Sexual rhythm

Discussion in 'Women's Issues' started by D_Erin Gobraless, Dec 12, 2007.

  1. D_Erin Gobraless

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    I just had horrible sex last night. Ugh! It was sooo bad. At one point I wanted to push him off and say "Stick to masturbation and stay away from women!" As it continued I wanted to knee him in the balls and scream, "Get off of me!" You'd have to say "get off of me" first to be able to knee him in the balls though.

    It was nauseating. He kept going slow and fast and slow and fast and slower and then faster! It was like a never ending rollercoaster.

    I turned to him during and said, "Just go slow." He responded with, "Why?" he said girls like these variations and that this change gives them a better orgasm. I like consistancy or a rhythm.

    Are there others like me or do you all like terrible nauseating rollercoaster sex? What rhythm do you like? All slow? all fast? or slow and fast and then slow and then fast and then slower and then faster? Just typing that makes me ill! Ugh!
     
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    I only feel sad that your partner didn't take the time to accomodate your preferences.

    My partner, my girlfriend, actually likes what you described.

    By the way that isn't assumption: I ask her after each session and get better each time. I just hope we don't ever break up; it's a lot of work unlearning old habits.
     
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    Ive always liked rollercoasters! :biggrin1:
     
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    there is only one way with duder: fast and furious.
     
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    How many hips have your broken duder? All that pounding. Relentless...

    Stupid penis of mine is reacting again.
     
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    a ton. maybe i should lay off the geriatrics...
     
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    I laughed for a minute at that.

    That's such a terrible mental image!
     
  8. D_Erin Gobraless

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    Duder! You remind of the guy who sat behind me in math in highschool and walked in every morning with, "Dude! Guess who benched 220 today?"

    Back to rhythm: Blackkid how often do you switch fast to slow? This guy was like when you were a kid and you found it really fun to flick the light on and off switch back and forth really fast to watch the lights flicker.
     
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    Oh, no, I switch after a few minutes and the interval depends on the position as well. As I said I pay attention to my girlfriend's body and words so her commands and actions usually dictate the speed. Lately less commands and more reactions so I am getting better with timing, but the insta-flick method is a definite fail. Even for men that just sounds like failure.

    You really do have my sympathy.
     
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    I'm not sure where your from, but I'm in Maryland and I could deinfetly make you forget about that terrible incident. It breaks my heart when I hear about women having terrible lovers.
     
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    I recall reading about a method of a certain number of long thrusts, or deep thrusts, followed by one short thrust. For example, six long, one short, then five long, two short, and so on until the reverse is occurring, more short thrusts to one long thrust. The idea is to provide some variation in sensation, and also delay orgasm if that's an issue.

    I've used this method occasionally, wonder if your partner was trying something similar.

    In any event, ignoring what the vajeen owner in front of him wanted to A) satisfy himself and 2) based on what previous vajeen owners have enjoyed is ridiculous, at best.
     
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    woah. this is insane. i actually took math in high school!
     
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    Ha. The phrase "appropriate to the moment" springs to mind yet again. That, and "Listen..."
     
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    For the Record the method you speak of is actually used by the. . . Some Oriental Country; it was developed some time ago and is in some "Sutra-like" book. It delays orgasm, and allows the male to massage the G-spot ( short - quick thrusts ) as well as allows for deep penetration ( Longer - slower thrusts ) even though mastery would be pretty much almost pulling the penis out ( since the nerves of the vagina are known to be at the "edge" or first few inches en mass ) and keeping it on that edge whilst barely touching the g-spot.

    Obviously this is difficult with multiple partners as everyone is different.
     
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    Have you considered the possibilty he was sending your cunt a message in morse?

    But hey, that's so sexy, isn't it? When you say nah, I don't like that and the guy says but chicks love this... Wow, what a turn on!! I would have drop kicked the fucker into the middle of next week rather than lie there having minus fun... Please tell us you gave this guy the local army barracks phone number instead of your own and told him you like straight up, no intro dirty talk and not to mind if you sound funny answering the phone...
     
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    Save the jack rabbit sex for bunnies.:mad::tongue:


    Oh sweet God! That is pure torture! Dare I ask how old he was and if his name is Mark?



    ROTFLMAO Jet lag has not effected your sharp wit.
     
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    even though mastery would be pretty much almost pulling the penis out (since the nerves of the vagina are known to be at the "edge" or first few inches en mass) and keeping it on that edge whilst barely touching the g-spot. Lies all lies! The entire vaginal canal has nerves. If it didn't then all women would crave men with 3 inch dicks and this site wouldn't have lasted a week. :tongue:

    Note: I said "en mass" after that statement meaning that most of the nerves, not all, are in the frontal area. Also, women and men will tell you that pressure, not neccessarily nerve stimulation, can be pleasureable; that's oft how massage works. Pressure instead of direct mass nerve stimulations.

    Otherwise massagers and vibrators would put the massouse out of business and of course girth wouldn't matter as "Girth" is the "Pressure Element" and length the simple nerve rubbing element.
     
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    I don't think you should kick people in the balls for varrying the speed of intercorse, what if a guy wanted to slap a girl for not cumming loudly enough
    that wouldn't be right either....
     
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    yah telling people what they like is stupid
    women do that to me all the time tho
     
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    I think it's just a matter of being able to understand each other (also speaking to each other, as a last resort), regardless what you like: slow, fast or tantric.

    Sex is communicating, not just banging.

    I'm very open minded about the rhythm, I let things to flow, since I'm still single, I've met a top guy a couple of times -notice I'm a guy- the first time I let him do as he wanted: he was doing a very frantic fucking that I was scared he was going to injure me with his massive knob, but it didn't happen, I cum three times without masturbating instead, and this happened very few times in my life.

    The second time I asked if we could do it "slow" as I seem to prefer, he did a thing that made both of us happy, mostly slow, sometimes frantic, after half an hour I had to stop just because I started to bleed but I wanted to go on, I wish I had more experiences with big guys to widen me!!! after that I had to suck him for ages to have him cumming.

    So it was better the "quick" but more orgasmic frantic fucking I have to suppose.

    I could see him again in the future, who knows how we will make it the next time, and it's very likely he will give me his bum for a while as he told me lol

    Someone in that situation who says "because the others like this way" has gained his way out very quickly and he's not gonna see me again:

    1. I'm not "the others"
    2. here we are in two, let's try to have fun together if possible
    3. if I asked you kindly not to do it, and you don't even try to listen to me: I'm finished, dress you up

    I think it's rather "the basics of sex", if two partners are not able to find a common point I think they just don't fit[*] each other.


    [*]: and... no! add on for gay readers: if before fucking or when you've just started, the guy stops and says "WELL, I THINK, WE JUST, DON'T FIT" gesticulating the "fit" thing with his hands, it translates into "I'm sorry I'm not going near anything that's not at least 9 inches long, and thick. I didn't ask you because you would have thought I was a size queen."
     
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