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I dislike hearing the phrase "you're so well spoken." Like it's a surprise that a black person can be eloquent, analytical, and (I'll say it) the smartest person in the room...:rolleyes:
 

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That I should be a stud because of the size of my penis.

"Joseph, you should have sex!"
"Why?"
"Your penis is big!"
"So I'm automatically going to make every girl orgasm even though I'm a virgin who wouldn't last 15 seconds?"
"... Umm..."
 

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That I should be a stud because of the size of my penis.

"Joseph, you should have sex!"
"Why?"
"Your penis is big!"
"So I'm automatically going to make every girl orgasm even though I'm a virgin who wouldn't last 15 seconds?"
"... Umm..."

Sounds like they were suggesting yoiu have sex with them. :wink:
 

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in my lifetime i have experienced so many different pressures from so many different people for so many different reasons.... the biggest ones have been on my sexuality, which still faces its share of hardships, but i have become much more confident in that part of myself with age, and can stand up for myself with a lot more confidence even though the battles have actually become a lot harder....

in actuality, i think i put more pressure on myself now than other people do.... at face value, i come off as pretty normal to most people so the notion of being pressured by others isn't something that comes in to play while i go about my day to day life among other 'normal' people.... it's only as they get to understand my inner workings that things start to get weird.... i'm seen as quite social but i'm actually a hardcore introvert.... i'm seen as a newly established young adult but i'm actually nearing the rites of middle age.... i'm seen as 'relationship material' but i've actually always been single and have no plans on changing that.... i'm seen as a highly educated, well traveled person who should be upwardly mobile in his career but i actually never went to university, have not traveled since i was 14, and am still waiting for a career breakout that actually gets me out of the bottom of the pudding cup....

most of these assumptions happen because of where most of my peers happen to be at this stage in their lives, and it doesn't occur to anyone around me that i might just be an exception to all the above stated things.... my own personal sense of integrity, standards, and beliefs rule me out of most of these things, and in turn i often have a difficult time relating to a lot of people.... for that reason, i used to put a lot of pressure on myself to conform to this pre-set lifestyle and it only resulted in a lot of depression and exhaustion because i burned myself out trying to fake it for them....

this past new year's day, i adopted a theme which i use as an almost daily affirmation to myself and the world around me.... it often gets me through those tough moments and helps me to re-realize my power as an individual.... the chorus is especially empowering....

Michael Jackson - Scream - YouTube
 
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Don't know if this counts as a sexual pressure but being expected to NEVER want another women, as long as I live, because I have a gf... I'm sorry, but it's not that easy. There's no on off switch for that. I CAN control whether or not I sleep with them (which I don't) but damn, is it that bad that I sometimes WANT variety?!


YES!! You sir are evil and must be destroyed!!! Teehee!!! Just kidding! Probably not a good idea to share that little tidbit with your girl tho. Would probably go over like a lead balloon!! Lol!
 

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I dislike hearing the phrase "you're so well spoken." Like it's a surprise that a black person can be eloquent, analytical, and (I'll say it) the smartest person in the room...:rolleyes:

When compliments offend you, maybe you actually are not the smartest person in the room. I mean should I get upset when someone tells me I have a large penis, you know being white and all like it's a suprise? give me a break man
 

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When compliments offend you, maybe you actually are not the smartest person in the room. I mean should I get upset when someone tells me I have a large penis, you know being white and all like it's a suprise? give me a break man

This makes no fucking sense!
 

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When compliments offend you, maybe you actually are not the smartest person in the room. I mean should I get upset when someone tells me I have a large penis, you know being white and all like it's a suprise? give me a break man
i can only assume you have no experience of being widely discriminated against.

it's not flattering to prove a person wrong after they've assumed i'm an imbecile just because i have large breasts. i don't take it as a compliment when a guy is surprised that i can manage simple household repairs without crying, chipping a nail and begging for a man to save me.

their expression of surprise merely places you as the exception to their bigoted stereotype. the stereotype remains. all other women will still be assumed frail and incompetent, all other black dudes will still be assumed low brow and barely coherent.
 
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When compliments offend you, maybe you actually are not the smartest person in the room. I mean should I get upset when someone tells me I have a large penis, you know being white and all like it's a suprise? give me a break man

Do you get paid less up front because your dick happens to be bigger than someone thought at first? Don't be patronizing - perception of dick size and intelligence are two very different ball games with very different economic consequences.

Are you familiar with the term "back-handed compliment"?