Define it by example, wording, drawing, or whatever works. ...I'd say it is always there in the space of contradiction. Girls that are cutely mischevious, or wildly calm. It's there in those looks over the shoulder that are incriminating but lustful at the same time. I mean...it's hard to put a finger on, because it's so damn cool. It's hard to read, but it yanks at this place in you all too well. Sexy. So I guess sexiness to me is the hard to grasp, yet easy to feel.