Shamed/looked down for rejecting people

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Doesn't bother me much, but over the last years I've been told "I'm bitter" "no fun" or "and old man" for rejecting certain individuals. Like I get approached by really messy individuals, people in relationships, coworkers (strictly forbidden to me) or overall shitty people and I obviously turn down their advances, yet I always have someone telling me I should have gone for it.
Sorry, worked hard on being confortable and happy with myself, if you promise me hell I will obviously not accept it.

Why is this?
 
Nothing wrong with turning someone down, but you don't have to be shitty about it. Just remember how it feels to be turned down yourself and be a little gracious. Heck, it's a compliment.

I'm straight, but have lots of gay friends, so I have lots of experience with this. It takes no more effort to be kind. To be snotty about it is just a cruel way to gratify your ego.
 
Nothing wrong with turning someone down, but you don't have to be shitty about it. Just remember how it feels to be turned down yourself and be a little gracious. Heck, it's a compliment.

I'm straight, but have lots of gay friends, so I have lots of experience with this. It takes no more effort to be kind. To be snotty about it is just a cruel way to gratify your ego.
Except I'm not shitty, I do my best to be polite, it's other people who FEEL they have the need to be nosy about it. Like I'm missing some grand opportunity (obviously not)
And I'm bi, so if I reject someone it's because they are definitely not good people (not because of their gender) and honestly, I'd rather not be asked out, makes me uncomfortable and nervous.
 
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Sorry, worked hard on being confortable and happy with myself, if you promise me hell I will obviously not accept it.

Why is this?
For your specific case, I think those around you are being overly critical for what is a reasonable expectation of maintaining your own peace...what I will say however, is I think they're gleaning mistakenly from the general societal urge to look down upon or shame people that are highly prone to rejecting interested parties, but then will complain of lack of interest(which doesn't sound like you)
For example a lot of heterosexual men tend to look down upon heterosexual women whom vocally reject a lot of men on the basis of preserving peace, but endure the violations of peace from the few men whom do meet certain metrics, but still conflate those violations with men in general.
Again at face value, it sounds like your social circle is misconstruing your selectivity for something it isn't....the only grace I could offer their way would be if they could point to an example of someone you were willing to overlook the messiness of, because they were attractive enough in other ways to compensate.