sexuality question

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by sartorius, Aug 19, 2011.

  1. sartorius

    sartorius New Member

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    I am interested in other's opinions. I am a male and consider myself straight but I have same sex sexual fantasies (mostly mmf and large penises). I also fanasize of shemales. I enjoy sex with women and enjoy cuddling and kissing women. I have no desire to kiss or cuddle or be romantic with a male. My question is can one be only interested sexually in both sexes without romantic feelings for the same sex?
     
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    In short, yes. I'm typically the same way, but I'm trying to work on getting over the lack of intimacy. I would suggest that if you ever decide to act on your same sex attraction to do so with a good and trusted friend, then see if feelings develop from there. I'd bet you still don't and won't have the romantic feelings but you might at least have a friend you can share these thoughts with who can relate.
     
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    In a word, yes. The association with sex, sexual power, sexual dominance, and sexual desireability have been associated with larger genitals for millenia. It is deep in our biological and cultural memory. It is at a visceral level. We have been programmed at very deep levels to be turned on and attracted by large genitalia, as overt displays of power and desireability to breed. It is not something that most people are overwhelmed with on a constant level, and their personal preferences of course vary quite a bit, but your brains has been programmed to associate a big dick with power, alpha male status, etc. etc. 99% of the time, a straight guy will have certain fantasies and desires, and sexuality or ability to feel sexual towards someone run a spectrum. The large majority of guys that are mainly straight but not absolutely straight I have ever known feel exactly as you do. Your sexuality, as I have said over and over mainly has to do with your EMOTIONAL desires. Who you have sex with, or how, or whatever, is based on a desire of the moment--it is a complex soup of ever changigng factors. It goes in phases. The main thing you have to decide is if you ever want to act on those desires. Do some real soul searching about it--don't get into a situation that you aren't ready for. Most of all don't beat yourself up or anybody else up mentally or emotionally, either. This can lead to internalized or externalized homophobia because of the internal panic over occasional thoughts or desires. Most of the time, it is left as an occasional masturbatory fantasy, or some porn that relates to it, and that is that. give yourself a break, and try not to sweat it much--you aren't alone, and it is very rare for someone NEVER to have such fantasies or thoughts or desires. Chalk it up to being human and being part of the human race with all the crap that goes with it. Learn to laugh about it, mostly, but don't act without thinking it through. :smile:
     
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    dear David,

    i don't know how i landed on this thread from a year ago, but i did, and i read the question from that honest guy and your very experienced, well reasoned and thoughtful reply.

    kudos to you.

    did he ever reply to you ?

    and how did you get so intelligent and insightful ?

    i now feel the need to read all your posts the past year but only wish i had the time

    aloha dude,

    abu
     
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    Agree wholeheartedly with the YES!s

    Had a Neat straight Married friend who had amongst other kids, two twin boys.
    He was absolutely fascinated with shemales, and often used me to drive him around to 'view' said persons
    Remained Loyal thruout to his Lady & Family, as far as i know

    Sorry its taken this length of time to answer your query OP?
     
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