Shortage of women on dating sites

[B_Bonky]

WOW, You're really fucking offensive.
Good luck with that.

LOL I agreed with his list. I'd just add one more:

#5 The Single Mom

You're in your late 30s or 40s and have at least one kid. Too bad the dad skipped out on you because now you will see just how hard it is to get a date. Those days, a decade ago, when men would do anything for you? Gone forever. You'll have a string of short term relationships where men will lie to you, and after a couple years of dating losers and cheaters you'll either retreat to a lonely fantasy world and will smother your child because you have no one else, or you will turn to the sex sites and become a total slut just to get a man to spend the night with you.

 

[minimag]

I think I'm pretty cute, have a boyfriend (who I'm in an open relationship with), and still use Craigslist and OKCupid. Why? Because I'm picky, have specific kinks, don't drink (or hang out at bars/parties where alcohol is the focus), and tend to be pretty clueless about when people are hitting on me.

I do believe the proper reply would be: "U SuOnD sOoO HoTt!1! A/s/L??"

Yes, the typo was intentional, because it has been my experience that people can't spell for shit.

 

[minimag]

LOL I agreed with his list. I'd just add one more:

#5 The Single Mom

Don't forget about guy type 3:
#3 The Virgin Gamer
These are the dorks that profess to have memorized their PDF copy of The Kama Sutra. They've got their games so heavily macroed that they can do 10 different things with one hand, because their other hand is busy flogging the bishop. They'll watch porn 24-hours a day, but wouldn't know what to do with a real woman even if she sat on his face. These are the dudes with severe acne somewhere on their body. The dudes with one chafed hand. The dudes that subsist on energy drinks and hot-pockets. The dudes that get turned down by prostitutes. The dudes that know the exact location of every "spawn point" to "farm" but can't find the g-spot.

 

[D_lkjhgfdsa1234]

And people like you give Asian males a bad name. This, and your previous posts, are insulting, offensive, and piss me off. In a previous post, you mentioned not wanting to be a doormat or used and seemed to have the expectation that women wanted you around simply for cooking or cleaning. Give me a fucking break. When it comes to what women want from men, I'm pretty sure that's near the bottom of the list. Speaking for myself, I don't think sex is dirty, nor do I have the Puritanical attitude you seem to think is the norm with American women. You may want to look at a mirror to see where your frustrations are coming from. If this is the attitude you are projecting when you're meeting women, it's no wonder this is what you end up with.

All you women that find my posts offensive, I don't care because I speak my mind and don't care if you don't like me. You probably wouldn't have dated Asian men anyway as you are already set with your standards and preferences. You know there are women in this country that ruin it for other men and do use them as doormats. Spidergrrrl, most American women ARE Puritanical and us men always have to watch what we have to say around them. Sorry for bringing this event on this site but I was written up for sexual misconduct when I talked to my co-worker in my former engineering job about a porn movie I produced and I tried to avoid her when I talked about it but she happened to walk by my cubicle and overheard. So after this happens, who wouldn't think American women aren't Puritanical? Women here can hate me all they want for all I care because they wouldn't give me the time of day anyway on the streets for just breathing and being short. If anyone should look in the mirror it should be them!! I did nothing wrong to them.
I totally agree with Kayden96 and others who write about scammers and fakes on dating sites as I tried them also and found these types. Dated the fat chick, the single mom, and the whacky professional. All not my type.
Newflash Spidergrrrl, you are not the norm in American women as most of them hate sex and cut the supply of it off after marriage. A good thing I can say about you is a dude would be most fortunate to have you because you love sex and love intimacy with your man.

 

[D_lkjhgfdsa1234]

Don't forget about guy type 3:
#3 The Virgin Gamer
These are the dorks that profess to have memorized their PDF copy of The Kama Sutra. They've got their games so heavily macroed that they can do 10 different things with one hand, because their other hand is busy flogging the bishop. They'll watch porn 24-hours a day, but wouldn't know what to do with a real woman even if she sat on his face. These are the dudes with severe acne somewhere on their body. The dudes with one chafed hand. The dudes that subsist on energy drinks and hot-pockets. The dudes that get turned down by prostitutes. The dudes that know the exact location of every "spawn point" to "farm" but can't find the g-spot.

Virgin Gamers watch porn, I produce porn and sometimes star in it.:biggrin1:

 

[Principessa]

I think the reason for the shortage of women on dating sites is that we're tired of encountering men like bonky, BIGDICKSMALLBALLS, Kayden96, minimag, and darkseid1998.

 

[poizen-ivy]

Sure, it was offensive, but he does make a valid point. Although, even cheese-smelling large women can get "action."

Even the most disgusting woman or gay man can get laid nearly any time they want, because there's always some horny dude out there that will oblige them.

I'm packing beef and I certainly don't smell like cheese. It also doesn't mean I am desperate. So as for horny men obliging.... I think it's reverse, I am picky as I don't fuck arsehole men.

What happened to sharing an experience with a person because you LIKE them!?
With mentalities like that, no wonder women get disheartened by men.

 

[minimag]

I think the reason for the shortage of women on dating sites is that we're tired of encountering men like bonky, BIGDICKSMALLBALLS, Kayden96, and darkseid1998.

Why do I feel like I have dodged a bullet? Hopefully you won't edit your post to add me to that list. :biggrin1:

 

[minimag]

I'm packing beef and I certainly don't smell like cheese. It also doesn't mean I am desperate. So as for horny men obliging.... I think it's reverse, I am picky as I don't fuck arsehole men.

What happened to sharing an experience with a person because you LIKE them!?
With mentalities like that, no wonder women get disheartened by men.

I didn't mean to imply that heavier people are desperate. I'm saying that, generally, if any woman wants some "action," there are people out there more than happy to oblige. There's a big difference between being "randy" and being desperate.

The same goes for gay/bi men. If you're just looking for some quick "action" there are plenty of people willing to oblige.

I don't have anything against people of size. I've met some women that were so warm and friendly, a simple smile would brighten your whole day. But, I've also met some women that were such absolutely repulsive heinous bitches they would make Medusa look sexy.

Personally, I do happen to like cheese, especially if it's chedder/colby/jack. :biggrin1:

 

[Pitbull]

I think the reason for the shortage of women on dating sites is that we're tired of encountering men like bonky, BIGDICKSMALLBALLS, Kayden96, minimag, and darkseid1998.

If I reactivated my dating site memberships would the number of women go up. ??? :wink:

 

[B_quietguy]

I'm packing beef and I certainly don't smell like cheese. It also doesn't mean I am desperate. So as for horny men obliging.... I think it's reverse, I am picky as I don't fuck arsehole men.

What happened to sharing an experience with a person because you LIKE them!?
With mentalities like that, no wonder women get disheartened by men.

Well Said! A lot of women get hit on for sex by clueless wannafucks every single day. They don't need online dating sites to find casual sex.

Like I said in an earlier post, if men want to know what it is like for women to get hit on all the time, they can walk past the street vendors in any major Asian city. The vendors block the paths of westerners, poke them several times, and shout at them to somehow convince them to buy cheap tourist kitsch. Saying "No!" just doesn't phase these vendors. They don't take "No!" for an answer. Going alone or with friends does not change their tactics. They won't leave you alone even if you surrounded by friends.

The vendors see westerners as walking money bags, not as people who just want to be left alone. Just like the arsehole men only see women as warm wet walking orifices, and not as other human beings. What I don't get is why these men lower themselves to lying, groveling, rudeness, or putting on airs. Do such men expect that such tactics will bedazzle women into hopping into bed with them? These are just the behaviors which guarantee such men won't get laid.

I'll stick with my honesty and kindness - not just as a tactic, and not only because I want a reputation for integrity and compassion - but because each person deserves honesty and kindness. I don't hit on people for sex. I don't have to. My friends know I am in an open relationship and have long term relationships with two very caring women. Those friends can see how I treat my partners, and they know if they want sex, they merely have to ask me. If they do ask, I merely check in with my partners. Sometimes I turn down requests because I think the person making it is a drama-queen or because I don't trust him or her. Usually though, I am happy to oblige.

This way of honesty and kindness means I get to share some delightful sex with close friends without having to worry if the act of sex means we have to be romantic partners now. It also means I can express emotional intimacy through sex with either of my partners.

 

[poizen-ivy]

...the arsehole men only see women as warm wet walking orifices, and not as other human beings. What I don't get is why these men lower themselves to lying, groveling, rudeness, or putting on airs. Do such men expect that such tactics will bedazzle women into hopping into bed with them? These are just the behaviors which guarantee such men won't get laid.

I think that's the problem. It's harder for women to find a man that also wants to share an EXPERIENCE rather than just RELEASE.

 

[whattheduck]

i've never been successful at finding a woman on craigslist. most of them are bots or flakes. i have had 2 successful m2m hookups on craiglist and a few others that were completely disgusting. it's a mixed bag that i've given up on for good. ugh.

 

[minimag]

I think that's the problem. It's harder for women to find a man that also wants to share an EXPERIENCE rather than just RELEASE.

If there was a "dating" site that was actually about "relationships" rather than "hook-ups," I'd give it a shot.

Sure, you might lump me in with the rest of the "wanna-fucks" but I never have, nor ever will send someone a message like that. I'm not even remotely desperate. Sure, I might say/do stupid annoying stuff, but when it comes down to it, I wouldn't have a physical relationship with a woman I wasn't married to. The only things I
like "on the side" are my options for lunch/dinner.

 

[B_Bonky]

oh honey, come on. 9 out of 10 are about 'relationships'. check out eharmony, match, etc. Vast majority of chicks on those sites are looking for relationships.

 

[minimag]

oh honey, come on. 9 out of 10 are about 'relationships'. check out eharmony, match, etc. Vast majority of chicks on those sites are looking for relationships.

I was a member of match.com for 7 bloody years. How many "meets" did that result in? One. Did she even bother to show up? Nope.

According to eHarmony, of the MILLIONS & MILLIONS of women in California, how many matched my "29 dimensions" of compatibility?? ZERO.

On Lavalife's relationship section, how many requests did I get for a "backstage pass" to see my photos? Quite a few. How many of the ladies deleted the pass within 5 minutes of seeing the photos (G-rated)? All of them.

Scroll back a few pages, you'll see a nice list of whom we can assume the "vast majority of chicks" are.

For the ladies that don't fit that list, and ARE looking for a REAL relationship, it's obviously not with me, hahaha.

And no, I wasn't always such a cynical-asshole, or was that asshole-cynic?

 

[D_Tina_Ciao]

Wow - been plowing through this thread and there certainly are a bunch of generalizations espoused. Anybody ever think - this is a purely *personal* issue? ONE particular man hooking up with ONE particular woman for that special chemistry, when all this other stuff wouldn't even matter or come into play? *sigh* Guess I'm just an old, hopeless romantic.

 

[B_Bonky]

I was a member of match.com for 7 bloody years. How many "meets" did that result in? One. Did she even bother to show up? Nope.

Well, whatever. But your failure doesn't mean that women are just looking to 'hook up' ... ?? I'm not seeing the logical nexus there.

 

[minimag]

Well, whatever. But your failure doesn't mean that women are just looking to 'hook up' ... ?? I'm not seeing the logical nexus there.

Um, Bonky, if that's who you really are today: dudes don't call other dudes "honey." That kind of creeped me out.

It's interesting to complain in a generalized way because people take it personally and get all bent out of shape.

Anyway, my "so called failure" has nothing to do with my views on people wanting to "hook-up." Most people these days are sex-crazed perverts. If they weren't, there wouldn't be such a problem with STDs. Too damn many couples are going for action "on the side." Too many husbands are bringing home diseases to their wives because they gave a BJ to someone from craigslist while the wife was minding the kids. And the wives bring home diseases because the wife felt (or was) ignored.

 

[Kayden96]

WOW, You're really fucking offensive.
Good luck with that.

I'm guessing you're fat? :tongue:

I thought women valued honesty? In my honest opinion, the women you find on dating sites are there because they're damaged goods, conventionally unattractive, and/or can't function properly in real social environments. Conversely, the last place any decent woman should look for "companionship" is online... unless she's on the Humane Society website looking for a dog. The overwhelming majority of guys on internet dating sites have had their brains removed. They are there because they want to get off with the least amount of effort possible. Click a button, ask "wanna fuck" or "hai, ur hawt" and move on to the next one.

I'm not saying everyone on a dating website is a pathetic loser, and it does work for some people. It's a lot like shopping at a used clothing store. Most of it is stained, stretched or torn and most anything decent is absurdly overpriced, but every now and then, you get that great pair of jeans for $2 that you had to fight free of the Somali guy that can't speak English.