Sexually Frustrated

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  1. lvlgdck

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    I haven't had sex in three years (actually, I've lost count). All I can THINK about lately is sex - fantasizing about a massive cock inside of me. Is this because I've reached my "sexual peak" era of the thirtysomething phase?

    My dildo and I have become GOOD friends lately. (even better friends than we've ever been - and we've always been close, mind you)

    I'm finding I spend more time on this site reading posts, looking at pics of hawt (that's hot, only REALLY hot) cocks and even looking at the Adult Website links and masturbating to some really down and dirty porn.

    I'm not the type of woman to just go out and find me a piece of meat (clearly with the three year gap), but I'm starting to seriously consider it.

    There was even a guy I was PMing from this site who suggested coming to visit. He seemed like a neat guy but I think I've scared him off entirely with my overzealous "yes, come to my town!" response.

    Any guidance for how to re-focus and get past this obsession that seems to have taken over my very being?
     
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    Whatever you do, please take precautions and enjoy yourself.
     
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    Sorry, LV, I have no advice for you; I'm right there with ya!

    Actually, if I was right there with you I might have a solution to both our problems...! :p
     
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    One of you can pay for the trip?
     
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    make sure you take LOTS of pictures to share with us :) LOL j/k. Its been about that long for me also. I feel your pain.
     
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    feel with your hands and end some pain. Yes, I know coupling is a bit more fun. I had a few dry years myself.
     
  7. B_Jennuine73

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    Have you waited because you need an emotional connection? If that's the case and you just go out and get laid, you may feel like shit after.
    That said though, I don't see what's wrong with you going out to get some satisfaction. Stay safe.
     
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    I guess I've never been "that" kind of girl...one who just goes out and picks up a man...seems SO unsafe to me. And yes, I'd feel like shit.

    But honestly, like I said, I'm seriously considering some sort of solicitation or something...even though my dildo's awesome (very thick and long) it's no substitute for a man's touch or the warmth of his flesh.

     
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    I'll get RIGHT on that...after you, of course! *wink*

     
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    Went through that spell even when I was married to my first husband. I would try to just talking at first with that member here to establish that connection before hooking up with him. See if , one he is safe, two , if you might hit it off and have a fun relationship.
     
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    Listen, getting a man isn't hard. The BEST way to do it is to ask your friends if they know anyone who would be interested in you. If this doesn't work... Go to a Nice (emphasis) and busy club and sit alone (or maybe with a few friends... Dance alot or whatever works for your style) at a bar and look lonely. Don't bring friends, men are big ass pussies and friends of people who get hit on are judgemental ass hats most of the time and drive people off.

    GO OUT, find places to hang and get to know people. You'll have guys all around you, just be social. Guarenteed to Work. If it doesn't work, you did it wrong. The main thing is to be sociable. However, if you don't like someone be sure to get rid of them quickly (not harshly, just bluntly) otherwise people might think you're with him.
     
  12. Phil Ayesho

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    sounds to me like you are waiting for some guy to ask you...

    Go out in the world and meet new people- especially to events that might be frequented by the kind of guy you might like...

    And when you meet someone who seems a good candidate... ask him out.

    Any man who can't deal with a forward woman is a pussy... best to find that out right up front.

    But your chances of finding a decent match are directly tied to the number of men you meet.


    As to the horniness.... don't you have any long term male friend who you can trust to simply fuck you silly?

    in a friendly fashion?
     
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    Instead of a piece of meat I'd suggest looking for a lover. In the US there's not a lot of talk about finding lovers but I think it's ideal for these sorts of situations. Preferably you should try to find someone close to where you live, and if you can find someone online, through this site, or any other, that could be beneficial since you can chat with someone a bit before ever deciding to meet. A lover who is farther away can also be good to create space and avoid certain other issues though you don't get to see them as often obviously. However, if you've gone without sex for 3 years maybe someone you only see infrequently will be be enough to satiate you for a while. When I speak of a lover I mean someone with whom you can enjoy sexual intimacy without a desire to create a more conventional relationship. These relationships can be much more fulfilling than just trying to pick people up for the purpose of sexual release. And, since for many people sex gets better with time it can lead to better sex as well... which is nice. In any case, be safe and enjoy yourself.
     
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    Thats a sad story... no no just live!
     
  15. D_Ivana Dickenside

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    maybe you should ask friends to set you up on dates if you're not comfortable meeting men on your own. or you should try out personals and online dating. i'm sure if you can meet someone who suggested to come see you, then you can definitely meet someone in your area. just be upfront about what you want. this way you (and/or your friends) can find someone who's interested in the same thing.
     
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