should i ask him?

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  1. trashy65

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    i am really thinking about asking my best friend to have sex with me but we are both married and i dont know how to approach him?
     
  2. GoneA

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    i vote no
     
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    so you dont think i should?
     
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    sounds like a perfect way to have an ex best friend. perhaps even an ex wife.
     
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    but man he's just so hott!!!
     
  6. GoneA

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    no, no i don't think you should
     
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    DARN IT!!! now you really are in a bind! liz claiborne would know what to do
     
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    No...he will tell your wife, then
    add two ex's to your list. :rolleyes:
     
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    Well. I see you found your 1% gay.

    Windytalker is right. It will just be a mess. And messes can get expensive especially when she cleans you out.

    Find yourself a different 1% gay if you are going to same sexiness with somebody while being 99% married.
     
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    Is this just an experiment of yours? What makes you think he wants to have sex with you in the first place? How do you think your going to entice him?

    Dude, there are just too many ways this can go wrong.

    What if you make your move, and this guy just laughs in your face..and keeps laughing? That's what I did the first time a friend of mine tried that, and he'll never admit, but, I think it hurt him a little. Changed things between us. What if he lets you down hard?

    Like ..:jester:..:nana:..:smashfreakB:..:laugh2:..or :drive: ...

    Are you ready for that, mister?
     
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    Yeah, are you guys close to begin with that you think there is a basis for this?
     
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    I have to agree... Here's why:

    #1 - You're waaaay too straight to be any good at it - and you'll be too nervous.
    #2 - He's probably waaaay too straight to not freak out when you bring it up.
    #3 - You'll ruin your marriage.
    #4 - You'll ruin his marriage.
     
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    [moderators, please delete this post]
     
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    I am just going to say NO.. it will save alot of time and trouble..
     
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    I would say No, if you were attracted to him before thats one thing, but now its too late, I had a friend decide after 10 years of friendship he wanted to do it, and it really put a strain on our friendship, mainly because of my non interest and the fact we were both in relationships, In my opinion its a bad idea and one that can lead to nothing but pain
     
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    Don't do it (cuts to footage of a train wreck in slow motion)
     
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    DON'T DO IT. i have been in your shoes. tried it , and it hurt our friendship. he told my wife i tried something with him. he and i were both drunk. not worth taking the chance. my marriage ended a few years later. now with partner for 21 years. just don't ruin your friendship.
     
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    ask him. and change that 99% straight percentage in your profile
     
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    Every few months this type of topic comes up and generally (even if the gay and straight ratios are reversed) the overwhelming answer is &#8220;NO.&#8221; I can't see anything in your post that would change that answer in your situation.
     
  20. GoneA

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    I think the orginal poster has, more than likely, come to a conclusion.
     
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