Should I give my wife a big one?

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Not quite sure how my signature implies risk taking. You yourself said it implies risk taking. So you do admit there is a risk.

I don't have a 20 year history with a woman or a man for that matter. I do know that if I was happy with a partner for that long of a time period, sexually and otherwise, that we could follow my signature TOGETHER if we are already wearing ourselves out and having one helluva ride. There is too much potential of losing more than they gain and my signature implies have a great time with your life so when that day finally does come you can look back and say what a life I had. It does not imply RISK, at least a risk such as this one.
 

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why not engage in a PE program yourself? most guys can gain an inch in both dimensions in about 6 months. I did. my wife and I had been together for 11 yrs when our second child was born. while she was pregnant, sex became too uncomfortable. I started jelqing and stretches, edging, clamping. I thought I had gotten bigger, and after we resumed our sex life, my wife noticed the difference immediately. I thought it was because she wasn't accustomed to it, but that wasn't the case. I even mentioned that she just had lost familiarity with my cock. But no, she insisted it was bigger. In fact, she thought I had been screwing around, mainly with the hot slut that lived across the street. I finally admitted I had done some penis enlargement exercises. Her response..."please don't make it any bigger, it's so fat now...I reallly like it, not that I didn't like it before." Over the next few months, she turned into a little nympho, and my cock received a lot of attention. I think it got even bigger during that process. my base girth is a little over 6.50", and sure there's bigger but not many.
 

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"Should I give my wife a big one?"

It depends..... why don`t you ask her if she is willing to let you enjoy yourself as well with another woman while she has her way with her well hung stud, its only fair after all no? Or are you yourself not interested at all in indulging yourself with someone else while she has her fun with another man?

If I were you I would ask her as a test if nothing else if she would consent to you also indulging yourself in a fantasy of yours, if she agrees to that then I think you two could make this kind of lifestyle work since it shows that she isn`t being completely selfish and is also interested in you enjoying yourself as well.

Like you she may and probably would be insecure and wonder what if the other woman gets you off more than she does, but thats where the trust part of the relationship comes into play, if you two truly love each other and are only looking for a bit of fun on the side occasionally with each others consent then I think your gonna be fine.

Just keep the lines of communication open at all times, and if something is bothering you mention it immediately, don`t wait as that only builds up resentment and stress so bring it up right away and talk about it to resolve the issue, I cannot stress this last part enough. Whatever you decide good luck to you, and I hope it all works out for the best.
 

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Stephen: Your points are valid, absolutely. You're right, we're quite happy. And this does involve risk. You and PerfectlySexy offer great opposing POVS. That's helpful. At this point, we're wondering how much of a risk it is. Of course she's going to like it and of course it's going to be more stimulating - it's two guys! (remember I'm going to be just as involved as Mr. Other Guy). And, sure, his larger size will probably be a real treat. But when the two of us discuss this, she says it would be shallow of her to go running to another guy for keeps just because of his size. She seems offended by the concept, which is pretty convincing to me that I don't have anything to worry about. Still, we have soul-searching to do. The good thing is, we're not in a hurry on this. We don't plan on rushing.

625: I have absolutely no desire to try any kind of PE programs. I don't feel any need whatsoever to do that. I'm not terribly insecure about it in the first place. Sure, sometimes it's fun to imagine what it would be like to be as lucky as some of the guys here, but it's only a fleeting wank-off fantasy. It is what it is. I've had a mountain of fun over the years with what God gave me. No need to change it.

Boxingman: The short answer to your question is: Yes, she would permit a threesome with another woman. She's already said she's up for multiple-partner sex with either gender. Right now, we just don't know any women we would want to invite, but we do know a guy, so that's why we're looking at a MFM first. We really do not want to go the stranger route. We don't plan on fucking all of our best friends, but we would at least like to make acquaintences out of people before we invite them into the bedroom.

Thanks to everyone for their input so far. This is very helpful.
 

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its hard for me to answer because I am biased. i lived the cuckold lifestyle in pretty extreme ways and it is something that works for my wife and I

so on one hand - I would say GO FOR IT

however, this lifestyle is not for everyone and what seems like a really not idea, once enacted, isn't always so.

my one caution would be the friend part - maybe, especially the first time, use a well-screened stranger. using someone you (and/or her) interact with on a regular basis "a friend since high school" could add yet even more complications and dynamics.
 

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Cuck: Thanks. Our interests lie more with general threesomes than cuckoldry. We would all be active participants, not just the two of them.

This friend is fairly close in terms of how long we've known him. We've known him several years, but not since high school, as you indicated in your post. It's my wife I've known since high school, as I said in my OP. We absolutely do not interact with him on a daily basis or even regularly, however. He and I used to work together, but not anymore. Now, we live an hour away from him. We're still friends, but we don't see each other often at all (for months at a time). I think it's been something like six months or more since I've actually seen him in person. Yes, he's a friend. But he has a large amount of distance (I don't mean just physical distance here) from us. But despite that distance, I still trust him and know him well.

We just can't go the stranger route. She doesn't want to fuck someone she doesn't at least know a little bit and I can't trust even the most well-screened stranger. Sure, if this is something we pursue over a long period of time, we might find ways of meeting new people. But they will become acquaintances and friends before the subject of sex is ever broached.
 

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For what it's worth, I was "the other guy" with a couple who I was friends with. The situation you describe sounds very similar, outside of the size differential, I was close to double my friend's length and about 50% thicker. He arranged for me to come over and fuck his wife while he watched. No suprises in the planning, but she got into my fucking her even more than my friend had ever thought she would. They wound up getting divorced not long after that. I felt like shit and swore never to do anything like that with married friends again. So think long and hard about whether you really want to go down this road.
 

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It seems people above list all the POSSIBLE positive outcomes. Without going into a long spiel, I'll simply say you and your wife seem very happy both in and out of bed. Why POSSIBLY ruin that?

...Think it through is all I can say. Personally, I wouldn't do it if I were in your shoes. But then again, I am not in your shoes.

Dear Mr. Bulletbob;

Ever hear of Murphy's Law?
 

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And, sure, his larger size will probably be a real treat. But when the two of us discuss this, she says it would be shallow of her to go running to another guy for keeps just because of his size. She seems offended by the concept, which is pretty convincing to me that I don't have anything to worry about.

I think this is a VERY important point. And for a little perspective: would a man leave his wife just because he found someone with a tighter pussy or nicer breasts? It IS a shallow concept, and the only people who leave their spouses for a nicer body part of someone else are those who had serious problems in the marriage in the first place

For people in a secure, loving marriage, the concept that the wife is going to leave her husband for a bigger dick seems borne out the general insecurity that alot of men have about their cock size and not based a whole lot in reality
 

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At.your.cervix: On the surface, your post seems to be the most alarming so far. You have direct experience in a similar situation that had a worst-case-scenario outcome. Still, you don't provide much context. Why did your friends divorce, specifically? Was it because she realized bigger was better and she needed a permanent mate with a large cock (very shallow of her if she had valued her marriage up to that point)? Was it because she enjoyed it more than he thought she should (stupid on his part because there's always someone out there who can make her scream louder). It sounds to me like she reacted in a natural way and he just couldn't deal. I'm going to need more specifics of that situation, otherwise I'm just letting my imagination run wild. Hey, I had friends who were swingers who got divorced. They got divorced because of money, not because they were fucking other people.

Pitbull: Sure, I've heard of it. If you're talking about Murphy's Law as it applies to the second law of thermodynamics, then it doesn't apply to my situation. If you're referring to Muprhy's Law as the old adage, then it's just that - an old adage. They don't always apply across the board and they get twisted so much over the years that they mean absolutely nothing. In fact, Murphy's original statement was "If there is any way to do it wrong, he will" and he was talking about an inept technician.

Madison: Your post makes sense. That insecurity usually is never based in reality. In fact, a lot of guys' perceptions of their cocks, big and small, are probably skewed.
 

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This Murphy

Murphy's law is typically stated as:

"Anything that can go wrong will go wrong".
 

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Pit: Yep, that's the same one I was talking about. And that's not what the guy orginally said. As usual, it was twisted over the years into nothing more than a saying. Do you think Mark Twain's actual words were "Reports of my demise were greatly exaggerated?" No, he actually said something quite different originally and it got twisted over the years.

Murphy's Law really only applies to the second law of thermodynamics. Other than that, it's just an old adage. It's not actually true, you know. ;) If you have some real advice, some personal experience or anything else, please feel free to post it. Half-baked philosophy and rhetoric isn't going to help me decide if my wife and I should have sex with a third party. Need to put more thought than that into it.
 

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DONT DO IT... I am the biggest my girlfriend has ever had and she worships me for giving her the best sex she's experienced... You're there with her on the day to day grind... don't let some outsider screw it up for you. Do a threesome with a girl who isn't as hot as your wife and leave it at that :D
 

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At.your.cervix: On the surface, your post seems to be the most alarming so far. You have direct experience in a similar situation that had a worst-case-scenario outcome. Still, you don't provide much context. Why did your friends divorce, specifically? Was it because she realized bigger was better and she needed a permanent mate with a large cock (very shallow of her if she had valued her marriage up to that point)? Was it because she enjoyed it more than he thought she should (stupid on his part because there's always someone out there who can make her scream louder). It sounds to me like she reacted in a natural way and he just couldn't deal. I'm going to need more specifics of that situation, otherwise I'm just letting my imagination run wild. Hey, I had friends who were swingers who got divorced. They got divorced because of money, not because they were fucking other people.

OK a little more context. My guess is that they divorced because of a whole shitload of things. Not that it was a wildly bad marriage when we had that night together, but they did have some rough spots over the years. That said, I'm also sure that from a pure sexual side, the dick size thing did matter here. My friend was really small. I mean really small. The first time I saw him in the locker room in college (I was an undergrad and he was a grad student) it looked like all he had was a pair of balls hanging from a tuft of hair. The night I fucked his wife, he was beating off with a hardon which at best was maybe 4" long and thin as well. At the start, he was getting off, literally, to watching me fuck his wife. And after she got used to me being all the way inside of her (she was a very petite woman less than 5' tall), she started cumming like crazy. I mean this woman was almost insane with passion. We wound up fucking each other like animals for quite some time and I forgot about my friend until I saw him crying. That sort of ended things quickly. Talk about feeling like a shit--it didn't matter that it was originally his idea. Anyhow, it was only a couple of weeks until they seperated. Again, I don't think it was just her craving something a bit bigger between her man's legs which broke them up, but I do feel it was that night of my fucking her which acted as a catalyst to their break-up. For what it's worth, after they seperated, she did ask me if we could get together again, but I declined as I couldn't do that to a friend, even though she truly was an absolutely amazing little fuck. And last, he and I never really hung out together after that any more. Not a very happy ending for anyone, sad to say.