Sexually transmitted disease in monogamous relationship?

[brooklynjackp]

A) Get treated - BASED ON THE RESULTS OF THE TEST!!!!
B) Talk to your girlfriend, at length. Eg, if you developed urethritis, you may have infected HER. You dont want to be accusing a longterm partner of infidelity based on internet advice!!

I was accused of giving a partner the clap - turned out he had urethritis (not clap), I did not, and indeed HE had been playing on the side. Much drama based on dishonesty & jumping to conclusions. The relationship never recovered.

A lot of people here make snap diagnoses, usually based on partial information - not cool.
Your doctor is almost most certainly your best source of direction - try to be as honest about everything as you can, so he/she gets the complete picture.

Good luck!

 

[monel]

Definitely do NOT jump to any conclusions until your medical tests come back!!!!

Do not jump to any conclusions until you've been properly diagnosed.

Much drama based on dishonesty & jumping to conclusions. The relationship never recovered.

A lot of people here make snap diagnoses, usually based on partial information - not cool.

I wish I had've thought of that :smile:

 

[molotovmuffin]

Any word yet?

 

[okidude2]

Can't say conclusively, but gonorrhea comes to mind based on symptoms. If this is the case, there is at least a third person in the mix. Neither of you can give the other an infection that you do not have.

Her recent complaints may be a way to tell you that she is seeing someone else. This really has nothing to do with your busy schedule, except it allowed her to have an excuse; but, she more than likely would have used a different excuse if you were not busy.

Good luck with your future. I think it may be without her.

 

[Infernal]

I've had non-specific UTI's when I haven't had sex with someone for months. It isn't common, but it can happen. Hopefully it isn't your girlfriend cheating on you....

 

[purpleaz]

First of all, sorry for delay. I didn't want to reply before I get final results and pass control visit to my doctor.

Based on the latest test results performed by specialist, it it not STD, just infection caused by external factors (climate change, cold water, AC etc.). It seems that unprofesional behaviour of my doctor and her rushing with conclusions, created all this fuzz. As I already wrote, she directly told me that it is STD and I should be aware where I got it (otherwise this topic wouldn't exist). After additional tests, visit to another doctor and antibiotics therapy, everything went back to normal.

I notified my girlfriend about my problem, she was also quite surprised. My suspicion and this whole situation caused a little of unrest between two of us, however we had nice discussion that could potentially improve our relationship. Specially now, when we excluded STD.

Based on discussion, my conclusion is that main cause for our poor sex life is routine. For sure, we should both take a blame for that. We had honest chat and decided to try some new things, to be inovative and I hope this will bring some positive results.

I want to thank you all for your replies. You were really helpful. Some of you made me laugh, but once again I could see why I followed this community for so long time.

 

[B_subgirrl]

Thanks for the update!

I'm very glad (and not at all surprised) to hear that it wasn't an STD. I'm also glad that you've got things sorted with your girlfriend.

If your doctor told you directly that it was a STD, then I really, really hope you aren't seeing them anymore, and that you've found a doctor who is more suitable.