Shaming Size (not Sph)

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Ive seen/heard this a fair amount and I am always saddened and shocked

It Is not ok, yet people do it like it is. Not here, per se, but irl

Has anyone else noticed? I have overheard group discussions or been told about small penises where names were named and laughter, hand gestures, and shame were involved. It happens in movies/tv/media. I guess it’s like fat jokes which are too common for their awfulness, but with a penis it’s like outing a secret

Why would anyone think this is ok?
 
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yes it is quite common and accepted. very troubling. people don't think it through. they will say if someone has some bad personality characteristic that they must have a small penis because they are over compensating. it might be the opposite. it might be that a small to average guy might be more humble and empathetic with others. the big guy might be quite "cocky" or a jerk because they maybe lack empathy. that actually makes more sense.

Not sure why I chose not to capitalize letters. Maybe I'm overcompensating! LOL
 

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In the new Netflix movie, "Murder Mystery," starring Jennifer Aniston and Adam Sandler, there's a scene of women in a beauty salon and they're talking about sex, and one comments on a guy who used eggplant and donut emojis in a text to her, and the women joked that instead of an eggplant he was more "fingerling potato."
 

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In the new Netflix movie, "Murder Mystery," starring Jennifer Aniston and Adam Sandler, there's a scene of women in a beauty salon and they're talking about sex, and one comments on a guy who used eggplant and donut emojis in a text to her, and the women joked that instead of an eggplant he was more "fingerling potato."

Maybe she was just suggesting a more true to size comparison that would bring someone to reality! Many men don't use a true to size comparison to talk to others about the size of their penis. That is very evident around here. Even photographs are falsified by members in large numbers. Men seldom like to tell the truth about the size of their penis. Just sayin!!!
 

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This popular culture phenomenon has troubled many for decades, including both men and women. It's inherently unfair and cruel. There is the old trope where a woman performs some sort of test to determine penis size of a guy and then makes a joke about it and derides men with certain genitals (the trope itself is as much a male construction as it is female). What's ironic is that in real life, it is actually quite a reliable litmus test of the character of the person who jokes about it--again, man or woman. It takes a certain degree of cognitive capacity and thoughtfulness to see how unsavory this behavior is, and those who do not engage in it are much more likely to be worth the trouble of getting to know and possibly love.

Pop culture shows like "Sex and the City" that made this kind of cruelty to men popular are now coming back with a certain vengeance on women. Currently there is a growing scrutiny of vaginas in popular culture and some men are--just as cruelly--mocking women who have "roast-beef-like sandwich" genitals, and other unappealing comparisons. The shaving of pubic hair has revealed that women's vaginas have a lot of aesthetic variety, and what might appeal to one does not appeal to another. I have to admit that even I have not been so entranced by the sight of a few of them, despite my very healthy libido. But it was never an issue that would affect a relationship. And many women are very sensitive on this subject and do not like this emerging trope in popular culture.

The current generation of young men eschew chauvinism and, consequently, its notions of gentlemanly conduct to women, even in the face cruelty. So it might get to the point that for each joke on penis size we will hear an equivalent one on the tonality of vaginas. Until the tit for tat leads to a point in which there are no free targets in this arena and each cheap derision directed against one group is met with one against the other. Ironically, maybe popular culture will tire of this entirely when it comes from all sides and the only people who are mocked will be those that bring up either trope. That would be nice.
 
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I don't think it's okay. I don't enable that kind of behavior. I don't think the hot dog down a hallway or the memes about "when she says it's her first time" comparing women's parts to black holes and so on are okay, either. Nor do I think the "beef curtains", flaps, gash, etc comparisons are okay. It's just as prevalent, though. Shitty all around.
 
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I'm hung like a chipmunk, so I guess, as they say in law, I have standing. Luckily, I've never been subject to much unwanted teasing but, of course, I have heard small penis jokes and putdowns, either personally or in movies/TV. Frankly, it's never bothered me that much, although I'll admit times when I've felt a bit embarrassed sitting in a movie theater with a date when a small cock reference occurs.

IRL, if it's a joke, I'm only bothered when it's not funny. If it's a putdown, I'm not that bothered if the guy deserves it, either because he's an all-around jerk or behaved badly himself. I see no reason why a guy's junk is off limits. "All's fair in love and war"; it's normal to strike where someone's most vulnerable and, let's face it, for a man a small cock is a real vulnerability: there's no defense. If the comment is just plain mean and without apparent justification, then I think less of whoever made the remark.
 

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In the new Netflix movie, "Murder Mystery," starring Jennifer Aniston and Adam Sandler, there's a scene of women in a beauty salon and they're talking about sex, and one comments on a guy who used eggplant and donut emojis in a text to her, and the women joked that instead of an eggplant he was more "fingerling potato."

I mean if it’s honest commentary on his size that’s fine. Even if they laugh, yeah it’s a little denigrating, but it’s nothing compared to what women endure

Now if they showed a pic of his face or used his name, that is more of what I am talking about

I feel like I’ve heard about more small penises than big ones irl conversations

Maybe women just want to make me feel good and say so and so was tiny