Sexuality. What do you think? Str8, bi and gay guys. Ladies also, please comment :)

[zack800]

Hey guys. This is the first time I'm starting a new topic here and I'd like to hear what you guys have to say about the following questions that I have in my mind....
To start off, I'm 18 this year and I'm Singaporean Chinese.

I decided to be even more conscious of my reactions to guys after chatting with shybiguy and this is what I have to say about the observations of my feelings.
Today, 18th March 2010, I made a trip to a garden in Singapore with my family and thereafter went to a nearby shopping mall. Then I took a train to return home after that. Throughout my outing and throughout the past year, I realise I find more guys attractive than females... That also applies to caucasian guys. I just don't know why. As long as they are slim, pretty tall, muscular(a plus), I find them sooooo hot. When I see those guys walk past me or standing next to me or in front of me, I squirm internally with blood surging through my veins.

Oh yes. I'd also like to hear what you guys think of homosexuality. Does having a physical, sexual and emotional attraction qualify me as a homosexual/ bisexual(I have sexual attractions for females too but I find hot guys hotter than hot females lol) And no, I'm not trying to label myself I just wanna understand the perspectives of you guys on this Seriously. I really wanna enjoy this process of discovering myself so that I'll really be true to myself.
About gay porn...I basically watched them and noticed how I react to them in the videos... the following is what I have to say:

Since the start of my puberty, I've always enjoyed watching guys stroking their cocks on cam... no doubt. Also, I would spend hours looking at the bodies of hot, muscled men. Sometimes, that would make me sooo raging hard and that hardon remains there as long as I continue looking as those pics.
When I looked at to college roommates enjoying sex today, that was a massive turn ON. When they starting kissing and stroking each other's bodies oooo. I got such a hardon and my whole body started flushing, heart started palpitating. Damn. And when those guys whipped out their above-average cocks, Yes, I did have the urge to stroke those beautiful balls and cock, suck it and make them squeal in gratification. Anal sex seemed pretty hot too except the fact that I don't like being bottom. I guess it's just a matter of time that I'll accept it huh? I think that rimming really is disgusting... I can't imagine sticking and flicking my tongue around the shithole....lol...

Sorry for making this message soo erotic as I am merely trying to describe those feelings I had.

So what do you guys think of this?

Another questions I've always had in my mind is:

What makes a real man? (This question goes out to all the really mature men out there)
And after reading this post, what do you think of my sexuality? I'm not trying to label myself but I wanna see where I'm headed towards.
If possible, use the sexuality spectrum as prescribed in LPSG thanks everyone!

If I do indeed consider the implications of living with a man next time and forgo the responsibilities that a man seemingly should have, (having a family, children, being the breadwinner of a family etc), will that mean I'm less of a man?
Thanks Guys!

Hope to hear from you all

 

[zack800]

Any comments fellas?

 

[crescendo69]

Many gays have indeed raised children. And many did a good job.

Being gay has no bearing on your "manhood". Neither does being straight. Many will try to convince you differently, though, especially the conservative, right-wing types.

Learning to be yourself is a challenge you face your whole life. I wish I had done better, myself. You may find you enjoy both sexes, which is okay, as long as you are honest about it to your partners and yourself.

You seem to have an intelligent, open mind and a good, honest heart; I'd say you are going to do just fine.

 

[georgiabass14]

What makes a real man? A guy who is comfortable about himself and doesn't feel the need to project whatever heteronormative caricature of himself to feel accepted. As vague as that is, that's what I think. It's 2010, and the idea of gender roles has greatly progressed, so don't feel like you have to do something/fill a role because society says you should. You'll only be miserable choosing to do what others want you to do.

It's totally fine that you're attracted to both guys and girls. Whatever makes you happy (and is legal) is all you should care about. It's always good to take stock and reassess yourself at certain points just to see how you're feeling, so don't be surprised if you swing further in either direction.

As for me, I make it simple and tell people I'm gay since the chances of my being both emotionally and sexually attracted to a girl are quite small. It doesn't change the fact that I have fantasies of going down on a girl while I'm being fucked by a guy, but it's just easier to explain, and if anyone wants to know the specifics, I'll say so.

Also, not all gay guys are fond of anal sex, so don't let that bother you. I think everyone should try it (because why not?) to see what suits them, but again, you won't always crave it, and that's normal. A lot of times, heavy making out, oral sex, and frotting (rubbing cocks together) can be just as erotic as penetration.

And personally, you sound at least 80-20 (gay-straight).

 

[zack800]

Hey guys. Thanks for the wonderful comments I really appreciate you guys sharing what you think about my life experience.
This seems to be a really good post for me so far

Hope you guys out there will have more to say I'm listening people! Regardless of sexual orientation, race or gender etc, feel free to comment

 

[zack800]

Feel Free to comment

 

[zack800]

Anymore takers?

 

[D_Eddie Withagun]

It's totally fine that you're attracted to both guys and girls. Whatever makes you happy (and is legal) is all you should care about.

Same-sex sexual activity is actually illegal in Singapore.

Section 377A ("Outrages on decency") states that:

Any male person who, in public or private, commits, or abets the commission of, or procures or attempts to procure the commission by any male person of, any act of gross indecency with another male person, shall be punished with imprisonment for a term which may extend to 2 years.

There are also many other laws that incriminate gay people.

All over the world.

 

[georgiabass14]

Oh yeah...I totally forgot about that. When I said legal, I wasn't thinking on the level of human rights violations. With that respect, I would still have sex with other consenting adults, but then I was culturally indoctrinated the same way.

How much is it enforced in Singapore, Mark? I know an actor over there who seems to be in a pretty open relationship with his boyfriend, and to my knowledge, he hasn't gone to jail.

 

[dolfette]

but people notice when rich, famous actors vanish.

 

[georgiabass14]

Haha...he's not rich or famous.

 

[492801]

Hmm he may not be rich or famous but sexy and smart seem to be very likly but back to topic to some people the three topics you listed sexual,physical,and emotional do make you a homosexual but tho that is true some gays will say homosexuality is to live up to certain lifestyle expectations but hey who cares if you like men like them I'm the only white tae kwon do instructor I know so who cares tho have no same sex laws in singapore does not help.
Good luck
-A

 

[zack800]

thanks for the reply guys

 

[kit_kat]

I agree with georgiabass that you sound a lot more gay than straight. I'd take it as far at 90-10 though.

Don't worry you are a perfectly normal man. You can live with another man and raise kids and be a good life partner and Dad,
just not in Singapore because those laws will get in the way. Try not to end up in a situation where you are married
to a woman and pretending to be straight while carrying on affairs with men because that's cruel and cowardly.

If you find that you really do prefer being with a man, or you meet the love of your life and he happens to be a man
then you'll be better off trying to find a way to move out of Singapore.
Canada, Norway, Sweden, Netherlands, Belgium should be friendlier than most other countries. And you might be able to get asylum based on those crazy laws in Singapore, it can take a while to process something on this basis so if you do decide to move, apply quickly, don't wait until you get to a point where you get beaten up in the streets or sent to jail and you become well known locally which might endanger your life. Sorry for the scary picture, I hope the people in your city are not nuts like that.

 

[zack800]

Still listening

 

[georgiabass14]

I'll ask my friend about what it's like for him.

 

[helgaleena]

Kit kat is right. You must be careful about the laws where you are and consider living some other place. It would make you very miserable to pretend to be straight when you are not, perhaps even physically or mentally ill.

If you want to have a family and children, that is still possible without being married to a woman. But above all do not have a family unless you actually want children. It is the worst cruelty to bring children into this world with no intention of loving and caring for them, only going through the motions or actually harming them.

 

[Darkriff]

As I have read in other posts, and even stated in other posts, I consider a human sexual nature far too complex to simply label or sum up in a short paragraph. I personally believe that there is a sexual side to each individual, as well as an emotional side. Littered all throughout this site are examples of that, men that are attracted to dick, but not to men in general as they "couldn't see themselves in a relationship with a guy." Same goes for some guys that don't mind masturbating around their friends. From what I gathered from your post you were wanting others to help label you, well I won't do that, it does sound like you already know the answer to your question tho. Embrace it and be true to yourself and that's where true happiness lies.

Good luck to ya and god speed.

 

[LGX]

Found this interesting artilce on the topic:

Gay for Pay / Are there really any straight men in gay porn? - SFGate

 

[B_ILIW]

Australia is not far from you (in the grand scheme), so why not go there for some wang?

i think that gay rights, in a conservative society, is an uphill struggle. best move to an area that you can be yourself in. life is short after all.