Sexy Straight Friend

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    latinojk3 New Member

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    I'm starting to have this problem..I have this marine friend that we been hanging out for a couple of months. Hes really good looking he's about 6ft tall all muscle got the biceps, pecs, he's got brown skin and beautiful smile. We've hanged out but recently we've gotten closer as in hanging out every weekend..I'm bi and I know he straight.I I think I'm starting to get fellings for him..I don't know if its lust or somethingelse but it started this past weekend..we went hiking and it got hot so we endedup without our shirts and I was behind him and I couldn't stop lookin @ his sweaty back and nice ass. I keep wanting to grab it. So when it was over we went back to my place I took a shower and then he took a shower and he comes out in his boxer briefs. Were really comfortable around each other ..but he has a nice buldge and I really want to see his dick to see what he's packing but I don't want these feelings. We have a good friendship and I don't want to ruin it..what should I do?
     
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    it may depend on whether you are looking for "love" or sex? just because you think he is straight does not necessarily mean he wouldn't like to fool around.
     
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    If you're confident that he is straight, then leave it alone. The risk of losing his friendship isn't worth it. None of us can have everyone we think is hot. The proper exercise of self control is vital to a happy life.
     
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    i couldnt agree more with this... Self control is the most important thing when working with straight friends...

    My best friend is straight... and homophobic.. but he threatens to "do things to me with his penis" all the time.. But i know he is only joking and if i were to actually make any advances towards him, that would be the end of our friendship...

    Some things just arent worth it.. :l

    ps.. just go rub one out the next time you feel like grabbing his butt... that should keep you under control for a bit
     
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    Mmmm Does he know you swing both ways? If he does and he is comfortable around you in only his briefs I recon you are only a few drinks away from some lustful playing.
    If he does not and he thinks your 100% straight then I would not pursue it as you could lose a good friend. Even if he is just a bedtime fantasy at least he will still be around to admire.
     
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    I know the feeling bro, and yes, that feeling is lust. Lust can be agonizing, especially when you like the whole person, not just the body. I have a lot of hot, straight buds, including my best friend. There's really nothing to be done but to endure it. Maybe jerk off before you get together.

    Does he know you're bi? If you're more than just acquaintances, you should tell him. Coming out really reduces the tension in my experience (one less secret to keep, fewer appearances to maintain), unless he's a homophobe or biphobe, in which case he is unworthy of your friendship anyway.
     
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    Yes I know the situation all so well. Most all my friends are fuckin hot guys. I have fucked up some good friendships with my sexual desires. I agree with what was said above. Better to jerk off before hand. Not thinking of them either. A friend is worth alot more than a sexual desire. friendship will last forever. sex geta in the way of friendship. Or come out of the closet. Be happy you have great eye candy to look at. Otherwise if you open up to him, word can get out and be damaging to you and your friendship with others
     
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    i've had the same feeling with my best friend in uni as well :/

    sucks to be that situation :S
     
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    I agree with most of what has been said. I know he is hot and I know exactly how it feels but don't try anything sexual with him not even grabing his ass cause it's dangerous and you can eventually (not immediately) ruin it. You may fall in love and that would be the end.

    Value the precious friendship. It is better than a lust or even love sometimes.
     
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    This has to the best advice given!!

    Now, that said, we all know that there are some str8 guys that will push the boundaries given the right opportunities. I believe that there are ways that you can present these opportunities, without crossing that "friend" line yourself.

    You say that you are really comfortable around each other, so if there is another "shower" opportunity, don't throw it in his face, but casually come out maybe in your towel, drop it, and get dressed in his presence. If he doesn't react negaively, or shocked, that may ease things up a bit in the nudity aspect, and he may do the same.

    Possibly go the "porn" route, and see if that leads anywhere.

    I want to clarify that none of this is "making a move" on him, but just opening up the possibilities of opportunities.

    If he doesn't make any moves, or give any hints that he is open to anything, just value your friendship with him, and leave it at that.

    Good Luck
     
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    Thanks for the responses guys but no he donst know I'm bi. And I don't really want to say nothing because he sometimes complaines when he's at work and he uses the open shower that some guys would stare at him and he hates it. That one time he came out in his briefs he wasn't walkin around in them when he got to my room he put on shorts. I guess I should just leave it alone and look on the brightside that I have great eye candy...but I think I wouldn't feel right rubbin one off while thinkin about him. We have a good friendship..do u guys think its ok?
     
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    Nothing wrong with thinking about him while you jerk off. I think about my best friend when I'm jerking off sometimes (sshhh, don't tell him).

    Also, I hate it when guys perv on me in the showers, and that doesn't make me a homo/biphobe. But if he is one, you should consider how healthy it is to forge close friendships with people who hate you for who you are.
     
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    I thought all Marines were bottoms.....................
     
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    I'm in a similar situation. A very good friend of mine that I've known for YEARS has been staying over at my house just about every week for the last year. I'm pretty sure he knows I'm gay and it's never been an 'issue' as far as our friendship is concerned. When he spends the night, he sleeps in my room on a mat next to my bed. I've told him that he can be as comfortable as he wants to be when he's here. He's free to fart, touch himself, wear whatever he wants and all that. We also openly discuss all sorts of things together. Anyway, he's straight for the most part although I know he's done his share of 'experimenting' with other guys. When he's here, I usually sleep in a pair of loose boxers without any covers on. He sleeps in some sweatpants and covers himself with a blanket.

    Anyway, I'd love to do something with him, but I RESPECT his privacy at all times. I'd never want to loose the closeness of his friendship by pushing his boundries too far. If he wants to do something, I'm sure he'd let me know. Meantwhile, I figure we're as close as friends can be without having a sexual relationship. I also figure that he's comfortable with me BECAUSE I don't violate his boundries. That's the way it is but believe me we love each other....and that's not some fantasy on my part.
     
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    SO, you too have read Zeelands books.
    And if you haven't,

    "The Masculine Marine", "Military trade", "Barrack Buddies", ecc.

    These are all true stories based on interviews.
     
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    If you made a move,
    you'd loose your friend.
    Take everyones advice, squirt one out before you see him. Two even, and about
    feeling guilty,
    don't be silly.
    You'd actually be respecting your relationship by relieving yourself of the sexual tension
    that exists during your times together.
     
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