. Physical attraction, for me, has to develop, and has more to do with the brain than the skin. Even if a guy is strikingly handsome, if the first 3 sentences I hear him speak turn me off, chances are I would never be able to be physically attracted to him. If he is plain, or even a little less than plain, but intellectually stimulating, I'm more likely to find him attractive.
     
  5. ManlyBanisters

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    I voted immediately - because I find quite a lot of people very sexy straight away. It's over the following seconds, minutes, hours, days (months sometimes) that I become UNattracted to them by getting to know them :)

    Of course it can work the other way too - but less often for me
     
  6. D_Garmanswait Glassnads

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    Only became sexually attracted to someone who I've known for years. I'm experiencing sexual attractive for the first time, within the last 2 weeks. I've had major depression all my life and now I'm on great great drugs, I can't stop thinking about sex.
     
  7. B_big dirigible

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    It depends on the lighting.
     
  8. D_Gunther Snotpole

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    I chose 1-2 minutes, but could have chosen immediately.
    That doesn't mean that things won't change, but the first tingle comes quickly.
    Noticing whether I find someone attractive is not much different from deciding whether they're tall or not. Flag or flag down.
     
  9. B_cigarbabe

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    Exactly! Well said DC !
     
  10. D_Coyne Toss

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    I need lots of time. If we hypothetically had three centers of decision, I use them in this order:

    1) head: I am very rational and cerebral

    2) heart: I am also emotional, I love feeling the love inside me, getting lost in romantic heartbets

    3) stomach: I have to feel a thing with my head or with my heart, I am never driven by instincts.

    Make my defenses fall takes (well, used to take, I am a happy caught fish!) a long time.
     
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    i'm extremely visual, and also don't believe in true love or that love lasts forever (not for ME, anyway - i have about 1/2 of a romantic bone in my entire body). so the sexual attraction is generally immediate, and doesn't develop over time.

    i will admit that i will DENY to myself that someone is sexually attractive, just because of their bad behaviour or because they're married. i'll allow myself to become attracted to them if circumstances permit at a later time. but usually i will know they're sexy immediately 99.9% of the time.
     
  12. Love-it

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    I don't know how to describe it, I met my wife 2 years befrore we got together, she was hiking in the High Sierra's with another man that she later married. I was attracted to her physically and with the way she conducted herself, love of the mountains, etc. She says that she felt likewise. At that time her life did not connect with mine.

    In 1974 she came back to the mountains, inquired if I was in the area and we got together, we sat on a rock, under the stars for most of the night, talking and about 5:00 in the morning we went to my bed, made love and slept for about an hour. Then we we spent the next ten days building trail on a re-route of the John Muir Trail. It was about 3 days into that when I began telling other members of my crew that we were going to get married, she said that I should ask her first, I did, and later a week after her divorce was final we got married.

    I am tempted to say it was love at first sight, at least at second sight 2 years later but how do you define something like that?
     
  13. D_Garmanswait Glassnads

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    I'm sure you can't define it. Every case is original and it all comes down to that certain relationship and whatever vairables effect it.
     
  14. earllogjam

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    I think that there is some sort of chemistry which doesn't always limit attraction to just looks when choosing a mate.
     
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    for me, i know in seconds.
    funny thing is although the guys are good looking, it's not the physical features that gets me. there are good looking guys who's eyes just say nothing.

    but then there are others...wow...i see it the look in his eyes...hunger, and i am thinking "when?" never had a bad lover from this look in his eyes : )
     
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    Do you ever get that Tingling sensation when you speak with someone? Some sort of warm rush that rolls over you when you are speaking to the one you meet? There is a good chance THAT is the attraction.

    I can know within a few seconds.
     
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    When it comes to the ladies I have more of a need for emotional attachment than physical attachment. Her physical attributes aren't as important as her personality and attitude towards life. A more confident woman melts my shorts. In the past when I have needed to satisfy my bi ness, I have found that a well cut body with a nice ass on a cute to pretty face awakens my sexual desires. If he's a jerk there is no attraction at all. I am a relationship seeker with the ladies and just wanting to satisfy sexual desires with guys. Upfront with both.
     
  18. Magic 8

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    You're lucky there mate, most anti-depressants kill your sex drive.
     
  19. D_Bob_Crotchitch

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    I have a big penis, it's pink and purty. When I feel horny, I get real flirty. :wink:
     
  20. karmen

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    I didn't make a choice. The sexual attraction varies. Sometimes it is somewhat instantly and at other times it takes my getting to know the person.

    If I'm attracted instantly, I wonder what it would be like to be with him. The chances of a relationship developing from an instant attraction aren't to good.

    If it takes me some time to become attracted, I'm more likely to want a relationship to develop because I've taken more time to know the person.

    Hugs and Kisses,

    Karmen
     
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