sexually speaking, how dominant are you?

[upone]

As dominant as my partner wants me to be.

 

[hbbeachbum]

I am gay... And It may sound weird...but I consider myself a submissive top- nothing is hotter than when the bottom takes control..

 

[trapmusik6]

I'm surprisingly dominant in bed but out of bed I'm laid back and don't care all that much and actually dislike anyone acting dominant.

Ya same here. My ex told me she was surprised because im not the most vocal person out of bed.

 

[Ron Wilson]

I can be fairly dominant. But I can't really pigeon hole myself into one area. I find it simply depends on what mood I am in. Hey, what guy wouldn't love to wake up to a frisky girl where she initiates it, makes you lie back, while she takes control?

At the same time sometimes I love to pick my girl up and throw her around and dictate where things go. As long as she's enjoying her part in the act, so am I.

 

[Stringer]

I think I lean toward dominant but I don't like the pigeonholing terms, as someone already alluded to. The reason I bump this thread is because I was with a guy last night who, halfway through our session, flipped a switch and just started being dominant. This was after we smoked a little weed; I was the more aggressive one in the first part of our going at it. He was calling me boy and giving me little sexual orders and it felt weird as hell. I actually lost my hard on.

1. I don't like the manufactured role play. Can't we just let things naturally flow without feeling like I'm in a bad porno?
2. I'm assertive in real life so having more control in the bedroom makes me feel comfortable.
3. I'm still not that experienced so I have a ways to go before finding out who I really am and what I really love in bed.

 

[D_Percy_Prettywillie]

I spend every day making decisions. The allocation of resources, the redistribution of labor, yes or no to any given client- that's how I spend 10 hours every day, roughly 6 days a week. That's to say nothing of staffing concerns. After a while? Being "in charge" (even though I'm not necessarily) burns a guy out.

So sexually? I'm almost something more than submissive. I love being dominated. I figured out not too long ago that being choked (not the fake kind- like, hands clamped as hard as they can be) and spanked (same story there.) I haven't followed this to its natural resolution- meaning I haven't found a limit yet. I don't think I'd like being ordered about. "GET MY LAUNDRY OFF THE FLOOR" seems like it would prompt a "do it your fucking self" from me, but having someone physically force me to do something?

I just popped a boner thinking about it.

JSZ​

 

[ShannonH]

I can completely identify with what you're saying, JSZ. Most days, I am extremely dominant sexually (ropes, cuffs, spanking with my belt, blindfolds, etc.) There's a small percentage of time when I'm completely burned out from work stress where I absolutely love my partner to be dominant. I'd say my natural state is dominant and that's my preference, but when I need to be completely in control of my daily life I find that balance in sex.