She says she's not into chicks, but......

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  1. ModestBrian

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    She loves girl on girl porn. It really turns her on and she likes it far more than watching a guy and a girl. Do you think she's a budding bisexual? Does this imply latent sexual desires?

    She knows that if she were into chicks I'd be all over it which may make her reject the idea a little more. But then she started getting really into threesome porn. Does anyone have experience with a similar situation? A girl who feels or felt the same way, or a guy who dated someone like that?

    I'd love to hear your thoughts
     
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    Boy, just because a woman likes to watch porn with variations of girl on girl or 3somes does not in anyway make her bi-sexual. It just means that she likes porn.
     
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    I agree. While porn is very visual, it is an act - a fantasy at the end of the day. There are lots of things I seek out in porn that I would balk at in real life. Chances are she might too but you won't know unless you ask her...
     
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    Well I've asked her and she balked, lol, but I'm not convinced. I think she's hesitant.

    She also wants to go to a strip club with me and watch me get lap dances. I'm wondering if she's they type of person that will increasingly be into all this kind of stuff.
     
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    I doubt it. The first reaction is usually the one that wins out, particularly if it is a strong one. Lesbian porn turns her on but the thought of being with a woman in real life doesn't. That's normal. She might be more drawn to seeing you being teased sexually by another woman (hence the lapdance thing). I don't know if she will be increasingly into that sort of thing but it sounds to me like you are hoping she will be...for your sake.
     
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    I'm definitely hoping she would be for my sake, lol. Who else's sake would it be?

    She's also talked about having sex with a naked girl in the room, that might tease or let me play with her tits while i'm having sex with my girl, but nothing further. So she's pretty openminded. I'm just wondering if she's hedging because she doesn't want me to get ahead of myself.
     
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    I like girl on girl porn, but I find girls pussies in real life... repulsive.
     
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    From a guy here....go with the lap dance and see what happens. Let her lead, don't push her. Support her exploration and remember it's all about her
     
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    No. She is just saying what she knows you want to hear! As Mike says, I would start with the lapdance and take it from there. The only thing I will say to you is take care not to push her into doing anything she doesn't want to do. I know of some men who basically nagged their wives/girlfriends into doing some three in a bed arrangement (in one case, it was MWM). In that case she went along with it eventually to keep him happy but finally she said she wasn't going to do it any more because she wasn't happy. Would he accept that? Would he hell! He demanded an explanation of why she wouldn't do it. She gave him the explanation but it wasn't good enough for him. He kept on and on at her to resume the three way action. She refused. He became aggressive with her, threatening to leave if she didn't start up again. Still she refused. He came to us for help, saying that he didn't understand why she didn't want to do it anymore and that she really enjoyed it - this is despite the fact that she had told him over and over why she didn't want to do it anymore. He honestly could not see that there was anything wrong with his behaviour...

    It turned out he was bisexual but in deep denial about it. During the three way MWM action, he managed to persuade himself that she was enjoying it, when in reality, he enjoyed the excuse to get his hands on another man "accidentally and with permission because he was doing it to please her" as part of the action. Somehow the fact that he was going down on another guy with enthusiasm didn't count because he told himself he was doing it because she wanted him to. Her real problem was her man was a bit too enthusiastic about having sex with other men and it bothered her. The fact that it was not pleasing her and never had became immaterial to him. The three-way was purely about satisfying his needs under the guise of satisfying hers.

    I am not suggesting you are bisexual but I am urging you to remember whose fantasy this is. It doesn't sound like it's hers. If she is balking or if she doesn't want to do it, do not push her into anything and don't, whatever you do, ask her do it "for your sake" because that is manipulative and things will only end in tears.
     
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    I think she's bullshitting you and wants it all! Thing is, she may not want you involved. She might want to explore that side on her own, so that's why she's hedging with you. She wants to see the naked ladies, wants them touching her breasts but doesn't want anything else? Nope, I don't see it.

    As I said, she probably wants it, but doesn't want you around drooling all over her and the other female. Maybe she wants privacy to explore.

    Just a thought...
     
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    How about her own?

    :rolleyes: Fuck's sake!
     
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    That's a possibility too.
     
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    I think she's bi-curious.

    I have no interest in lesbian porn but I love gay male porn.
     
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    It sounds like your girl is to shy to say straight up that she is ready to do some experimenting. Go to the strip club, have the lap dance and see if she gets turned on or jealous. That should give you the answer if she's just playing or serious.
     
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    I say don't do anything to push her. Go along with whatever experimentation she wants to try, but don't be disappointed if she never tries what you want. Because if you pressure her and make it your idea, she'll resist it. But if you support whatever she wants to try, then if she does have sex with a woman and enjoys it, then she'll love you for supporting her. It's win-win. The trick is that you have to genuinely not be disappointed if she doesn't go that far. You can't resent her for not living up to YOUR fantasy.
     
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