Sexual Orientation?

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  1. LivingDildo

    LivingDildo New Member

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    Unsure of mine.

    Although I am attracted to women,but not in a typical way, as I don't find models attractive, but I do find everyday women attractive.

    But I do find myself attracted to males in a strange way, but only the most attractive ones, but I still couldn't bear the thought of sex with a male.

    Anyone else like that, or am I just a weirdo.
     
  2. sykray

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    I don't think that many people are 100% straight or 100% gay.

    Few men get to date models so the fact that you don't fancy them much isn't really much of a problem.

    I don't think you're weird but maybe a bit confused by your feelings. Straight men (as well as gay and bi men) know a handsome man when they see one. They may secretly think of him as handsome or hot without actually wanting to have sex with him.

    It is normal for many straight guys to feel warm, close and loving and caring towards other men. It doesn't mean that you want sex with them.

    It is normal for many straight guys to think some men are sexy and to think of them when masturbating or to fantasise about sex with a guy without ever wanting to act on these thoughts.

    Not wanting to have sex with a guy is as much a matter of societal inhibition (cultural homophobia) as actual attraction or its lack.

    You seem to be saying that you are mainly or predominantly straight. If it helps you might label yourself as 1% gay and 99% straight as many guys here do. However, I think labels can be misleading and inexact.

    We are each unique in what exactly turns us on - labels do not define us.

    To throw in a spanner - some guys decide that the orientation they were convinced of a few years before isn't what they are experiencing now. Sexual orientation is a little more fluid or flexible that most of us prefer to believe it to be.
     
  3. baseball99

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    you're a weirdo


    joking.....sexuality is like height or intelligence.....i dont think its as similar being that its not trully a bell curve like the other two but the same general idea. It is a continuum with very few people either completely straight or completely gay. Its easier to classify to make people feel like they are part of a group, however, sexuality is much more than "straight or gay"
     
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    Well, about the only comment I can make, is that it seems you know what attracts you, which is useful---elimintaes wasting a bunch of time with those you DON'T find attractive.:biggrin1:
     
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    Yeah I appreciated 'skyray's' response to this, a lot. I think he hit several nails on the head. For me, orientation has always been a fluid thing - evolving - and changing throughout my life. There are times when I just feel warm & loving things for male friends, or whatever but could never desire sex with them, but there are other guys that just flip my switch to the sexual side and before you know it I'm fantasizing about sex with them and if the situation presented itself, I'd play.

    I feel 60/40 (weighted toward 'gay') but I'm truly bisex. And yet, I've never actually HAD sexual relations with a man. But I know the potential exists, so I feel the ratio is correct. For today :)
     
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    models are not hot, they are nasty and the reason they are nasty skinny flesh bags is cuz of the euro-fag fashion designers who want to make all men into fags.


    you want to talk about hot models we have to go back 15-20+ years to the days of Cathy Ireland or Cindy Crawford, now them are hot models
     
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    Dude, even Cathy Ireland and Cindy Crawford were way underweight. If you want to talk about an era where women were TRUELY beatiful you must go back to the Marilyn Monroe era of body ideal. Back to the days when a size 10 was not considered by str8 men to be "fat."

    Also, while it is very valiant of you, i don't think you can blame the current trend of annorexic supermodeldom on "euro-fag fashion designers." If you want to find a publication where women are consistently portrayed with realistic, healthy, beautiful bodytypes, pick up a gay rag.
     
  8. Mr. Snakey

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    Im bi So i can admire a handsome man or a pretty woman :cool:
     
  9. Lordpendragon

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    We're all weirdos - you'll be quite at home here - welcome.

    I am no shrink, but maybe attractive men are a role model for you and real women are the real deal.
     
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    Just be who you are Dont worry about it Everything will sort itself out on its own:cool:
     
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    Guys, we need to be careful, very careful about distinguishing admiration versus sexual orientation. --There is a world of difference.

    It could very well be a matter of just noticing handsomeness in another guy.
    Or, as someone else noted, perhaps a deep-down need for some other male to just emulate or keep in mind as a role model. This (then) is not, repeat, not a same sex "desire" as such. But, how many men know this difference exists, uh?

    There are reasons behind our feelings. They need to be explored. And, understood. Much unncessary guilt and self condemnation can be avoided if we guys do our homework behind our "responses" to other men. :smile:
     
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    I am attracted to men, but not typically to male models, I find everyday men much more attractive.
    I also sometimes find myself strangely attracted to beautiful women, but only in rare instances is this a sexual attraction.
    I am a queer bent weirdo, I know! :cool:

    You can be as unsure as you like here - it's no big deal! I think it's a good thing to experience a state of uncertainty from time to time - if for nothing else, it makes one more aware.
     
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    If everyone asked someone why they're attracted to the people they liked, you may be surprised at some of the answers. Everyone's sexual orientation is not easily reasoned.

    I am not attracted to women sexually but that doesn't mean that I hate women socially. (Maybe they aren't attracted to invisiblemen...that's fine as well. I am definately not hating on that.)

    The heart wants what the heart wants. In reality, we don't always get what we want. (In fantasy, we get it and more. Hehehe.)
     
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    I recognize and appreciate the physical beauty of men and women, but am not sexually attracted to women. Are you able to make that distinction?
     
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    There is nothing wrong with being able to appreciate a male either with or without sexual attraction. Society tells you that this is of course "not right" but as most of us know that is absolute bollocks. Don't be too hard on yourself you are free to find anyone attractive be it male female or both.

    You are not weird you are human. Those who have tried to brainwash you are weird.
     
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    LivingDildo (love that username, btw), there is nothing to consider weird about what you feel. Do you suppose any of us have control over what arouses us or what we find attractive in anyone? Whatever is, is. If your feelings don't result in harm to others, then it is natural, not weird, to listen to what your body is telling you. As you read through the threads here, you will discover that virtually every shade and nuance of human sexuality is reperesented, and rarely is a member judgmental about another because of his/her sexuality. Now, politics and spiritual beliefs are another matter.:wink:
     
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    This was my confusion growing up, only without the Internet as a resource. I liked women and men to differing degrees and since I did not dislike women (As I was taught that gay males did), I went about my life confident in my (default) heterosexuality. I always admired fit men and I lusted after women. I thought I was a "modern man" who rose above the trappings of objectification of men and not being able to say that Johnny Deep was handsome. It took me no less than the first 30 years of my life to uncover my true self.

    LivingDildo--take your time as you seek these answers and be careful if you experiment. Not everyone uncovers their true self at the same pace or in the same way. What is most important is that you embrace your true self fully and be okay with whatever conclusions you reach. Best of luck!
     
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    My first sexual experience was as a teen with my neighbor..we would both show each other our cocks, compared the shapes, colors, etc. Soon after we would jerk each other off, then lick each other, then complete BJ's, then anal sex. We both enjoyed each other and that was that.

    Now I'm married,and love sex with women, BUT I still miss those days of touching a cock, feeling it pulsate and climax. When my wife and I watch porn, it's always a bi-sex movie, she says she enjoys them better, but she can tell by my horniness that it's a total turn on for me.

    I don't think I would solicite a male encounter, but I wouldn't turn one down either. The complexities of life.
     
  20. D_Coyne Toss

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    I am not attracted to models either, and i am attracted to ordinary women too. I feel nothing for men.

    I do not think that just some unspecified “attraction” to good looking men is linked to sexual orientation, unless you feel sexual attraction to them. It sounds like you just appreciate male beauty, and this does not necessarely mean homosexuality: beauty is beauty, it is objective.
     
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