Should i bring it up to her or no?

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  1. funtimeinbed

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    I have this fantasy, if you want to call it that, to watch my gf give a handjob or blowjob (possibly have sex) to another guy that has a big dick. I'm not small I'm a little over 7", and she always says how she thinks i'm big but I want her to see her with a bigger dick. We have been dating for a year now, I feel like it's too soon but i just want it to happen. I know once it happens i might not be ok with the idea after but everything is worth a try once right?
     
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    I hope you don't take this the wrong way man but some fantasies serve you best when left as just that. You might feel like it'll eat you up inside you want it so bad, but if you get it, you might end up eating yourself up inside on having destroyed a wonderful thing. And yes there's no way to tell until you try it, and try everything once, sure, but is it worth risking it? How important are both to you? answer that question and you have your answer...
     
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    I would recommend against bringing it up unless 1) you have some indication from her that she is open to the idea and 2) you feel more confident than you seem that the experience will not upset you and threaten your feelings for her.
     
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    First it sounds to me as if u probably would not be alright with it afterwards. Second, ask her what kind of fantasies she has and see if any are like this one. U may be better off leaving it alone.
     
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    U could bring it up....

    If it merely a fantasy it could remain just that...I mean u could possibly talk about it together and get off on it....

    IF she was open to making it a reality and u were too then u just gotta think about the huge implications if it goes wrong...

    I've never had a relationship with that type of 'openess' in it but of course it has crossed my mind...

    I think in order to indulge in those type of activities u would ideally need to be with ur partner quite a while and have a HUGE amount of trust in that person and only do it now and again...

    Probably why a lot of people who start swinging are that bit older, they've got to the point where they KNOW they want to be together and won't want to leave each other.

    Just a lot to consider really...
     
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    dude, don't let shit build up, if you can't be open with her then you need to just split
     
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    dont do it man. i would be worried she would wanna leave me for the huge guy you know. my jealousy would kick in, even though im fine with my size, you know? for your peace of mind, i wouldnt do it.
     
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    yea and thats why i haven't done it is some jealousy, we trust each other, since we have been friends for years, but for now i think i will hold off. maybe down the road or one drunk night (jk, but seriously). thanks for the input everybody :)
     
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    Here is an idea. Watch a porn together where the guy has a dick the size that you have in mind. Ask her in a playful way what she thinks of that.

    This way, it opens up the conversation and keeps it in the fantasy world. The seed is planted and the converstaion can mature over time.

    Just becareful what you wish for. She may just like it and leave your "little" 7 incher behind for the Pandora's box you opened up.
     
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    People do have this fantasy. However, finding a cock significantly bigger than 7 in. (i.e. 8.5+) is another challenge by itself.

    Maybe you should ask her in a semi-joking manner? "How would you like a bigger cock" or something like that?
     
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    It was said by a previous poster: be carefull opening Pandora's box. All sort's of crap pop out of that box. Invariably totally unforseen consequences.
     
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    Yes, but at the bottom of Pandora's box... was hope.


    ...I guess I don't really know what that would be analogous to in this situation.
     
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    go for it
     
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    I say do it.

    I have some crazy fantasies that I don't know if I really want to happen and with my current partner are very unlikely to happen. But after I talk to him about them I always get so worked up and we have the most amazing sex.
     
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    yea but laura, i could be wrong here but i think it is easier for a girl to bring up a fantasy to a guy then a guy to bring it up to a girl. Most guys will go along with girls fantasies where guys fantasies but offend a girl or catch her way off guard to get her mad. This is my personal opinion but I feel like its easier for a girl to bring it up. I'm gonna hold off for now and one day when i think its the right time i'm just gonna let it out :)
     
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    I have always been very honest in my relationships. I figure if I cant be open with a guy why be with him? I am curious though why a man who is 100% straight would want to see her with a big fat dick? I mean, if you like the idea there are hundreds of guys here who would stroke it for you on webcam. I'm not trying to be sarcastic...Im just saying who's fantasy is this, if it's not hers then pursue it on your own. I wouldnt have any problem with it, personally, but I'm pretty open minded.
     
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    I can't believe you would even think about proposing this when you yourself are still ambivalent about it. Until you are sure that you'll be fine about it afterward I wouldn't. Settle that question first.
     
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    What he said 100%
     
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    If this is not a fantasy that the two of you share, then drop it. You can find hot chicks taking big dicks all over the internet. Why risk your personal relationship? It sounds like you are well able to satisfy her, so don't worry about that. This is a perfect example for the old saying "If it ain't broke, don't fix it".
     
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    EXACTLY!!!!!!!! if you are with some one who have to lie to to, unless they are blind or some how retarded, how can you ever expect to keep a lie going for any length of time? 99.9999% of women do NOT care enough about penis size to keep or leave a partner over it, my penis is a stack of oil drums compared to the loser my ex just left me for, it has NOTHING to do with penis size..... and if some how she's one of the ones who would.... trust me man you're better off now than later down the road. what you have to ask yourself is

    a). can you trust her?
    b). would she do the same for you if it were reversed?
    c). when she dose make a diffrent moan or noise, will you be bothered?

    if the answer to any one of these is no, then forget it, and if the answer to (A) is ANYTHING but a die hard hell yeah, don't let it get serious
     
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