The BEST teacher that I had in high school taught Biology; he was equally respected by students and colleagues and went on to become a principal at one of the top schools in town. He is gay, but not out. By contrast, the biggest perve of the teachers in high school was one of the gym teachers, who used to sit outside the showers sneaking peeks at the exiting students, ostensibly there to insure that we didn't steal the towels. He was a lousy teacher and a letch, but married. Teachers, and all people for that matter, should be measured by their contributions and character, not slandered by narrow minded ideology.
Isn't it a sad state of affairs that one needs to ask such a question in this day and age? Most civilized nations extend equal rights to all people regardless of sexual orientation, and here we are--the most wealthy and powerful nation in the world "spreading freedon in the mid-east"-- yet a significant portion of our population is still being subjugated! All perfectly legal, done in the name of "protecting" the majority (status quo.) Churches and conservatives want to "protect the sanctity of marriage," the military descriminates to "protect troop morale", the Boy Scouts want to "protect Scouts from homosexual pedophiles" and sadly many school districts descriminate too.
It is one of the most upsetting aspects of American society, and I equate it to the Civil Rights struggles for blacks back in the 60's. We all must keep voicing our outrage until the time comes when our Gay-Lesbian-Bisexual & transgendered brothers and sisters feel as free as the straights in our society, enjoying the same benefits and protections.
To the specific question: My thoughts are that a new gay teacher should be 'out' . Set a professional example for staff and students alike, and in time you will be respected for your abilities despite early whispers about your orientation. Teachers shape our young, and we should expect and encourage them to lead lives of integrity.
PattyPablo, my best wishes and heartfelt prayers go out to your friend.
Regardless of what decision he makes, he is doing one of the most important jobs that there is, and that should be applauded.
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