Momma told me my new girlfriend/lady friend/occassional partner in social activities be a player. We met NYE...spent the next three days together...spent new years day in bed all day (naked, groping, cuddling, not penetrating (I was only groping above waist)). So anyway we got on, I noticed her eyes dilate when looking at me and she was very touchy feely and honest. Seemed good. Recently she told me she was still thinking about her ex a lot since they broke up just before Christmas which is understandable. At the same time she expressed that she "really, really" likes me. Now some times like today for instance she told me she has gone out with a friend. Didn't tell me where or which friend and I didn't ask because frankly I don't think its any of my business at this early stage in the game. It is just these times and my knowning that she gets texts A LOT (in fact one time we came out of the cinema and she looked at her phone and said "no one's text me in all that time?") lead me to believe that I may not be the only guy she is seeing. So what I was thinking anyway but that this recent revelation has confirmed is that I will propose to her that we stop seeing each other until she is a) over her ex and b) she decides what/who she wants. Now, I would like to be with her and for her to choose to be with me but I would respect any decision she made. I would even encourage her to move continents to be with her ex if that's what she wants (her ex lives on another continent, she used to work overseas). What do you think? I just don't want to be a girl's 'other man' and since I am not tempted to see any other girls I expect the same courtesy from here. Am I right? Am I wrong? Anyone been in a similar situation? BTW she is quatre ans older than me. So basically these are the options as I see it, maybe you see more: 1. Tell her we should have some time apart to let her decide what she wants 2. Not have any time apart and keep seeing each other, risking me being upset/embarrassed when/if it emerges that she actually is a 'player'