Shortage of women on dating sites

[hud01]

It seems the Chinese girls don't have a hang up about sex once they get to know you. In the USA, sex is considered dirty and girls don't want a part of it. In sex education class, I was only taught, "Abstinence is the answer. Don't have sex. Sex is dirty." In Europe, Asia. South America, and the Carribean, it is different and both men and women enjoy sex mutually without the cock-block of abstinence. cbrmale, quietguy, and Bonky you would never have that here in the USA. The USA is all about abstinence and prudity from Puritan standards. The women here get an attitude even if you just want a kiss.
The fact that prostitution is illegal in the US is a reason men don't get to relieve their urges for sex once a wife cuts off the supply of it after marriage and kids. This can ruin any marriage and that is why more than half of US marriages end in divorce.
Poison-ivy, stay away from Red Light Districts because those places are crawling with horny men whose main purpose is to get their dicks wet. At least go with a guided tour to be safe. They are less likely to hit on groups than to hit on a single girl.
Perhaps if women don't like getting hit on, it is better that all men stop hitting on them and let them choose their mate. I hate having to hit on women for a relationship as much as they hate getting hit on. I'd like to see how this is handled.

Instead of spending money on dates, please spend it on counseling. Your views are warped and angry. American girls do not think sex is dirty. They love to kiss, especially the right guy. You have eaten the apple of negative stereotypes of American girls.

The one I have found around NYC is there are a higher percentage of girls who say show me the money, but not all, just more of them.

 

[poizen-ivy]

So, are there actually any kid-less single 28-38 year-old women left in the world, or did I simply miss out? They seem to be an endangered species.

Head south, way south.

 

[hud01]

Head south, way south.

What a tour... Thaland, the Phillipines, and then end it with the beautiful beaches and women of Australia. Your dick will be in a splint, and you will be more than ready to settle down.yum:

 

[minimag]

Head south, way south.

Actually, I did that back in my early twenties. I was visiting 'net friends in Melbourne. They set me up on a blind date with one of their mutual friends.

That blind date lasted an entire week. No, no, no, it wasn't some marathon sex-capade. It was entirely "wholesome, proper, and prudish" and one heck of a fun time.

 

[spidergrrrl]

It seems the Chinese girls don't have a hang up about sex once they get to know you. In the USA, sex is considered dirty and girls don't want a part of it. In sex education class, I was only taught, "Abstinence is the answer. Don't have sex. Sex is dirty." In Europe, Asia. South America, and the Carribean, it is different and both men and women enjoy sex mutually without the cock-block of abstinence. cbrmale, quietguy, and Bonky you would never have that here in the USA. The USA is all about abstinence and prudity from Puritan standards. The women here get an attitude even if you just want a kiss.
The fact that prostitution is illegal in the US is a reason men don't get to relieve their urges for sex once a wife cuts off the supply of it after marriage and kids. This can ruin any marriage and that is why more than half of US marriages end in divorce.
Poison-ivy, stay away from Red Light Districts because those places are crawling with horny men whose main purpose is to get their dicks wet. At least go with a guided tour to be safe. They are less likely to hit on groups than to hit on a single girl.
Perhaps if women don't like getting hit on, it is better that all men stop hitting on them and let them choose their mate. I hate having to hit on women for a relationship as much as they hate getting hit on. I'd like to see how this is handled.

And people like you give Asian males a bad name. This, and your previous posts, are insulting, offensive, and piss me off. In a previous post, you mentioned not wanting to be a doormat or used and seemed to have the expectation that women wanted you around simply for cooking or cleaning. Give me a fucking break. When it comes to what women want from men, I'm pretty sure that's near the bottom of the list. Speaking for myself, I don't think sex is dirty, nor do I have the Puritanical attitude you seem to think is the norm with American women. You may want to look at a mirror to see where your frustrations are coming from. If this is the attitude you are projecting when you're meeting women, it's no wonder this is what you end up with.

Yes, I rather like that word too.

So, are there actually any kid-less single 28-38 year-old women left in the world, or did I simply miss out? They seem to be an endangered species.

Yes, there are. I'm 36 (37 next month) with no kids, and no plans for having any, either.

 

[minimag]

Yes, there are. I'm 36 (37 next month) with no kids, and no plans for having any, either.

Nice to know there are a few out there. Of course, the real tough part is trying to find a lady that doesn't think/say "ewwww" or flat-out laugh if I happen to walk by. I get so tired of the jeers and the people that stare. Although, it's pretty damn funny when they walk into mailboxes, parked cars, etc. because they are so oblivious to everything else.

 

[Dooky]

Yes, there are. I'm 36 (37 next month) with no kids, and no plans for having any, either.

he asked about single too!

anyways, darkseid had a point about the sexual education thing. that is what they used to teach in sex ed. now, they say "abstinence is the best, but use a condom if you REALLY have to". The problem is they teach kids about sex WAY too young. i had sex ed in 5th grade! i was 11!!! and we have the class about 3 times. the last time we learn anything about sex we were 14! that is so stupid. i believe they are trying to teach kids abstinence because they do not want these stupid kids to have kids. unfortunately, some kids may percieve such a thing to end up as "bad", while others quite ironically see it as something adults do and since, i mean, who doesn't want to be an adult? honestly, my learning of sex was horrible. i learned through porn. so i started off thinking women were sextoys. not to mention i have only lived with women my whole life. (my dad left when i was 8 and my stepdad was a d******bag) 4 of them. 3 sisters and my mother. while i do love them, 2 of my sisters are spoiled (maybe because my dad would just buy them shit to make them shut up) one of them is a druggy (and she's 16), and my mom is just an unstable lunatic who cares WAY too much about what i do (she's overly commanding, not an understanding person) It's been really tough for me to respect women and i know i should but sometimes i just don't. Some women ruin it for others.

Now a little bit on the first page. If a woman is going to a club she should NOT be looking for someone that is a boyfriend type. that is not where you find a boyfriend! or at least not where you look for one. serendipity may take it's toll but generally speaking, it shouldn't be your first choice. hence why when darkseid is looking for a hookup, he would go to a club or bar. bar's are a bit more low-key than a club but also it shouldn't be your first choice.

I just have A little bit off-topic rant... Why do you need to love someone to have sex with them? that's such a dumb concept. you know back in the day when it was thought women cant orgasm and that sex is for babies only. etc.. that's what i think of when i hear "you need to love them". I think basic trust and desire is all i need. I know women dont think as promiscuis-like, but why would you have sex as a god damn reward? It's like oh he is being so accepting and blah blah i think i will please him AND myself. how does that work? sometimes i wish i was gay. Then i could just go on craigslist and have sex whenever i want it. whenever someone else wants to be pleased as well.

If i offended anyone while typing this, get over it.


lol no just kiddin' but for real. women need to stop being hypocrites. they have SOOO many expectations for men. good-looking, salary to support a family(combined or not - not sayin the guy has to make all the dough), has to be there when i go shopping to carry my stuff (kiddin' hehe) but if a guy has an expectation of physical pleasure, which is mutual, they both experience pleasure, HES A ROTTEN DIRTY PIG.

 

[StrictlyAvg]

that would be interesting, though I'm not into asian chicks, but it would be a very interesting experience.

I am into Asian chicks and have been to those places. It gets tiresome very quickly to be hit on for money ALL the frigging time, and you just know that almost any approach in a big city is going to end up with some transaction or other and get defensive about being approached at all.

Which is a shame because they're great and warm people when they're not on the make. Even some of the sellers approach you with warmth, humanity and may have something you actually want - then you kinda get on with them ok, and can end up with a really entertaining few hours, even a city guide, a meal back at their home and a real insight into how people live.

And just because they're selling sex doesn't make squawked phrases that are the same as you pass every bar in town any more attractive even if she is good looking. Which is what just about every ill-educated bar girl does do. Not that I hold lack of education against them, they're out to make much better money than they would back on the farm in Isaan and generally do. It's just not what I really want.

Which leads you on to the next problem. The educated normal girls who might actually hit it off with you get hit on ALL THE TIME by fat old white europeans who think they're whores, cos every pretty girl in that town has to be a whore, right? So they're quite hard to get hold of. I mean how would you get on if you were out with your girl in SF and every asian guy you bumped into approached you for sex, thinking you were whore/pimp rather than a couple. You'd kind of avoid them, yeah?

Sound familiar? You get hit on in an irritating way by lots of people and only a couple out of a hundred are actually worth your while speaking to? Seems to be what most women complain about online and IRL. Interesting juxtaposition for sure. BTW the somewhat overweight middle aged men I spoke to who WEREN'T in S.E.Asia for sex tourism never got a moment's peace in certain touristy areas, even if they were with their spouses. It is pretty full-on.

It is an interesting place to visit but if all you ever experience is tourist traps you won't go away with a good impression. Have a look at Stickman Bangkok if you want some experiences from people who've been there.

 

[B_Bonky]

sounds weird. why are they all fat? I've heard stories by other people too saying that the majority of white dudes there looking for sex are fat. I don't get it.

 

[StrictlyAvg]

I don't get it either but it does seem to be a demographic that's prevalent in places like Patpong and Pattaya. Far too many social misfits of any body shape around for my liking tbh.

My friend that lives out in Bangkok avoids such people and rarely socialises with other westerners full stop out there. Being fairly decent in the Thai language after some years out there he does very well with Thai girls most westerners wouldn't stand a chance with.

The islands are a lot more chilled with less of the fat middle aged divorcees on the prowl.

 

[nay-nay]

Most guys on the net are never who they claim to be. Then there's that whole story about the Craigslist guy.

 

[hud01]

Which leads you on to the next problem. The educated normal girls who might actually hit it off with you get hit on ALL THE TIME by fat old white europeans who think they're whores, cos every pretty girl in that town has to be a whore, right? So they're quite hard to get hold of. I mean how would you get on if you were out with your girl in SF and every asian guy you bumped into approached you for sex, thinking you were whore/pimp rather than a couple. You'd kind of avoid them, yeah?

Sound familiar? You get hit on in an irritating way by lots of people and only a couple out of a hundred are actually worth your while speaking to? Seems to be what most women complain about online and IRL. Interesting juxtaposition for sure. BTW the somewhat overweight middle aged men I spoke to who WEREN'T in S.E.Asia for sex tourism never got a moment's peace in certain touristy areas, even if they were with their spouses. It is pretty full-on.

yes my girl has different rules for different places. No hand holding and no wearing shorts in the tourist area. No kissing in public, but in the taxi it is ok and in the room.....mmmm.

She went to great pains to make sure she did not look like any of the working girls.

I was lucky, being with a Thai girl, I rarely got hit on. The only real time was with a ladyboy who just did not want to hear the word no.

We lived on the other side of the river, away from the tourist areas, but we would go there occassionally for food and to exchange money.

When the average Thai wage is 3,500 a year, you can understand why the girls are the way they are. $20 may not seem like much to you, but it could be a week's wages for someone from the rural areas.

At the Rolling Stone bar in Pattaya, one of the waitresses really did a good job, so I tipped her 100TB. You should have seen the smile. That was for an entire evening, it would have been for one drink in NYC.

 

[DeepCurve]

IMHO it doesn't make a lot of sense for anyone to expect too much from online dating services. The simple reason is that the kind of woman the guys are probably looking for has absolutely no need of a dating service of any kind to attract men. All she has to do is stop saying no. So the women placing ads are probably not what the guys are hoping for.

Those women probably aren't looking for desperate lying jerkoffs who just want to get laid or cheat on their wives, either, and quickly learn that that's 98% of the available guys on the service.

Pretty much a train wreck all the way around. You'd really have to work it like a business to get anywhere -- much as Bonky described.

 

[Kayden96]

No rage like short rage...

Anyways, you'll pretty much find 4 types of women on dating sites.
1. Attention whores- They're hot and they know it. They also want you to know it. They want to know that you know that they know you know. Utterly worthless.
2. Ugly and fat women- You know that girl that sat behind you in math and smelled like cheese? Yeah, she's online, and she just winked at you, big shooter!
3. Career woman- She's intelligent and successful... Sounds good, right? Well, they have about 20 minutes a week to pencil you in for a date and that's only if you meet a rigged list of criteria.
4. Mrs. Perfect- She loves sports and drinking beer. She's good looking and funny... unfortunately, she's a plant and only messages you so you'll subscribe or maintain your subscription. Sorry, the pretty lady doesn't care about you, she's just paid to cruise the site and hit on horny losers to get them to buy the super deluxe dating package.

You only find two kinds of men on internet dating sites.
1. Horny perv- You know him and probably are him, despite your protests. He wants sex and naked pictures. This includes gay men.
2. Girl?- This is a guy on the internet posing as a girl with pictures he found online. Who knows why he's doing it. Maybe he's hoping you won't notice he's a guy when you meet up... or maybe he's hoping since you made the trip, you'll stay for the tickledick.

 

[BIGDICKSMALLBALLS]

dude, if a good looking girl is on a internet dating site, RUN. she has serious issues. Ever wonder why you dont see many decent girls on there, because women never have a problem getting attention or a date.Hence the number of men seeking vs women seeking. A women can get a date anywhere, a guy tries anywhere. Internet dating is the lonely seeking the lonely. Sorry if it stings a little but thats the facts.

 

[poizen-ivy]

No rage like short rage...

Anyways, you'll pretty much find 4 types of women on dating sites.
1. Attention whores- They're hot and they know it. They also want you to know it. They want to know that you know that they know you know. Utterly worthless.
2. Ugly and fat women- You know that girl that sat behind you in math and smelled like cheese? Yeah, she's online, and she just winked at you, big shooter!
3. Career woman- She's intelligent and successful... Sounds good, right? Well, they have about 20 minutes a week to pencil you in for a date and that's only if you meet a rigged list of criteria.
4. Mrs. Perfect- She loves sports and drinking beer. She's good looking and funny... unfortunately, she's a plant and only messages you so you'll subscribe or maintain your subscription. Sorry, the pretty lady doesn't care about you, she's just paid to cruise the site and hit on horny losers to get them to buy the super deluxe dating package.

You only find two kinds of men on internet dating sites.
1. Horny perv- You know him and probably are him, despite your protests. He wants sex and naked pictures. This includes gay men.
2. Girl?- This is a guy on the internet posing as a girl with pictures he found online. Who knows why he's doing it. Maybe he's hoping you won't notice he's a guy when you meet up... or maybe he's hoping since you made the trip, you'll stay for the tickledick.

WOW, You're really fucking offensive.
Good luck with that.

 

[minimag]

WOW, You're really fucking offensive.
Good luck with that.

Sure, it was offensive, but he does make a valid point. Although, even cheese-smelling large women can get "action."

Even the most disgusting woman or gay man can get laid nearly any time they want, because there's always some horny dude out there that will oblige them.

 

[voyeuristic]

I think I'm pretty cute, have a boyfriend (who I'm in an open relationship with), and still use Craigslist and OKCupid. Why? Because I'm picky, have specific kinks, don't drink (or hang out at bars/parties where alcohol is the focus), and tend to be pretty clueless about when people are hitting on me.

 

[B_Bonky]

I think I'm pretty cute, have a boyfriend (who I'm in an open relationship with), and still use Craigslist and OKCupid. Why? Because I'm picky, have specific kinks, don't drink (or hang out at bars/parties where alcohol is the focus), and tend to be pretty clueless about when people are hitting on me.

yeah you're all right, but you really need to shave that shit

 

[minimag]

4. Mrs. Perfect- She loves sports and drinking beer. She's good looking and funny... unfortunately, she's a plant and only messages you so you'll subscribe or maintain your subscription. Sorry, the pretty lady doesn't care about you, she's just paid to cruise the site and hit on horny losers to get them to buy the super deluxe dating package.

EXACTLY!! They'll usually send you a message 2-3 days before your trial account expires. Once you subscribe, you'll never hear from them again. BUT, you will hear from another hot-chick right before your subscription expires. Or, in the case of the "pay to chat" sites (like how Lavalife was, and probably still is), she'll send you a "wink" and a request to chat. So, you spend your tokens for a 5 minute chat session. After a few minutes of small-talk, it's time to buy more chat time. Feeling like things are going well, you drop a chunk of change for a 30-min chat session. As soon as you type "okay, I'm back" she'll either suddenly disappear without a word, or she'll suddenly have to go answer the door, take the dog out, rescue some orphans from a burning building, etc. Either way, she's gone, your tokens are spent, and you've got 27 minutes left on your chat session.

Yes, I have fallen for their ploy on more than one occasion. What's funny is the fact that now I'm seeing picture profiles of all of my favorite amateur-porn starlets. Wow, "Nextdoor Nikki" wants to chat with me?!? Bullshit.