Should i expose this guy i was fucking?

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Basically there's this guy I've been fucking for a few years now while he was on and off with his boyfriend. Supposedly they've been "on" for a year now but he would call me over while his boyfriend was away

Anyway, he just pissed me off and I'm at a point now where I'm very tempted to DM his bf on Instagram with all of the proof that I have of him being cheated on. I know that it's petty but I want to hear from others how petty they think it is before I do it
 

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Basically there's this guy I've been fucking for a few years now while he was on and off with his boyfriend. Supposedly they've been "on" for a year now but he would call me over while his boyfriend was away

Anyway, he just pissed me off and I'm at a point now where I'm very tempted to DM his bf on Instagram with all of the proof that I have of him being cheated on. I know that it's petty but I want to hear from others how petty they think it is before I do it
Do it, you're already a idiot haha
 

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I think you need to sort your life out rather than think of ways to fuck up someone elses.

Your reaction is not putting your own future and well being first. You know your suggestion is petty and wrong. It wont make you feel better about yourself. It will only make you feel toxic and unloveable. Be a good person, do the right thing and move on with your future.
 

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Basically there's this guy I've been fucking for a few years now while he was on and off with his boyfriend. Supposedly they've been "on" for a year now but he would call me over while his boyfriend was away

Anyway, he just pissed me off and I'm at a point now where I'm very tempted to DM his bf on Instagram with all of the proof that I have of him being cheated on. I know that it's petty but I want to hear from others how petty they think it is before I do it

Fucking a guy (or girl) who you believe to be unattached is one thing; doing it with someone who you know is already in a relationship makes you equally complicit / equally in the wrong.
 

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Basically there's this guy I've been fucking for a few years now while he was on and off with his boyfriend. Supposedly they've been "on" for a year now but he would call me over while his boyfriend was away

Anyway, he just pissed me off and I'm at a point now where I'm very tempted to DM his bf on Instagram with all of the proof that I have of him being cheated on. I know that it's petty but I want to hear from others how petty they think it is before I do it

Karma's a bitch! Just move on....
 
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Monogamous gay men are like celibate Catholic priests. Hypocrites and untrustworthy.

I'd tell his partner the truth.
 
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As many have said. Just let it go and let it be a lesson. I can understand the hurt but don't hurt the boyfriend, who is innocent in all this. Hurting the boy friend will not lessen your pain. It will only hurt him.
 
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Telling the truth could actually save the boyfriend. If someone is fucking around behind their partners back they probably are doing other shit as well that is harming the innocent partner.
 

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Telling the truth could actually save the boyfriend. If someone is fucking around behind their partners back they probably are doing other shit as well that is harming the innocent partner.
The difference here is "could" versus "will".

If he just moves on, there's the issue of maybe the boyfriend gets hurt by other acts, maybe he doesn't.

If he tells, he definitely hurts the boyfriend.
 
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The difference here is "could" versus "will".

If he just moves on, there's the issue of maybe the boyfriend gets hurt by other acts, maybe he doesn't.

If he tells, he definitely hurts the boyfriend.

The boyfriend gets hurt either way. It's a choice being the messenger or being one of the unknown sluts the boyfriend will always hate without knowing.
 
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Telling the truth could actually save the boyfriend. If someone is fucking around behind their partners back they probably are doing other shit as well that is harming the innocent partner.

If I were the boyfriend, I would want to know...and it would end the relationship, and make me even more bitter and jaded. Any decision you make should not come from your anger...it's a tough situation, sorry you find yourself in such a spot.
 

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OP, you changed your story.

In the beginning, you said:

"Basically there's this guy I've been fucking for a few years now while he was on and off with his boyfriend. Supposedly they've been "on" for a year now but he would call me over while his boyfriend was away

Anyway, he just pissed me off and I'm at a point now where I'm very tempted to DM his bf on Instagram with all of the proof that I have of him being cheated on. I know that it's petty but I want to hear from others how petty they think it is before I do it"

Then, in a follow up post you said this:

"It is shitty but it's also something I wasn't even aware of until much later... in fact that's kinda the reason why I'm pissed"

You were fully aware that he was "on" with his boyfriend while you were fucking him. So what changed to piss you off?

My guess, and this is only a guess, he decided that he wanted to be faithful to his boyfriend and is breaking it off with you. That's my guess on why you are pissed off. So, following that logic, you want to get back at him by telling the entire world, via the boyfriends instagram and pictures (I'm presuming) that you've been fucking his boyfriend.

Basically, "If I can't have you, I'll make sure HE can't have you, too!"

It's a crap move on your part and shows the world just how untrustworthy and unhonorable you are.

However, as someone who has been cheated on, I would rather know that the man whom is supposed to be monogamous to me, isn't. Regardless of where the information is coming from, as long as it's credible information.

Take this as you will. You've already demonstrated your talent as a home wrecker.

Sklar
 

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The boyfriend gets hurt either way. It's a choice being the messenger or being one of the unknown sluts the boyfriend will always hate without knowing.
If the only hurtful thing is this affair, if the OP walks away and the boyfriend doesn't discover it, he isn't hurt.

We aren't in a position to know of other transgressions, and speculation isn't proof.

These revenge disclosures only hurt innocent people. The other guy is a shit, so he's rather immune to being hurt in this way. He'll move on to other hookups. The innocent boyfriend doesn't deserve to be hurt by this. By walking away there's still a chance he'll be spared the emotional gutpunch. By telling, he'll definitely be hurt.

I know this from experience on both sides of the situation. "Blissfully ignorant" would've been far better imho.