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Okay, i'm stepping off my know it all soap box and i'm asking for advice this time. I have been repeatedly hit on in the workplace by my bosses. It doesn't matter if it is a man or a woman. The job im in now is great because my boss is professional and respectful and straight. I've had bosses and coworkers just stare at my crotch during a conversation about work. From the start of the conversation to the end. I usually get furious on the inside and do my best to hide it. One guy even commented on my penis's length. I didn't know how to react. I've tried wearing briefs to hide any bulge. It doesnt stop them from staring. At this point I've given up briefs and just wear boxers because they are more comfortable. I figure if they are going to offend me by staring i'll offend them by showing. That makes me feel a little less frustrated. I know that doesn't sound like a healthy response but it helps me to sleep at night.
The next level of intensity is the inappropriate touching of my butt. Usually my boss would walk past me while im at the filing cabinet and brush his hand against my butt. One paticular boss did this a total of nine times!!!! I was brushed against three times in a row for three days straight. I was hoping if I ignored it he would figure out that i am not interested and give up. About 6 months ago im at a different job and my new boss does this butt brushing again after i told him that he didn't look overweight. He had confessed that he was having trouble timming down. I guess he took my support the wrong way.
Then there is the double standard. I have worked in jobs where other men may show a bulge, yet, I never see anyone staring at their crotch or goosing their butts. Why am I so different from them?
What I want to know is is there anyone else who has experienced this? How did you deal with it? Women's responses are welcome too. I don't consider this a gender issue.
This is not a joke or an attempt to get attention. I am in a good work envoirnment right now. I don't know why it stopped happening or if I did anything to stop it. My career is prettty much in the toilet at this point because I have been fired from more than one job for complaining about it. Some jobs I quit because I was so pissed of. I was never able to successfully file a law suit or get help from the EEOC. Believe me I've tried. What do I do if it starts up again?
Also, why did it continue for so long? Seven years this had gone on. Are these all Isolated incidents? or are employers making phone calls saying continue to hit on me for some reason?
I apologize for being so long winded.
The next level of intensity is the inappropriate touching of my butt. Usually my boss would walk past me while im at the filing cabinet and brush his hand against my butt. One paticular boss did this a total of nine times!!!! I was brushed against three times in a row for three days straight. I was hoping if I ignored it he would figure out that i am not interested and give up. About 6 months ago im at a different job and my new boss does this butt brushing again after i told him that he didn't look overweight. He had confessed that he was having trouble timming down. I guess he took my support the wrong way.
Then there is the double standard. I have worked in jobs where other men may show a bulge, yet, I never see anyone staring at their crotch or goosing their butts. Why am I so different from them?
What I want to know is is there anyone else who has experienced this? How did you deal with it? Women's responses are welcome too. I don't consider this a gender issue.
This is not a joke or an attempt to get attention. I am in a good work envoirnment right now. I don't know why it stopped happening or if I did anything to stop it. My career is prettty much in the toilet at this point because I have been fired from more than one job for complaining about it. Some jobs I quit because I was so pissed of. I was never able to successfully file a law suit or get help from the EEOC. Believe me I've tried. What do I do if it starts up again?
Also, why did it continue for so long? Seven years this had gone on. Are these all Isolated incidents? or are employers making phone calls saying continue to hit on me for some reason?
I apologize for being so long winded.