Sexual Objectification

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  1. B_ScaredLittleBoy

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    If someone says:

    "I love your [cock]" or "I love your [pussy]"

    I am mainly talking about someone saying that and not saying "I love [you]." Also talking out of the bedroom.

    How do you feel? Do you enjoy it? Or do you feel a bit miffed that you are seen as perhaps only a talking sex toy?
     
  2. B_Think_Kink

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    It depends on the context and what is happening at the time. If you're fucking and someone says I love your penis or I love your pussy.. then I think it's safe. But if your out for dinner and saying it. You should probably re-evaluate why you love them.
     
  3. Principessa

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    Good point!

    I have had quite a few men tell me they loved my pussy; but in most instances I was smart enough to not confuse it with real love. If a fuck buddy says it I know he's just enjoying himself, as I am enjoying him.
     
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    I never fully understood sexual objectification until I started going to gay bars and to gay events. I don't like it, but then I don't associate with people who objectify me, so its a great screening device.

    The last two times Bubba and I have been at a gay bar or gay event, some guys has just straight out asked me (in front of Bubba) if I had a big dick. Without so much as a "hello."
     
  5. whatireallywant

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    It doesn't bother me any... just sounds like they enjoy me! Much preferable to someone saying that they DON'T like it, at any rate! :biggrin1:
     
  6. B_ScaredLittleBoy

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    I did make a point of saying outside the bedroom since I don't mind and enjoy comments about my penis/performance when my penis is performing.

    It's just that I feel like I'm "always the bridesmaid, never the bride", or to put it in a less freaky way: they always love [the cock] and never [me]. At least this is what they say. I think I'm just getting tired of girls saying 'your cock is so great', 'yay cock', 'cock for president'...etc
     
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    I trust you give them "the look" and walk away. Or do you just say, "of course I do, I'm black aren't I":tongue:

    I understand 110% as this is pretty much the story of my dating life over the last 20+ years. :redface::mad: FYI - I have been a maid of honor twice and a bridesmaid 3 times. I have the ugly dresses in storage to prove it.
     
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    I am never rude to someone in person--even if I think they are being obnoxious. I will stop and/or leave a conversation, but I always do so as nicely as possible (if I can).

    The 1st time, I pointed to Bubba and said "Ask him." Of course the drunk, toothless guy would not. He also did not stop bothering me, even going so far as to ask Bubba to share. Bubba kindly told him NO.


    The 2nd time, we were waiting for DC_DEEP and his hubby and the guy walked by and said, "You've got a big dick, don't you?" and I just smiled and said, "yup" and continued my conversation with Bubba.

    I just don't get it. It's not like I was wearing anything revealing in either situation. People are strange.
     
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    I have no problems with being sexually objectified. It makes the attention whore in me go wheeeeeeeeee!
     
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    I think it would be nice if it were to happen to me. Not as nice as I love your smile maybe, but I think I would settle for I love your left eye brow or even I love your knee cap at the moment :mad:
     
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    I would much rather someone get to know me as a person rather than something to hop in bed with. I would never judge someone on looks or cock size alone. Neither of those matter if their personality is crap. Even for casual sex I would want to at least like the person I'm fucking.
    To put it bluntly I would rather someone fuck my mind before they fuck me.
    So ya that would bother me, a lot!
     
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    i love being treated like his fucktoy *sigh*
     
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    There's nothing wrong or evil about a little sexual objectifying. I'll be worried the day people stop objectifying me.
     
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    I've heard variations of "I love your cock" from past gf's. It was in the context of our having a relationship and I think only spoken about in the confines of the bedroom. Anyway, I took it as complimentary and it certainly is a nice ego boost to hear.


    Although, once or twice word got around to other girls I knew and were friends with from my ex's about "it" and every so often I notice them eyeballing my pants and biting their lip. That was irritating, I did feel objectified and it made me uncomfortable.
     
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    Simply say "Thank You," and remember the context of the situation. If it was in private, great.

    If a public event, consider the source and adjust the balance of your life accordingly.

    This allows one, you and I, to sift out the chaff.
     
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    I have a very small cock so if someone said "I love your cock" to me I would be very grateful! LOL
     
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    I love hearing compliments about my cock or other parts of my body. Truth? That's one reason I post pics in my gallery. After a tough day, to come home and see that someone has given me cock kudos is a treat.
     
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    Everyone loves a compliment.
     
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    That's why I put pics in my gallery too. I just don't whore myself out like some newbies on here, so I get very few compliments, if any. But when I do get them it's nice. Brings a smile to my face.
     
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    I just accept the compliment and move on
    I already have someone, and I know he loves it,when
    somebody else says, they like/love my _____!!!
    I'll be worried when they stop,as Bbucko said.
    cigarbabe:saevil:
     
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