I was talking with No_Strings and he said something I thought was quite profound:
Not sure how profound a hastily written, typo-ridden, ponderingism/wonderment on Yahoo is. :tongue:
"Two things about lpsg: 1) I hate the truly sexually ignorant which, unfortunately, is a mighty high percentage of people IRL, and 2) it makes me appreciate what we have, in and out of the boudoir, so much more. When people link to all these 'documentaries' I just get pissed off. Annoyed at the shit people believe, and the shit others try to persuade people into believing"
Perhaps I should clarify; what I meant is tied in with this:
But N_S likened it to Cassandra in greek mythology. Cursed with knowledge she cannot impart because no one will believe her.
Mention of
Cassandra Syndrome was more of an analogy than anything; I often feel internal conflict over which emotion is stronger - incredulous disgust at the willful(?) ignorance of some, or the anger at the futility of trying to enlighten 'the masses'.
I don't know. Should my feeling be directed at the parents for sheltering their children so much? Teachers for omitting everything but the bare biological necessities? Fundementalists for downright lying to their children?
Diagnosing whether lack of information by one group is better/worse than misinformation by another group seems pointless, as one may counteract the other and it is the decision of the child(or adult) in question over which source to believe.
Perhaps those questions are redudant, as ones own curiosity is the key to insight on any given topic.
I myself took the time and made the effort to learn about all things carnal from a relatively young age, though initially it was not to simply advance my knowledge but rather to prepare myself to be a better lover for my eventual partner. I'm increasingly disheartened to find that is not a particularly common practice as a teen.
I mean ten years ago it was, what? 'You can't get pregnant if you have sex standing up' and 'cling-film is an adequate substitute for a condom'.
Now it's things like(recalling recent headlines from fark.com): '
drinking bleach can protect you from AIDS' and 'drinking Mountain Dew will prevent pregnancy'.
I can still remember being the awe of my six-year-old peers because I knew what 'twat' and 'fuck' meant. I expected that void in sexual awareness to drastically decrease as I got older but sadly it hasn't.
Personally, I know there is much to learn and no threshold for knowledge of sex, anatomy, biology & the like but I yearn to explore of much of it as I can during my lifetime.
Being only 19, it upsets me how little many people seem to know about the overall subject of 'sex' and whilst I fully acknowledge I am far from an authoritative voice on the matter, I would still be confident that I know more on the subject than a vast majority of the population. I'm not bragging - I'm pitying. :redface:
Is this elitist or arrogant of me? If so, is it even unwarranted?
Is it wrong of me to feel better about myself and my relationship after reading about those less aware and more narrow-minded(self-inflicted or otherwise)?
I'm really not trying to sound arrogant or condescending - should I simply try and accept that my expectations and limitations are much higher than those of others, despite my not seeing it that way?
So do you find yourself cherishing what you have with your SO more after reading through some of the garbage posted here?
As you know, I do. I grow increasingly grateful at how open-minded, patient and well-informed you are. :hug:
I said bedroom.
Missy here misquoted me. :biggrin:
I think that sexual ignorance can be remedied by actually knowing that you don't know things about sex. Then, seeking for the logical gaps of knowledge and finding the truths out.
I concur(see my sig :tongue
. Ignorance is in no way a crime, but perhaps assumption of heightened awareness should be? Is there a kind(read: politically correct
) way to tell people, "You don't know shit"?
Yes, there are staggering numbers of people who are ignorant of the anatomy, physiology, psychology, neurology, and sociology of human sexuality.
That's precisely what I was trying to convey. Does it not annoy you, anger you or frustrate you?
Again, I was referring more the distinction between truth and fiction, not fantasy, which is something else entirely
Indeed. I believe that we've backpedalled so far that many don't even know there
is a distinction, let alone where exactly it is.
The amount of urban-legend type stuff that goes on here is staggering. I find it really hard to believe that a lot of the people posting on this forum are of legal age. I'm constantly thinking "how can you not know this?" Some of the questions here would've been reasonable a hundred years ago, but with the wealth of information that everyone has access to on a daily basis these days, it's baffling that people still don't seem to know their head from their ass.
That's a large part of exactly what I mean. Teenage, myspace mythology that we all know and love such as 'the 'dirty sanchez', 'white dragon' and donkey punch' et al, but the misinformation seems to be getting more dangerous and more widespread - like a worldwide
chinese whisper written in textspeak that nobody, authority figure or otherwise, seems to be able to dispel.
It's also emotional immaturity though. Some guy will post "my neighbor has me beat by a quarter inch - will my wife leave me?" It's like how can you be so inept? It's obvious that your years of togetherness and everything you've built up with that person are not going to be jeopardized by something so trivial.
But this one time, in a porno I saw...
And if you are talking about stuff like sexual folklore where, "If you jump up and down after intercourse, you will not get pregnant." "AIDS won't happen to me, I live in a rural area." or A big man has big feet." ...and like that?
Those kind of things were the reason for my initial offhand comment that mercurialbliss posted.
N_S! Help! SOS! ...---... :biggrin1:
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Yes, and I didnt want to imply that all people in relationships have a leg up on sexual education because that's not always true. Same can be said for age and number of previous partners. Older and/or more partners does not necessarily equal proper education or experience.
Very true, I should emphasise this point myself.
you two are already taken, so the pool is just that much smaller. :kiss:
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chwing! :wink:
Do you ever get the feeling some are so desperate to be open-minded that they'll believe anything? Maybe they're afraid of not knowing as much as they should so they blindly believe anything they read or hear? To be fair, it takes time to learn how to discern good advice from misinformation, but yeah, some things are just plain common sense.
I think it's more simple than that. Could it even just boil down to lack of intelligence(not necessarily academia)?
How people evolve towards one another and shed background baggage of half truths and assumptions are what sex and living with someone is. What you knew when you were eighteen is now so far from what you know about yourself and sexuality that it often hurts to recall how you thought anf felt.
Perhaps I am an anomaly in that respect then and my whole perspective is based on my own presumptions. :tongue:
As you were...
