Read a news paper, depicting current events rather than Googling topics. THis way one can better understand that this is 2020
Harvey Weinstein
Bill Cosby
Jeffrey Epstein
25 Years ago these men would not have been up on charges, they would have gotten a pat on the back and a thumbs up. Not only by their peers; but from law enforcement. There is nothing shameful about sexuality, however anything done to an excess; or that intentionally harms others , all for the sake of sexual conquest is wrong
The OP used the term shame, one has to have a conscious to feel shame. Society has done so much to liberate man from the guilt of shame, it has little meaning any more. Robing / stealing someone, so what. Impregnating someone and walking away , so what. Abandoning ones family , so what .
Desire / urges are a part of human existence. Suppression of urges / just saying no is a part of human evolution