she won't try to touch me?

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  1. roy86

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    So,my girlfriend and I fool around all the time, I feel her up, go down on her, bite her nipples...it's all fine and dandy, and she likes it, but she won't ATTEMPT to even touch me. I even sometimes try to grab her hand and move it down to my dick, but she resists and pulls it back up. Now, after months of dating, she won't even try, and when I ask her why she says she doesn't know and I tell her that's not a good enough answer. So, while we were making out and grabbed her hand real quick and moved it down and she grabbed it, but only for about 3 seconds and pulled away.

    Ladies, what's the deal with this situation?
     
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    Run
     
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    i say leave her. i believe a good relationship is a balance of both emotional and sexual connection. if one of those aspects is lacking, or missing as it seems to be in your case, i think it's time for split.
     
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    Maybe she is afraid that she may want it in her pussy if she touches it too much. She is afraid she will come undone. :eek::wink:

    Maybe she likes touching pussy more than touching cock.
     
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    Stop getting on her. Don't even kiss her. She'll start to wonder what's up, get hornier and hornier, and hopefully make a move. If that doesn't work and she doesn't seem to get the picture that it's a 2 way street, leave her.
     
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    Do you ever have actual sex? Sounds like she may be a virgin and/or the product of a strict religious upbringing. The latter means she may never be able to initiate physical contact because she thinks it is wrong or slutty or whatever. :frown1: Happens to a lot of women, but it's a bitch to get over.
     
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    Three possibilities, none attractive:

    1. She was sexually assaulted or molested and has hangups.
    2. She's a lesbian
    3. She's conflicted about her feelings for you and sex.

    I go with what Nixxy says. You need to have a well-rounded relationship with someone and this is too one-way. You've been patient enough and again, none of the reasons behind her behavior bode well for you.
     
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    She wants to have sex, but we don't - it's a turn off knowing that she won't even touch me... though she'll get on me and start grinding her hips on my dick... all fine and dandy. i ask her why, i try to get her to do it...she just won't. maybe it's the fact that she's shy? thinking she'll do something wrong? but that's the thing: not doing anything IS wrong.
     
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    i don't think it's a religious upbringing thing. she loves it when he goes down on her, which technically qualifies as sodomy (any kind of sexual activity that isn't vaginal penetration). so, either she's selfish, or she's a lesbian, or she's not into him physically :confused:
     
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