Maybe I'm misinterpreting your post Chrys, but are you saying that maybe your parents erred in their upbringing of you because there's something wrong with the way you are now? Because you are oversexed?
I have wondered about that many, many times, primarily because my "oversexedness" has caused so many problems in my life. My brother recently left his wife of 12 years after his serial philandering led to his "falling in love" with a different woman. My parents have now disowned him. He and his ex-wife have three young boys, who are now almost exclusively influenced by their mother. He has called my parents and said nothing...just sobbed on the phone.
I don't know if there's something "wrong with us." Maybe there's something wrong with everybody else. But I do know we have both experienced and doled out pain because of it. I haven't been a serial philanderer (maybe it's a little harder for women to live with that), but I remember, years ago, when I first saw the movie, "Rambling Rose."
If you've seen it, it's basically about an "oversexed" young woman. She can't help it -- that's just the way she is. I remember seeing that movie and crying. It wasn't a tear-jerker. It's just that I thought, "She's me. That woman is me." In the movie, they were considering removing her ovaries so she wouldn't be so much of a...<insert label...slut, nympho, whatever>.
I am pretty sure very few mainstream organized religions have this mindset. I think most simply say respect your body and don't abuse it. There may nave been a time when the above was true but no longer.
You can't get away from the fact that the vast majority of mainstream Christian churches are, or at least try to be, "Bible-believing." This can have a variety of definitions (even for the members within a particular church), but the following Bible passage plagued me for most of my life:
"You have heard that it was said, 'You shall not commit adultery.' But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to sin, tear it out and throw it away; it is better for you to lose one of your members than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away; it is better for you to lose one of your members than for your whole body to go into hell." Mt. 4:27-30 (NRSV)
I always figured that what was good for the gander was good for the goose. So if a man could be "thrown into hell" for looking at a woman with a lustful eye, then a woman could just as easily be condemned for looking at a man with a lustful eye.
The first time I read the Bible the whole way through, I was twelve years old. But I had been reading it since I was old enough to read, and it said a lot of things that really scared me.
I started lusting at a
far earlier age than most people, and I
could not stop. Every night I would confess to God, and the next day I would do it again. By my early teens I knew myself well enough that I could no longer deny the utter pointlessness of confession, and just "gave up," knowing I was too "sexually amoral" to ever live a proper Christian life. And if I couldn't confess, then what was the point of talking to God at all? I lived in misery for years, and all because of a few childish fantasies, and the fact that everyone around me took the Bible literally and could not view certain things in the context of metaphor and hyperbole. That, and the fact that I was "oversexed."
It's hard not to think something's "wrong" with you, under those circumstances.
I know I've wandered from the intended topic of this thread, but "sexualization of children" is an incredibly complex issue, and obviously a "loaded" one for me.