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Alright, this is sort of embarassing (or as embarassing as it can get for an anonymous chat forum), but I need to ask, because i'm really bothered by this lately. You see, i'm pretty far on the small side (5.25 x4.5 approximately), and I'm recently out of a long term relationship (3 years) and I'm hoping to one day try again. My problem is that I am absolutely petrified that any woman I am with will think I am inadequate and will be secretly disappointed.
I have had two girlfriends in my life, both for approximately three years. Neither of them seemed particularly bothered by lack of size. in fact, they both seemed to be quite in love with me. However, both women were virgins and had not been with any men before me. Therefore, I have convinced myself that the reason they were not disappointed was because they had no hard evidence (no pun intended) to measure me against.
So now, the probability of me dating someone with no experience at my age (23) is close to zero. Therefore I will be measured against former boyfriends. This scares me immensely. Without bragging in the slighest, I have a lot of things going for me (financially secure, in professional school, etc.) and I would not say that I am bad looking. So a lot of my female friends don't understand why I don't have more confidence and date more women. I think this post tells you why....
So my question to all you ladies is, would dating someone in my category be a big disappointment? I am on the shy side, so I'm definitely not into flings or one night stands or anything like that. I know I am not one night stand material, and I'm fine with that. But I do like committed, meaningful relationships, and I'm worried that if I don't get over this soon i'll be left behind or something and won't find someone else special.
So your honest opinions would be much appreciated. Thanks a lot.
MSD23
I have had two girlfriends in my life, both for approximately three years. Neither of them seemed particularly bothered by lack of size. in fact, they both seemed to be quite in love with me. However, both women were virgins and had not been with any men before me. Therefore, I have convinced myself that the reason they were not disappointed was because they had no hard evidence (no pun intended) to measure me against.
So now, the probability of me dating someone with no experience at my age (23) is close to zero. Therefore I will be measured against former boyfriends. This scares me immensely. Without bragging in the slighest, I have a lot of things going for me (financially secure, in professional school, etc.) and I would not say that I am bad looking. So a lot of my female friends don't understand why I don't have more confidence and date more women. I think this post tells you why....
So my question to all you ladies is, would dating someone in my category be a big disappointment? I am on the shy side, so I'm definitely not into flings or one night stands or anything like that. I know I am not one night stand material, and I'm fine with that. But I do like committed, meaningful relationships, and I'm worried that if I don't get over this soon i'll be left behind or something and won't find someone else special.
So your honest opinions would be much appreciated. Thanks a lot.
MSD23