Sexual Etiquette?

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  1. Xii

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    I'm just full of questions for you guys :p

    Having come from a limited background of sexual contact, (I've done lots, only with the one person thanks very much:p) i still have a bit to wonder about - so here goes

    I'm on the pill. My guy is clean and i know it - we were both virgins before each other. However how long this relationship is going to last - i'm not sure, but when i look to 'open' myself up to newer people and things - what is the sexual etiquette when it comes to girls on the pill? Do guys expect unprotected sex? Maybe not with a random one night stand (you never know where they've been) but say you know someone is clean... do guys expect to finish up inside the girl? if so what the hell do you do with it then? does your body absorb it?

    any thoughts would be great :)
     
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    Respect for Others. That is what the sexual revolution should be about.

    Anyone can quickly ascertain what my life experiences have been by checking out my post.

    To reply to the question as I understand it: Anytime a guy comes into the life of a new sexual partner he should respect the potential partner enough to wear protection. There is nothing to be gained for a long future of enjoying life to sacrifice alledged feeling/pleasure with out the use of a condom. I can not foresee any person taking the word of a new potential partner as totally true. Life today has far too many consquences of a bad nature to ever engage in un-protected sex. Regarding condoms. They are available and should always be used by any self respecting male. The are of comfort for both partners. There is a a whole host of brands and sizes available.

    A quick check of the condom links here will give anyone an overview of what is available.

    In summary - respect for all will allow any person to have a long and fulfilling sex life.
     
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    always assume responsibility for your own protection!
     
  4. Xii

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    aha. thanx guys :)
     
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    Guys that expect unprotected sex are not the sort of guys that you should be sleeping with. If they expect unprotected sex with you, then chances are that they have expected unprotected sex with past partners, increasing the likelihood that they carry an STD.

    If, however, you know he is clean (and I assume it goes without saying that you do not just take his word for it - ask to see the test results), then I suppose it would be alright. Although I'd still probably ask the guy to pull out if I were you. It's not the most effective method of birth control, but it can't hurt. And besides, a lot of guys get turned on by seeing themselves blast one off.

    Yes, I know that the pill is quite effective, but I always take every precaution I can and suggest that you do also.

    I'm not sure what the answer to your last question is.
     
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    The pill is great for one thing - preventing pregnancy. It does not prevent STDs. As Rawbone8 said, you have to take responsibility for your own protection. You may be in love with him and think he's the greatest thing since sliced bread and canned beer, but he may not feel the same way. What if the relationship is not meant to be, and he has sex with someone else while still dating you? Based on your avatar, you are still young (and way to good looking!) to burden yourself with and STD for the rest of your life.

    As far as your other questions, I will attempt to answer them from my limited knowledge as a guy. Your body will absorb some of it, while some of it will 'leak' out - it all depends on how much there was to begin with.

    Hope that helps!
     
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    I wouldn't take the chance, even if someone claims they are "clean." (Unless you exchange medical test results or some such.) It's your body and you have a say in what goes inside it.
     
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    My girlfriend was a virgin and is on the pill. We still have sex with condoms which is fucking expensive! I dont see a problem having unprotected sex but she's paranoid...so I'm not fussed either way though it would be better without because with a condom on my foreskin retracts and gets stuck behind the head, making me go slightly soft and restricting the bloodflow. Yes, its a little tight. But whatever she wants, she gets.

    I also have to take it slow, since she needs stretching out lol. She said it felt like she was ripping in two last night, poor thing :D

    Anyway I'm sure there's more to the etiquette, like making sure the girl is ready etc or making sure she gets off. But as far as condoms, you never can be too careful.
     
  9. Xii

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    I completely agree with everything being said... i've never taken personal safety lightly (the thought of an std for life *scares* me... fine if you're 80 but not 18
     
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    I suppose the context for sex without a condom is important to agree on in a committed monogamous relationship. That kind of trust is a two way deal. If you forgot and messed up your oral contraception and pregnancy ensues he would feel that impact. If he had health issues unrelated to his sexual history like a blood transfusion or tainted medical instrument he could hypothetically unknowingly carry hiv, hepatitis or a something else.
    A private lab in Toronto infected people with hepatitis (I'm not sure which one) because they reused improperly sterilised electrodes (or similar apparatus) that attach to scalp and skin during a testing procedures. Hundreds got letters months later.

    STD's can be latent and unrecognised. Chlamydia is one of the most rampant STDs in your age group. HPV. etc etc.

    Complicated world. Huh?

    Barrier free sex as nature intended it is wonderful. No comparison as far as sensation and intimacy are concerned. But you really need to take responsibility and get tests and wait the appropriate period of time. And after that it's dependent on trust. No one is infallible. A very big leap of faith. Not to tendered lightly.

    Best wishes Xii, and welcome to the site
     
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    i have one rule when it comes to sex ALWAYS USE A CONDOM
     
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    well ive found not every woman is on the pill for pure birth control reasons. ive known plenty who take it to help with their "monthly bill" so i wouldnt assume just cuz a girl is on the pill you should use a condom. id rather have peace of mind with safety if its not a serious relationship. i generally also follow what the woman is comfortable with as far as "finishing up" since it varies from one to the next.
     
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    I always at least wear a condom. im leary of the pill, it gave my mother breast cancer so i dont advocate taking the pill unless your sure its right for you. granted the ones my mom took in the 70's have long since been cleaned off teh market, but anytime you take a medication for a prolonged period of time, you run the risk of long term adverse effects of your body.

    i always wear a condom. if you are considerate enough of a person to sleep with them, you'll be considerate enough to care about their health :)
     
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    *cheers for everybody here being so conscious about safety*
     
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    Great advice is being given here, I hope everyone is looking.

    No one will ever care about your life as much as you do. Preganacy is the least of your worries, and it is a HUGE worry! STDS are annoying, but most are either curable or managable. The real issue is AIDS. Do NOT let your enjoyment of a person or your like for them cloud your reasoning abilitiies. YOU alone can prevent yourself from getting a disease that you could die a slow and misreable death from, and no amount of "not wanting to hurt the other person's feelings" should be any part of that decision. If you are mature enough to have sex, you are responsible for what happens as a result of that decision. "Oops" won't sound like a good reason if you're ever getting test results and have to hear the work "infected". Don't take ANYONE'S word for it, they may not even know.

    That being said, sex is a wonderful part of an adult life. Treat yourself and any potential partner as a beautiful thing in your life and you'll get to have it as much and as long as you want.
     
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    great advice MZ but you for got about herpies also...plus it wouldn't be such a bad idea to discuss each others views on preganacy,abortion etc
     
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    hmm, a friend of mine recently had an abortion, from a really good family - she's completing a degree in law, and she's very into drugs as is her boyfriend - go figure. Anyhow they've been practising unsafe sex for a while now, and she fell pregnant and had an abortion no worries. Without a flinch.

    I personally don't think i could do that myself. Abortion is the choice of the couple and/or the girl... and i think they have a right to it, however when you have thirteen abortions *coughMADONNAcough* things become a bit blurred as to what's okay and what isn't. Herpes can be caught condom or no condom. scary. i'd expect someone to tell me if they had it, and i might bring it up in a new relationship.
     
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    All I'm gonna add to this talk of safety is that guys will respect you more if you insist on safer sex.
     
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    Safety First!

    Means 'Cover Me, I am going in'
     
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    I'm always amazed that guys are so willing to take my word for it when I bring up my negative STD status. They always seem shocked when I ask them how recently they've been tested, and when I can expect to see the results. I just figure it's really important since I usually don't use a condom for oral, and since condoms don't protect against herpes, which has no cure. I find it quite difficult to convince medical staff to test me for herpes. They treat me like I'm crazy. It always goes like this:

    Me:"Oh. In addition, can you make sure to run that blood for herpes and hepatitis A,B, and C?"

    Them:"Are you having an outbreak?"

    Me:"No"

    Them:"Have you ever had an outbreak?"

    Me: "No."

    Them: "Why do you think you have herpes?"

    Me:"Remember during the interview you asked me if I perform and unprotected sex, and how may partners I've had in the past 3, 6 and 12 month periods? Well, I just want to be sure. I know I'm taking some risks, and I don't want to be one of those people who wanders about cheerfully spreading diseases."

    Them:"But if you've never had any STDs, and you never had an outbreak, you probably don't have herpes."

    Can you believe I actually have to talk them into the test over and over? And, once I convince them to test for herpes, I have to talk them into the hepatitis tests as well. It's not even laziness. They aren't the ones doing the work!

    It's very important to look out for your own health. Demand to see results. Know what diseases are out there, and how to prevent them. When you take risks, at least know what you are risking. There is no such thing as etiqutte.
     
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