sexuality continuum confusion

[oneguy67]

I recently had a frank conversation with a straight acquaintance of mine about straight guys and the issues they go through with regard to sex with women. This conversation happened over a lot of alcohol, so we got pretty graphic and frank (though annoyingly I had to censor the gay stuff because he was having such a high "ewwwww" reaction to even tame details).

But anyway, what shocked me is that penetrative sex with a woman started to sound kind of appealing to me. (Ladies, I'm sorry if that came out badly, but I've just always gone for guys.) Yes, even sobered up I'm still thinking about it. I've noticed that I've had a slight trend towards checking out straight porn as well over the past year or two (that's my current 1% straight factor).

So I guess my question is, has anyone ever had this happen? Did it turn out to be something that you had to try out? I was a late bloomer (the 30 year old virgin) and had avoided women and men completely until my first guy experience.

I have a hunch that, seeing as I tend more towards the bottom/passive side of things, that this is somehow a variation of the "getting fucked by a straight guy" fantasy, and yet, it would be me doing the fucking. Or maybe it's me trying to re-live all the fumbling, amateur teenage sex that I never had.

Let me know what you think.

 

[sdbg]

I went all the way with girls 5 years before I did with guys. I could potentially be attracted to either sex depending on the person. There is just that certain something that happens inside my lower stomach when I look at a cute guy and he looks back and smiles at me that doesn't happen in the same scenario with women. Thinking back, I've had some pretty good times with women, though. I should change my %.

 

[oneguy67]

I went all the way with girls 5 years before I did with guys. I could potentially be attracted to either sex depending on the person. There is just that certain something that happens inside my lower stomach when I look at a cute guy and he looks back and smiles at me that doesn't happen in the same scenario with women. Thinking back, I've had some pretty good times with women, though. I should change my %.

I agree with that "lower stomach feeling" when there's that electric spark with a guy. I just wonder if it's worth switching sides at least once to see what it's like.

 

[kazooplayer]

Ha, me and my gay roommate were talking one time, and I think I kinda got him intrigued about having sex with a woman... also, he was smashed... maybe this is happening everywhere! Pussy-Power!

 

[sdbg]

I agree with that "lower stomach feeling" when there's that electric spark with a guy. I just wonder if it's worth switching sides at least once to see what it's like.

If the vibes are right, you find yourself in a situation where you can share affection and give each other pleasure. Straight guys who hop over the fence once in a while to see what it's like to be with a guy get to check out the same thing. Why not sample all the good things in life?

 

[oneguy67]

Ha, me and my gay roommate were talking one time, and I think I kinda got him intrigued about having sex with a woman... also, he was smashed... maybe this is happening everywhere! Pussy-Power!

LOL, maybe that's it! The straight guy enthusiasm for the topic sure does come through!

 

[oneguy67]

If the vibes are right, you find yourself in a situation where you can share affection and give each other pleasure. Straight guys who hop over the fence once in a while to see what it's like to be with a guy get to check out the same thing. Why not sample all the good things in life?

I think that's probably how I'll handle it. I'm not exactly Mr. Studly with either sex, so I'm not too worried about being confronted with a choice. :biggrin1:

 

[tripod]

The vagina is a MEGA POWERFUL organ... it is clearly made for a penis (unlike the anus) and feels INCREDIBLE! The rectum is an organ for waste removal and is lined with muscular ribbing for passing stools, to have sex in the butt is truly improvising when there is an organ that feels even better than a mouth between a women's legs (I have never wanted to fuck a woman in her ass... I am just not into colons... call me crazy). I understand the "stomach" feeling you guys get and that is pretty much the deal breaker... you might enjoy having sex with a woman, but you will NEVER be attracted to them like you are attracted to guys and that is what women really want... to feel "attractive" and "desired". So you would ultimately be doing them a disservice whilst you are "trying out" their vagina.

 

[oneguy67]

snip... I understand the "stomach" feeling you guys get and that is pretty much the deal breaker... you might enjoy having sex with a woman, but you will NEVER be attracted to them like you are attracted to guys and that is what women really want... to feel "attractive" and "desired". So you would ultimately be doing them a disservice whilst you are "trying out" their vagina.

I would agree, Tripod. I think the key to "trying" is to make sure the woman knows honestly what's going on and it's truly all about sex for both of us.

There's NO WAY I would lie to or lead on a woman just to get sex and risk hurting her emotionally.