Sharing a bed with straight guys

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  1. AndrewK

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    I am not sure whether this is the right sub-forum, but I would like to know the general views of people, especially straight guys.

    Basically, I am moving to a new place soon and have to furnish my apartment. I only have one bedroom, so I am deciding what bed to buy. I have about 7-8 really close guy friends that would almost definitely visit me at various times in this new place.

    I am thinking whether I should buy a bunk bed or a queen size bed for my room. All my close friends are straight and do not know that I am bisexual (and that I am kinda attracted to almost all of them!). I want them to be comfortable when they visit me, so I am wondering what is the general feeling about asking a close guy friend to share a queen size bed with you. Would a straight guy be uncomfortable or reluctant to do this, even with a close guy friend that he is visiting?

    I know that culture might play a role; my close friends are a mixture of Caucasian Americans, Korean Americans, Chinese Americans and Caucasian British.
     
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    Alot of straight males would do the whole freak out thing, then sleep on the floor after calling you gay.

    Of course some of the guys that are more comforatable in there sexuality might stay in the same bed.
     
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    In my opinion, get yourself the large bed because you're going to be sleeping in it most of the time.....might as well have a big comfortable bed for yourself!

    as far as guy friends.... be polite and offer but if they'd rather sleep on the floor that's their deal. i've slept with friends several times, and i'm openly gay, and it was never an issue....because we weren't sleeping together, we were sleeping on the same bed.

    but still, i think the bottom line is....buy yourself the bigger bed....cuz you're going to be the one sleeping in it regularly!
     
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    I agree with vegasola. Get the kind of bed you want to sleep on.
    And you know, you can buy roll-up foam mattresses (nicely covered in patterned fabric) that are surprisingly comfortable and cheap.
    Your friends can sleep on them, on the floor, in far greater comfort than you might suppose.:cool:
     
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    You can't keep on avoiding them, they might think something is wrong. Besides... blame it on morning woody.
     
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    I think that a bed should be as big and as comfortable as you can afford or fit into your room. with or without friends you will spend quite a bit of time in bed.

    I have slept naked in the same bed as straight friends (with their knowledge, of course) and there were no problems. On one occasion a friend asked if I had any straight porn and we watched a straight DVD and masturbated side by side (naturally I watched the guys in the porn and also my friend). He is comfortable with his sexuality and finds it amusing that wanking in my presence turns me on. He will kiss and hug but I mustn't touch his dick. I don't think I could be close enough to a straight friend to share my bed if he was sufficiently homophobic to be scared of lying naked with another man (gay or straight). Even if I fancy my friends I think it's impolite and unethical to grope them.

    I now live in Thailand where most people are astonished that I usually sleep alone. When staying with straight Thai friends or travelling with them I often sleep with them - sometimes the whole family is on one huge mattress on the floor.

    Culture definitely plays a part.
     
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    Unless you are reverting back to a childhood memory, whether good bad or fantasy, DO NOT GET A BUNKBED!
     
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    whats wrong with a bunk bed?
     
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    Get the queen size bed for yourself if you have the room for it. Get an inflatable twin size for your non-gay guests. Aero makes an inflatable bed that,when inflated by its' own internal compressor, it is standard bed
    height more comfortable than any bed in the house. Mine came from Bed Bath & Beyond. The queen will allow you to have gay bed partner when you have that opportunity. I'm just being practical with my sugestions.

    :smile: :biggrin1: :smile: :wink: :smile: :rolleyes: :smile: :cool: :smile:
     
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    I agree, DO NOT GET BUNK BEDS or anything that is aiming at those friends visiting. You are the one who will spend most of the time on it, so get the one you want.

    When they visit give them a choice (if they are smart and confident) they will realize sharing the bed makes the most sense. If they want to hit the floor let them be your guests! :biggrin1: After a few nights if they are smart they'll take the other offer.

    Just be sure to respect them so you don't create a bad situation with the friendship.:tongue:

    GD
     
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    Joining with the majority, get a bed that is comfortable for YOU! You can get a sofa bed, or as suggested, an airbed, for when you have guests stay over. That way, nobody has to be uncomfortable, and you don;t have to suffer if any do sleep with you, since you are attracted to many of them. Make it easy on yourself, and them. Good Luck!
     
  13. AndrewK

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    Thanks for all your comments. I guess it does make sense to get the queen size bed anyway. Basically, I will be staying in a one bedroom apartment. The apartment and my bedroom will be quite large, so that is not really an issue.

    I did think about getting a sofa bed in the living room, but since these 7-8 guys are so close to me (almost all were my roommates at some point or another), I am pretty sure that it would be more fun for us to hang out to chat in my room till late at night and then fall asleep together.

    I guess the main issue I was worried about was how would some of them perceive it if I offered to share the queen size bed with them:
    1. Would they be uncomfortable? (I have never shared a bed with the American friends before)
    2. Would it make it difficult (for both parties) if I start getting a massive erection while sharing the bed just wearing my boxers? (I have only ever slept naked with my two British friends).

    Masturbating with most of them would be a dream come true, but alas, that will not happen. Sigh, why do these straight guys have to be so good-looking!
     
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    Being a strait guy I would do this Get the bed u want then when they come over say "hey dude u can sleep in the bed or I can get ya a sleeping bag or u can use the couch" that way he has a choice and he gets to do as he wishes and if he wants to get in bed with you then maybe he likes you to ya never know : )
     
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    Get the largest, most comfortable bed possible. Good for sleeping, and fucking.

    Regarding your friends, bed sharing depends on more than sexuality. I can't fall asleep with anyone in my bed but my partner. I prefer the floor or sofa if I stay at a friend's house.
     
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    ...well straight guys get hard in bed while they sleep too. Have the blow up matress on hand, offer either to them. If i was them id sleep with u in the more comfortable bed...
     
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    I agree I have slept in the same bed with 50 to 60 str friends thru the years, seemed to bother none of them. Grew up playing lots of sports, if your team went somewhere usually 4 shared a rm (2 in each bed). We never thought anything about it. If they are uncomfortable let their ass sleep on the couch. Myself, like you was attracted to lots of them(not all). Most guys who grew up playing sports or were in a fraternity have no problem with sleeping with other guys or seeing other guys naked. I once slept with one of my fraternity bro's in a twin bed, he was 6'5 225 and I am 6'3 220. I was tore up all night. He did ask me the next morning if I always had a hard on all night or was it just him. I told him it was normal, but he might have had something to do with it and laughed. Then he said hell should have told me we could have beat off together. I just laughed. We did have a 3 way with one girl after that though, it was hot.
     
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    I agree with the majority of the posts here: get the good bed. When friends come to visit, just say something like "there are several options for sleeping; you may choose where you would be most comfortable." And leave it at that. They will make the choice they are comfortable with, and that leaves you out of the loop as far as their comfort levels go. As far as the boners go, it's your bed, you will or will not get boners. Just don't grope them unless invited to. If anyone notices your hard cock, then he must be watching your crotch - nothing you can do about that, eh?
     
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    I say you have one big bed and wait for all you 'straight' friends to act less "straight" post haste. :D

    Sounds very erotic.
     
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    But Stronzo, that is your answer for everything:tongue:
     
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