Should i go for it?

[Frosted Tips]

Hello everyone. I'm gay, and there's a super hot "straight" guy in one of my classes. He's the typical "bro" type jock, with a nice body, and seems to be well hung by the bulge he flonts. He's made a few advances on me, but I can't tell if they're jokes or not, and I don't know if I should go for it, and see if we could be together. He's hit my ass a few times, in a bro "we just won the football game" type deal, but has also called me cute a few times. He's said that I looked cute in my outfit, and would look cute in makeup. He even made a joke saying "Will likes men" and (as a closeted man) I replied "You wish" and he said "You are looking pretty cute", and he doesn't do this to any other guys or girls in the class. But on the negatives he sometimes uses gay as an insult, but I think that just means he's deep in the closet, hoping to sustain his "macho straight dude" look. Should I got for it?

 

[Frosted Tips]

Ask him to go grab a drink (if you're over 21, you didn't state your age) or whatever interests he has that you would like to do.
Let him make the first move, when he does make it memorable.
If you have a pool invite him for a swim.
Be creative.
Go for it!

Thank you. I can't legally drink, but maybe we can hang out at his place or mine. Thank you!

 

[rayray]

Sounds like a school boys crush . You didn't mention what type of class . Is it acting...dance or English class? I asked because you mentioned otfit and makeup .How long has this flirting been going on ? Most straight guys aren't going to tell another guy he looks cute .You never know..Prom season is just around the corner .

 

[OKCLane]

Advance with great care and caution.
I would wait until the end of the semester so you’re not in class with someone who might be adversarial.
You might see if he would like to study together for the final. You could also say you enjoyed having a class together and ask if he’d like to hang out sometime.

 

[englad]

I can see why you're tempted, but this really could go sour. Plus the thing about fantasies is the reality doesn't always match up.

It sounds like he is a traditional straight guy with the traditional straight guy sexual hang ups. The problem with those sorts of guys is they aren't very likely to come into the experience without an open mind, so he may well have boundaries galore. And that literally could be all kinds of shit from no kissing, to no oral, to no wanking to no fucking, depending on what you'd be up for.

 

[hvdude]

Hmmmm. If you can, pull him aside and simply say, "Hey look. I don't know whether you're kidding or teasing or whatever, but when you call me cute or say that I look cute it really makes me uncomfortable. I don't know if that's your intent but I wanted to let you know how I feel." Now I know it doesn't make you uncomfortable, but you are really letting him know that you hear what he is saying. The ball is then in his court. He then has a couple of options: Apologize and say he was just kidding. Tell you to get over it and grow some balls. Tell you that he didn't mean to hurt your feelings but that he really does think you're cute. If he apologizes, accept his apology and move on. If he berates you, then you have your (unfortunate) answer. If he says he thinks you're cute, then refer to englad's comment above. The last thing you want is to mess around with this guy only to have him turn around and tell everyone.

 

[erpap]

Watch out for your safety! If you don’t know him well, you don’t really know his intentions.

 

[Frosted Tips]

Sounds like a school boys crush . You didn't mention what type of class . Is it acting...dance or English class? I asked because you mentioned otfit and makeup .How long has this flirting been going on ? Most straight guys aren't going to tell another guy he looks cute .You never know..Prom season is just around the corner .

It's homeroom. We we're looking into electives and there was one that involved makeup (I go to a weird school) and he suggested I do it because he said I look cute.

 

[Frosted Tips]

I can see why you're tempted, but this really could go sour. Plus the thing about fantasies is the reality doesn't always match up.

It sounds like he is a traditional straight guy with the traditional straight guy sexual hang ups. The problem with those sorts of guys is they aren't very likely to come into the experience without an open mind, so he may well have boundaries galore. And that literally could be all kinds of shit from no kissing, to no oral, to no wanking to no fucking, depending on what you'd be up for.

Okay thank you

 

[Frosted Tips]

Update: Today we went on this class wide trip. He called me gay again, and I once again said "I mean yeah, I'd date you". He also told me he'd add me on Snapchat and no one else, which really likely means nothing, but could mean something. All the guys were also using this heating vent thing in the bathroom, and it was only me and him in the bathroom. He took a pee in front of me, at a place where I obviously could've seen his cock. I decided I didn't want to, in case he wasn't gay, but I feel like it might've been him tempting me idk. That's the udate for today. Thank you guys!

 

[Frosted Tips]

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Update: Today we went on this class wide trip. He called me gay again, and I once again said "I mean yeah, I'd date you". He also told me he'd add me on Snapchat and no one else, which really likely means nothing, but could mean something. All the guys were also using this heating vent thing in the bathroom, and it was only me and him in the bathroom. He took a pee in front of me, at a place where I obviously could've seen his cock. I decided I didn't want to, in case he wasn't gay, but I feel like it might've been him tempting me idk. That's the udate for today. Thank you guys!

Typed that wrong. I said "you wish" and he said "yeah I'd date you". Sorry about that

 

[Brodie888]

Update: Today we went on this class wide trip. He called me gay again, and I once again said "I mean yeah, I'd date you". He also told me he'd add me on Snapchat and no one else, which really likely means nothing, but could mean something. All the guys were also using this heating vent thing in the bathroom, and it was only me and him in the bathroom. He took a pee in front of me, at a place where I obviously could've seen his cock. I decided I didn't want to, in case he wasn't gay, but I feel like it might've been him tempting me idk. That's the udate for today. Thank you guys!

Are his comments/jokes for everyone around you to hear or is it just to you?

 

[englad]

Update: Today we went on this class wide trip. He called me gay again, and I once again said "I mean yeah, I'd date you". He also told me he'd add me on Snapchat and no one else, which really likely means nothing, but could mean something. All the guys were also using this heating vent thing in the bathroom, and it was only me and him in the bathroom. He took a pee in front of me, at a place where I obviously could've seen his cock. I decided I didn't want to, in case he wasn't gay, but I feel like it might've been him tempting me idk. That's the udate for today. Thank you guys!

It's possible he is man. And what I'd just say is, use that attention to feel great about yourself and build up your own confidence further. If he wants to make a move, then consider it of course. If you do happen to get to that stage have a good chat with him, establish the boundaries and what you personally want to experience, given his identity it probably would be a good idea to go on a principle of explicit consent (i.e. asking for consent at each new stage of sex).

But don't make the first move because it might go sour. And also you are gonna have lovely other sexual experiences with other men where the attraction to you is blatant and they will come into the experience looking for a wonderful time.

Also if you can do, try to analyse the experience with a rational lens too, sometimes the emotional lens can make us believe what we want to believe

 

[Frosted Tips]

Are his comments/jokes for everyone around you to hear or is it just to you?

I'm the only person he calls cute and says he would date. He calls lots of people gay, but has made a special effort in the past few days to priavtely be with me.

 

[Frosted Tips]

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It's possible he is man. And what I'd just say is, use that attention to feel great about yourself and build up your own confidence further. If he wants to make a move, then consider it of course. If you do happen to get to that stage have a good chat with him, establish the boundaries and what you personally want to experience, given his identity it probably would be a good idea to go on a principle of explicit consent (i.e. asking for consent at each new stage of sex).

But don't make the first move because it might go sour. And also you are gonna have lovely other sexual experiences with other men where the attraction to you is blatant and they will come into the experience looking for a wonderful time.

Also if you can do, try to analyse the experience with a rational lens too, sometimes the emotional lens can make us believe what we want to believe

Thank you.

 

[Brodie888]

I'm the only person he calls cute and says he would date. He calls lots of people gay, but has made a special effort in the past few days to priavtely be with me.

I meant when he says these things, are you the only one who hears him say it or does everyone around you hear it too?

 

[Frosted Tips]

I meant when he says these things, are you the only one who hears him say it or does everyone around you hear it too?

Other people are around, but he says them to me.

 

[Brodie888]

Other people are around, but he says them to me.

To me, that says you aren't the target audience for the comments. The target audience is the other people around. He is either demonstrating dominance over you or he's taking pride at the fact that he knows your "dirty little secret" and wants other people to know that he knows.

If he said those things in private, that would be a different story.

 

[Frosted Tips]

To me, that says you aren't the target audience for the comments. The target audience is the other people around. He is either demonstrating dominance over you or he's taking pride at the fact that he knows your "dirty little secret" and wants other people to know that he knows.

If he said those things in private, that would be a different story.

Yeah, Idk. Maybe it's bias, and my brain subconsciously wanting him to like me, but he doesn't seem like a person that would do that. It's typically worked into our conversations, and it's when I point out that "I'm not gay" that he brings up that he thinks I'm cute/wants to date me.

 

[Frosted Tips]

To me, that says you aren't the target audience for the comments. The target audience is the other people around. He is either demonstrating dominance over you or he's taking pride at the fact that he knows your "dirty little secret" and wants other people to know that he knows.

If he said those things in private, that would be a different story.

And it is in our conversations, he says it out loud (not in private) but he says he wants to date me to me, he doesn't tell other people he wants to date me.