mikeyinbrooklyn
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Sexuality relates to one's libidinal desires and actions. The other side to which you refer (I don't use the word "gender" to describe people; it is a grammatical category) is more cultural identity.
Someone is a homosexual if they have desire getting it on with the same sex. They are straight if they are seek the opposite sex. Bisexuals have4 at least some degree of sexual attraction to both. There are legitmately straight people who have sex with same sex, in porn or for money or they were really drunk, etc. And there are gay people who have sex with the opposite sex to conform to social mores. Sexual behavior usually follows attraction, but not quite always. The attraction determines the orientation.
Culturaly, there are more masculine norms and more feminine norms. While it may be true that many gay people are further along towards the other end of the scale (feminine for gay men; masculine for lesbians) than the heterosexual population, these cultural indicators are separate thing entirely from orientation. You could be a gay man with masculine identifying characteristics just as you could be a straight man with more feminine tendencies.
Sexual orientation and cultural behavior are independent of one another entirely. Sleep with the sex that you are attracted to, and act naturally outside the bedroom, regardless of whether anyone judges your mannerisms and sex partners to be incongruous.
Someone is a homosexual if they have desire getting it on with the same sex. They are straight if they are seek the opposite sex. Bisexuals have4 at least some degree of sexual attraction to both. There are legitmately straight people who have sex with same sex, in porn or for money or they were really drunk, etc. And there are gay people who have sex with the opposite sex to conform to social mores. Sexual behavior usually follows attraction, but not quite always. The attraction determines the orientation.
Culturaly, there are more masculine norms and more feminine norms. While it may be true that many gay people are further along towards the other end of the scale (feminine for gay men; masculine for lesbians) than the heterosexual population, these cultural indicators are separate thing entirely from orientation. You could be a gay man with masculine identifying characteristics just as you could be a straight man with more feminine tendencies.
Sexual orientation and cultural behavior are independent of one another entirely. Sleep with the sex that you are attracted to, and act naturally outside the bedroom, regardless of whether anyone judges your mannerisms and sex partners to be incongruous.