Shallow Best Friend

[TheRob]

Shallow .... Yes, absolutely!
Best Friend...Hardly.

you know some shallow people can still be good friends

 

[luka82]

Lopo maybe he wasn`t serious....Maybe he was jelaous you went there without him....Don`t get me wrong, I don`t hang around with such people, because my friends and I are very supportive with each other. But I have seen it happen...people say silly things just because they are jelaous. Because if the guy were that shallow, wouldn`t you have noticed it before? I think he was just trying to provoke you!

 

[FRE]

I'm going to the UK and Europe for three weeks in late July. :wink:

Are you going by sailboat?

 

[FRE]

Actually, I had this silent fear that he might do this to me. Because whenever he was with me, he'd talk behind every person he was ever friends with. But I wonder why he was the popular one and I was stuck behind him.

Oh my! That should be very nice! I wish I had the money!

Your fear is warranted. If he'll talk about others behind their backs, he'll do the same thing to you. I eschew gossip; I will not permit people to talk to me about others like that. It is basically destructive. If he is sufficiently perceptive, he will learn that talking about people behind their backs will cause people not to trust him. However, some people never learn.

So far as being good looking is concerned, it can be very nice. But some people rely heavily on their good looks instead of acting in a friendly, kind, and fair manner.

 

[lopo2000]

Maybe he's jealous, maybe he's just two-faced. I really don't know. Maybe I'll learn in time, I have just been friends with him for 5 years anyways. Could be longer. But, when he was supposed to be supportive, he was supportive. But he had this very harsh perspective when it comes to looks. I guess all friends have their own weaknesses and his would be this. I have mine that he could tolerate. Friends come in packages, and we have to accept them as a whole package. Thank you guys for your opinions.

 

[B_Nick8]

gays tend to have twisted characters and personalities, and don't say what they mean with any directness

Please don't continue to spread your self-hating generalizations around. These behaviours are human, not gay.

 

[hung9mike]

Speak for yourself. I'm gay and I don't behave like that.

gays tend to have twisted characters and personalities, and don't say what they mean with any directness

he probably was hurt and jealous would be my first suspicion

 

[hung9mike]

I think you have to distinguish between someone who's fun to hang out with (who might be this person) and who qualifies as a real friend (who, based on this story, doesn't appear to be this person). I think you will have fun on your trip with whoever it is that you ordinarily have fun with, regardless of who people say they are. You're not going on this trip to take pictures of your "hot" friends you can impress people with on Facebook.

My advice is: Accept this friend for what he is. I know people like him, and they can be fun to know. But I wouldn't listen too carefully to his advice on this or any other topic. He simply isn't capable of thinking that deeply.

Then he started explaining that when we were going to faraway place like that, it's important to go with people who were handsome (he's gay by the way) because we'd take a lot of pictures and they were going to be in the pictures. And another reason would be, going for a trip with "nerds" like them would not be fun... Did you guys ever have any experience like this? How did you react?