Doesn't matter. I used to think more experienced might bring more enjoyable sex but I am not sure it is matters anymore. It's all about chemistry / compatibility / things of the sort etc.
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Doesn't matter. I used to think more experienced might bring more enjoyable sex but I am not sure it is matters anymore. It's all about chemistry / compatibility / things of the sort etc.
i like that typo. it suits.
It definitely is lose-lose in an environment where its acceptable for men (tbf, women too) to be emotionally and sexually abusive in relationships. Blame is pointless, either for the guy or the girl, since abuse often occurs due to the lack of emotional self-awareness on the part of the abuser or both.
I don't think you've shared what made you feel that things wouldn't get better, but there are a lot of women in increasingly violent relationships that do harbor the false belief that the abuse is their fault and that there is something they can do to make it better - or they internalize being abused as something they are doing wrong and find themselves in poor relationship after poor relationship. It's that step of self-awareness that they are lacking - that they are not responsible for someone else's feelings and that each person is responsible for their own emotions.
I have a good male role model in my life, and I never thought his problems were my fault. He tried to blame me for his feelings of insecurity, which made me resent him because I totally adored him before he started chipping away at that by the way he was treating me. That tactic totally backfired, but he never stopped trying it. Part of the reason why I stayed was because I was so understanding about why he had issues and what those issues were and how they made him feel, etc. I think that what got me was emotional blackmailing, especially in regards to something that happened that was also not my fault but caused chaos in his life, which I can't describe here.
I don't think it's more acceptable for a man or a woman to be abusive, and maybe it's also a lose-lose situation for men, too, if their relationships don't work out or if they decide to leave. I'm not sure. Maybe it's the same. I just find it interesting how hard people came down on me for not encouraging her to stay with him and help him work through his issues when I feel like I was so heavily criticized for making a similar decision. It strikes me as a catch-22. I have no idea if that's a gendered catch-22 or if it's the same for everyone.
I thought I explained my thoughts quite well in that thread, but I guess not.
I think only a few came down on you. I recall some being in agreement with you. And you know there are lots who look forward to your continued contributions, agree or disagree with your position.
experience with other people is irrelevant.
he still won't know how i tick until he's been with me.
I would rather my partners have -some- experience. That way they have a better idea of what they like/what they want.
But how do you know?
Most kids who make a supposed lifelong committment in their early twenties are divorced before they hit thirty.
nope, i don't agree.Fade has an excellent point. It isn't just about them getting to know you. You may have to accept that they have the self experience to realise that you are not for them. Isn't that ultimately preferable?
self awareness isn't the preserve of the experienced.
nope, i don't agree.
my personal experience is that some of the best sex i had was with a virgin. that guy most certainly knew what he wanted and, once he'd taken that leap, he was perfectly confident about getting it.
self awareness isn't the preserve of the experienced.
for my weird kinks, yes, to a degree.Does that make good sex, someone taking what they want?
what he wanted to take was some giving, so i guess it would have appealed from that angle. but i only dig giving in the spirit of taking.
i'm a fucked up little bunny.