Sharing Wives or Girl Friends

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by Uncutpete, Dec 23, 2011.

  1. Uncutpete

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    This is a thread for guys who desire for their wives or girl friends to have other men. I know that there are many LPSG posters who love to pile on this subject with extreme negativity. Let me ask that this not be the thread for you. You have posted your opinions in many other threads. Please leave this one to people who are interested.

    This is a thread for guys who would like to see their wives or girl friends fully satisfied by a sexually strong, very well endowed man. It may be because of your wives' needs, your small size, sexual disfunction, or just the fetish of seeing her being fucked by another man -- and loving it -- but you want her to do it. If you want more information about bringing another man into your bed, and watching your wife enjoy him, this is a thread for you.

    If you have played the role of the other man for couples, please participate as well. I have been the other man (some call this being the "bull" -- I don't like the term) for several dozen couples over the years, starting in my teens. I would be happy to answer any questions you have.
     
  2. dolfette

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    you might get a less negative reaction if you made it about seeing your partner having sex in open relationships of all types: women watching their men have sex, gay couples, etc.

    it would sound a lot less like objectifying women and it would get a larger response.
     
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    I have been to several gang bangs as an observer. I have never participated...even when asked kindly:). Probably not enough to drink...3somes or foursomes is my limit.

    It's hot, it's horny , it's sweaty and loud. It's also controlled very much by the women. I have told my love about the goings on, she is interested also in viewing what happens. She has expressed fantasies, more as a voyeur like myself, but you never know until you are actually "there".

    For the moment though she is concentrating on her studies at Uni...as we all know things of the body can become addictive.

    I participated in several threesomes in younger years, none of which was sour. It depends much upon trust, truth and intuition. Like everything else in life.
     
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    I have had a mfm and found it to be fun and enjoyable.The couple that chose me was one i never new.She was about 150 -5'8 and a very shy person.The male was 6'0 and 210, prob a 7inch.I am sure it was his whole ideal.It was all about pleasing her,at first they wanted me to just watch them,then to her seeing mine,then touching it,but there was no sucking ,and from there on it was condom on and lots of intercourse.They only wanted me for that and that was it,she did not want me to give her oral just me inside her.And it was every way she and he could think of that i rode her and she rode me,may sound boring but was a lot better than i wrote.So if any ? let me know and i will try to answer for ya and I hope this helped.
     
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    Dans,
    Your one experience is similar to many of mine, though sometimes there were fewer limitations.

    Dolfette,
    From my point of view, there is nothing that objectifies the wife. I am, in fact, all about her pleasure. This involves being sensitive to all of her emotional and physical qualities. I love that. Giving her pleasure is my greatest fulfillment. That the husband has his fetish is fine with me. Fetishes may objectify to an extent, but everyone has some kind of fetish.
     
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    I'm giving this thread a bump after Christmas... to see if anyone wants to talk about this.
     
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    It's been a fantasy of mine for a long time and in recent times she (my lovely wife) has showed interest in it. To this point we've done nothing at all about it though. The closest we've come is exploring online, which feels safe to us (hence being on LPSG).

    Ideally Id be involved and it would have nothing to do with SPH or using a 'bull', but the fantasy does include a guy that is big. For years I've tried to analyse this fetish of mine and LPSG has helped to an extent. I know she was with at least two very well hung guys before me, and maybe that has always been something I subconsciously think she'd like to experience again.. :rolleyes::redface:

    For me it's a huuuge turn on, for her it is too, but it's more about just having a bit of fun probably, after being married and with one guy only for over ten years.

    We're now at a stage where we might be willing to try something, but the circumstances need to be right, which is the challenge. Without the right circumstances, the concern is that jealousy or other issues - such as privacy - might be a problem.

    I think taking that final leap is a difficult one, and I suppose I'd be interested in hearing how many others went through a similar dilemma in terms of the worries and stress about the possible repercussions?
     
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    There is no need for humiliation, and I think the term 'bull' is offensive to all involved. However, bringing an experienced guy into your marital sex can be a great experience for all involved.

    For example, I was with a couple a few days ago. We spent the entire night with the husband watching the wife and me most of the time. This is a couple, the wife of which I have been fucking, monthly or more often, for over a year. Previously, their sex had become fairly automatic and boring. She was less than totally satisfied.

    Having a well endowed, experienced, and sexually skilled guy who loves to give women sexual pleasure as a no risk partner, has totally changed their sexual relationship. They know that I will not be a threat to their marriage, at the same time she feels sexually attractive and powerful, and most important, totally satisfied. The joy that she gets from my penis, size, foreskin, ability to use it and last, is only part of it. His pleasure at seeing her fucked is also important.

    Sometimes one or two times with a couple will change things, sometimes a lasting relationship as the second man is the way, but believe me in many cases it works.
     
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    Howdo we find a well endowed man for the wife? We are looking in Vegas.
     
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    The best way to find a man to satisfy your wife is if you know a couple or woman who has had a really good experience with a well-hung and experienced man (I get a good percentage of my couples by word of mouth). That way you can ask about him. If that won't work, try a personal post here on LPSG for a well hung partner in Las Vegas. Talk to each other and be sure you know what you want in a guy, besides that he is well endowed of course. You can also try a wife sharing site like <wifelovers.com>.The whole site is devoted to finding other people for your bed. There are swingers sites and publications that you can advertise in too.

    Remember, since you are the couple, there are more guys who want you. Be selective. Be sure you know what you want to do, then talk to the guy about it. I really advise you to find someone experienced so that you can avoid an emotional attachment. You want to expand your sex life and her pleasure, not end your marriage.
     
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    I have shared my wife and it has a lot more to do with satisfying voyeur/exhibitionist fantasies. I'm a bit more than average size. My wife and I both agree that if she's going to play outside the marriage it might as well be worth it!
     
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    Every couple has their own reasons to want to bring another man into the sex. That is what makes it interesting. The wife may need variation; the husband may love to watch her in ecstasy. On the other end of the spectrum, the husband may be unable to satisfy the wife, and want to see her completely filled, and she may really need the sexual fulfillment. She may even want to see him humiliated and he may want to be. Those differences are the spice of life!
     
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    I throughly loved watching my ex-wife with her 'boy toy'!!! I love sloppy seconds and watching her get laid by several guys at once was very hot to me. We divorced after we had one of her female friends move in with us. She loved to be shared but didn't like the sharing of me which caused our divorce. After the divorce I became the "bull" in a couple threesomes but found that I actually get off sharing my woman vs. taking part of the third for another couple.

    My GF and I have talked about my sharing her and she is after a year actually considering it!!! I'll keep you posted!!!
     
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    I like hearing about your story. The situation with your ex-wife is not uncommon. The wife of one of the couples I am presently seeing refuses to let her husband have another woman, although she is free to see me and anyone else she wants.
     
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    Though my wife and I have never invited another guy to join us, I fantasize about it constantly. But to be clear, the fantasy and hopefully someday the reality has nothing to do with humiliation. There should be no bulls present. For me, it's entirely about witnessing an act of total sluttiness (and in no way a derogatory sense) on my wife's part. It's about watching her give in to her sexual desires fully, and about me being able to indulge her sexual desires fully. This is my favorite subject to discuss so feel free to PM me.
     
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    I like how bldrguy1 clarified "slutty". Regular porn has never done anything for me. I find "good girls being bad" (women, of course, was going for alliteration) very erotic. I do puruse amateur porn and enjoy it given much more likely that the she in the scene will look like just a regular women.
    I find it both erotic and good for the ego to have gf have green light to have some fun. She needs a little encouragement now and again and that I provide. First of all, she is pretty attractive, a few points up on the scale of one to ten than I am. So, she gets flirted with now and again. I remind her of her green light when she acknowledges the latest "hunter" has the look and attitude she finds alluring. A few times the guy has been a dud a few times a stud. Once he was "mammoth" (her word) in his endowment. She said it made for uncomfortable sex but that she did find the experience interesting. The fact that she has a little fling now and again and yet chooses to be with me is the second part that boosts my sometimes weakening ego. I always get oral to completion (she usually does not swallow) blow after every time and it always seems to kick her sex drive from above average to high gear for a while too.
    I fear I will get blasted for not having a sense of ownership over her. I just don't. Never had that jealousy gene. I do respect monogomy. It just isn't for me. Ah, she gives me the green light too. I have never went through it. Just not into it. It takes a lot of work for an Average Joe like me to get a woman into bed. I choose, key is MY choice, to put that energy (and money) into my gf.
    One of these days I would like to have a mmf with her. Things are going very well on all fronts right now and have been for a while. I do plan on crossing that line if she is okay with it at some point. Ideally, my fantasy, is that I get to "find" the guy. Of course, it would be someone from this site that happens to live in SE Michigan - ha ha.
     
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    Oh yeah, did get to have a mmf with a woman two gfs, five years ago. It was so wonderul. She was shy and it took her a while to relax. Once she did, by the time clothes were off and a few minutes of her getting two men sensually tracing their fingers over her body, she got realy "naughty". I am not ashamed to say, I was there so know it was a reflection of erotic it was to see her getting into it. I was just gently suckling her nipples and carassing her torso and shoulders, the other guy was in missionary, without being touched I had my first orgasm. Literally came just from being part of scene as if I was sixteen opening my first Playboy all over again. It made me laugh. She didn't know it happened until I told her later. Mr Usually One and Done (for a while, me) was ready for my turn the scene was so arousing.
     
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    I went to a wife swapping party with my first wife,got a great car for her.
     
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    I am not sure that objectifying is the right word. I think the title suggests that it is the man's choice to have other men fuck their partners. And I agree, Dolfie, suggesting that men will control what a partner does with her body is likely to raise a few heckles.
     
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